AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

Plans for wedding is to have a royal wedding in Taj Mahal. Fiancée has written to Indian authorities to get a special permission 😊

Wow and he didn’t get a personal photographer to follow you?! Get your head out of your bum!

This is nuts. Do people really want a photographer lurking around like paparazzi to document a deeply private moment as if they were acting on a film set? How utterly embarrassing and vacuous.

No that’s not good enough.

Really there should be a full reenactment, with friends, family and photographers. Every year

I am firmly middle aged so my first thought was that hiring a photographer in Rome would be a bit of a palaver.

Can't believe how shallow people have become. The photo is now more important than the event.

I’ve found it’s pretty common to get a photographer, so yes, people do want the moment captured. It’s not for everyone, but I understand why some people would like to have one.

It’s also not really like having paparazzi following you, it’s one photographer for a few photos and they might form part of a few people milling around anyway (e.g if a dinner was organised as the proposal setting, then waiters might be around or other diners, or if you’re somewhere public like a park then other members of the public might be walking by)

A private moment with a selfie afterwards showing the happy couple and the ring. Distribute to family and friends. Post on SM if desperate.

This poster again, the 'need to know your worth ladies' poster. She had a thread recently pretending the new boyfriend was getting dumped because of a 'terrible' 3 course meal he made her. It's all bullshit.

That's the same poster?? Actually, that kind of figures tbh.

you don’t sound mature enough to be married

Why? And so far I've not seen how old she is.

I'd like to know how this constitutes 'bullying' too.

Who was he supposed to get to photograph it if you were abroad? Were you expecting him to hire a photographer? Or bring a friend along on the trip?

Many options are available…how do you think so many others manage it? 🙄

OP, has it occurred to you that he might not have wanted it filmed? Perhaps he preferred to have a private moment that you couldn't broadcast to your friends afterwards?

I couldn’t agree more, @GotMarriedInCornwall.

He’s just not that bothered to meet with your “high expectations” then, is he?

Oh well, it’s going to be a tough life for you OP.

Op are you still whining get over it or tell him he’s not the man for you because he did the proposal wrong you should read the real issues here that are real issues.

Yes, OP, maybe you should have said ‘no’ since he’s clearly not even trying is he?

And if you’re really interested in whether YABU you wouldn’t just argue with everyone (and it seems to be pretty much everyone) who is saying that you are.

He (well his parents mainly 😂) are stumping up a lot of money for our wedding in Portugal, so I’ve forgiven him!

I'd bet my life it's the same poster, same writing style, actually same words "know your worth ladies" every single time. I'm sure it was the same poster who also had the thread about being utterly devastated that her DH didn't put up a gushing post about her on Mothers Day last year and her friends were all 'concerned' about her. Same nonsense of us 'older' people not understanding the modern ways of the world and not knowing our worth 😂.

You truly sound like the shallowest gold-digger who is only interested in money and being picture perfect. God help you when you actually get to married life.

are you just trolling everyone from your account or are you really that shallow?

The whole thing just sounds goady AF