AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

I’ll be fine - he knows he’s punching so will be on best behaviour to keep me happy x

I don’t know anyone who has done it, so no idea 🤷🏻‍♀️

Soz, not my fault you are jealous 😘

Of course they have, he clearly can’t be arsed to organise anything himself and pay for it….

Get them to also book the photographer!

He’s not though is he? He’s explicitly ignored what you said would make you happy. Sorry your bar is obviously in the gutter

Yeah, I wish I was embarrassed of my man

😂

But he wasn’t and hasn’t! I
mean the proposal was so poor, you’ve fled to an online forum in disappointment.

Its doomed!

no one is jealous.

why won't you say how old you are?

I feel sorry for you. You've got a shock coming. Please don't bet pregnant.

You are the one who's punching btw.

It’s different because this wasn’t just her moment, it was his too. He probably had ideas around how his proposal would go and what it would look like, and he may not have wanted someone there photographing it. He’s entitled to an opinion on it too.

Exactly, I’m not jealous at all because my proposal was perfect for me. Why would I be jealous of someone who is disappointed about how they were proposed to?! It’s not something to aspire to.

A proposal is for the woman’s benefit. Let’s be honest.

I don't think you understand what marriage entails. It's not about your husband being on his best behaviour. It's how you can both support each other through the hardest times. Are you going to be a supportive partner when his parents die, when he gets cancer and can no longer work? It's choosing someone who you know will be there through all the bad stuff as well as the good, and all the money in the world or the "perfect instagram pics" can't save you when you're going through the hardest of times.

But it’s the man that should make the proposal the way the woman wants? Honestly, he’s not punching or doesn’t feel he is, he’s not listening to your needs.

I don’t have instagram. Why can so many of you not read?

This is what social media has done to the world, so sad that you can’t just enjoy the moment and soak up the feeling of joy that you have been proposed to by someone you love, you’re too busy being disappointed that he didn’t arrange a photographer. Poor bloke.
The only person around when DH proposed was my horse, it was perfect.

Was that info in one of your deleted posts maybe?

With this kind of attitude, it's pretty clear that the marriage won't last.

But perhaps you won't care as long as you can extract as much material benefit from the arrangement as possible?

I pity the poor man. It seems that he has chosen very unwisely.

It's so odd that from my response - the fact I used the word Instagram is what you cling to. How are you going to react if he gets cancer, dementia, issues that mean he can't use the toilet independently? You seem very very shallow and you don't seem to care for your partner at all.

Word of advice for your fiance "run" before it's too late, don't get married as your life will be hell.

If this is real, and I doubt it is, then I hope he gets a watertight prenup.

Well the OP here could be consistent with the DP from a year ago, who didn’t post anything about that OP’s birthday on his Insta.

That OP (from a year ago) had a big Insta of her own whereas @KatieHW denies using socials. Otherwise everything matches.

It isn’t likely that @KatieHW had a DH a year ago Mother’s Day. I too remember the more thread about the new-ish BF who cooked a meal the rather cringe OP derided. That thread was too recent to fit with this one.

So possibly OP has only the two threads. But the similarities across all four are indeed uncanny. What do we think?

😂

I have some questions for you, OP.

Do his parents know your worth ie have they put a price on your head (something that usually happens to hostages)?
What is your understanding of the importance of financial independence for women?
Can you give us some examples of forgiveness you have received from DP?

If you are genuine, you are continuing to present yourself as shallow. The laughing emoji after 'his parents mainly' is particularly disturbing. A message of sincere thanks wouldn't go amiss.

They're all made up, it's rage bait. The 'date' from the 3 course meal was also 'punching above'. It's all bull shit.