AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

He has set a new trend. I like it. Congratulations 🥂

I drinkably asked dp to marry me in his kitchen! Woke up the following morning and hangover hit and I thought 'opps bet he can't remember!' 2 days later he asked if I could remember the question I asked him, so being red faced I said yes, and he said thank God I thought you were drunk and I've already told my mum we're getting married! 😂

It's not all grand gestures and IG photos!!

Frankly, if I were your fiance and read this, I'd be having second thoughts.

I got engaged nearly 30 years ago. No photos or videos and I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else there at that moment. I can clearly remember every tiny detail of the proposal.

I cant imagine how you would even stage it with someone taking photos.

But you said it was to share with your friends?

Imagine if she said no! The photographer would have to make a sad trumpet noise and melt back into the shrub.

You what? Who does this?

😂

As long as he didn’t make a sad trump noise.

I said the same to my DH and I'm lucky he got a passerby to film it, under the guise of me thinking it was just going to be a photo! However I have only watched the video a couple of times since and that happened about 8 years ago.

I understand it's disappointing not to have it but you should be in no way embarrassed, most people only have a couple of photos that they take after it happened and that is totally fine

Two weeks after a proposal and that's your main thought. Poor bloke.

Imagine a chap setting up an elaborate proposal with a photographer and their partner says no! Do you still get the video/photos?

A friend of DH’s proposed to his girlfriend and she was so taken by surprise her response was ‘I need to think about it’. Went to have a lie down and then said yes. Would the photographer have to have hung around for response 😂

This is too much pressure for partners, they must be nervous enough without having their nerves recorded.
Such a private moment should be cherished for exactly that, it's sweet beautiful love between 2 people.
You could have taken photos after to remember the event.

It’s the ‘Insta it or it didn’t happen’ world.

Photos was the last thing I was thinking about, why on earth is this the most important bit?

This is batshit. Can’t be real. Must be for some media thing.

If it’s real, don’t marry this poor man OP. You have incompatible values about privacy and relationships

Ha ha this is hysterical. What is going on with the world. We took a selfie of us both smiling, windswept (as on top of a hill), no makeup, in walking gear! It’s my favourite photo of us. Why on earth you would want a video / professional photo of a personal moment is so strange to me. Would you have really wanted a stranger there watching you???

Like those awful YouTube videos of someone proposing in the middle of the court at some big US basketball final with MARRY ME, MARIE? on the scoreboard, and the woman looks shocked and runs off the court and the home team mascot, standing on the sidelines, puts his furry paws over his eyes.

I fear for the future ( on many levels)

How is it possible to actually be this shallow?

Maybe it didn’t. Tree falling in the forest if no one hearts it etc etc.

Mind you, if the bloke saw what his vacuous fiancée was posting on the internet, he might take a hike, I suppose…?

A proposal is a private moment between 2 people. By all means celebrate the news but were you expecting a cameraman on site to record it? Or set up for a selfie?
Much better to just love the person who wants to spend their life with you!

What if he had arranged something. Would you be upset that you had no warning and didn't have a chance to get made up and dressed properly?

surely he could have used whoever he is planning on using for the wedding night