AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

For Christ’s sake. This modern day thing that everything has to be photographed for SM.

‘Tis bollocks and reduces the true meaning of what should be a romantic moment for TWO PEOPLE.

Get a grip.

Get avideographer for the wedding

Sorry, showing my age, but can't resist. After the newspaper announcement, 'What is next? Big and Natasha, the movie'?

I am not saying this for laughs because it’s true. Marriage is going to be a huge disappointment to you.

These are the good bits. Not many people have photos of their engagement. If you are disappointed about this then you are in for some shock when you are actually marred.

I wish I could say I’m shocked at this, but I’m not. Everything seems to be about social media now.
We didn’t get engaged at all. At the time (aeons ago) dh thought ‘getting engaged’ was desperately uncool. We just set a date.
I’d have quite liked a ring, but wasn’t too bovvered, and TBH the lovely ring he bought me right after the birth of dd2 meant an awful lot more to me.

How pathetic

I certainly hope your DP figures out his worth and runs like hell away from you. He deserves so, so much better.

You also lie since you were so upset about not plastering his birthday wishes to you all over social media and then say you are not "into" social media on here. You don't want a husband, you want a performance.

I feel so bad for your DP. Either you are the lowest of the low or this is just a faked post.

You’re not on MAFS 😂

Christ, the wedding is going to disappoint if it doesn’t go exactly like Insta says it should! 🙄

Babe you're clearly NOT worth a photographer to your fiance.

Think about when they decide to have children and she gets angry because he didn't call a videographer to capture the "moment of conception".

Omg! It’s her.

And getting SO triggered when people don’t agree…

There’s this pressure to record everything. I recently thought I should capture a birthday cake moment but then I just left it and enjoyed the moment. Not everything needs to be recorded.

Proposals aren’t really recorded anyway at least before insta as they’re supposed to be private moments between a couple.

I quite agree.

If you go out for a meal or something to celebrate your engagement, you could have some photos taken then.

Sadly, marriage is likely going to be brutal and a massive disappointment, if this upsets you OP.

For anyone interested, here’s OP’s other thread complaining that her boyfriend didn’t wish her a happy birthday on social media; there are more threads but this is the only one I responded too so have bookmarked - it’s always about social media.

Yet this OP doesn't use social media!!! Even though MN is social media.

Hopefully, all the news channels have been notified!

(I am beginning to think it's a wind-up or attention-seeking)

Me! Me! Me! Look at me!

I don't think this is just an age thing. But you're correct in thinking a lot of people aren't the type to understand.

Get the photographer booked now to document other important moments between you.

Don’t forget the conception of your first child.

This is getting worse! Now I feel even more sorry for DP. He arranges a surprise weekend in one of the world's most romantic cities to make the proposal memorable but THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!! (I only shout in extremis.)

I hope he revisits the relationship at some point before you both commit to marriage, because on this showing you’re all surface OP.

He took you to Rome to surprise you with a proposal and your reaction is what a thoughtless bastard for forgetting to arrange a photographer/video….
Why does an intimate moment have to be so performative? I feel sorry for the fiancé. You sound like hard work.

You might be looking for opinions on the wrong kind of forum if you are discounting any replies from someone who is 20+ years behind your modern ideas for modern times. There are quite a lot of us on here I reckon.

Definitely not unreasonable to be upset or embarrassed but try not to let it cloud your upcoming wedding too much!

Also there's the old cliche of you could have proposed yourself and organised everything!😄