AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

Ok 😂

I suppose it depends on the pants , if they are boxer type maybe ok if they are skimpy ones , not so good .

I was answering a question, someone asked if we had kids.

So does he wear sagging y fronts or tight whitey type shorts or boxers?

If it's the sagging y fronts then yuk. The others aren't so bad

Well he can put some clothes on to go out to the car, or dressing gown on answer the door - it's not fair to leave it all to you once he steps through the door.

Just let him do his thing? What harm does it cause ultimately.

She was answering my question!

what a jump on!

He wears those very small skin right boxers

'Not be able to answer the door' due to his own choice to be near-naked would grate with me.
I'd also be bothered because he'll be shedding sweat and skin cells onto all the sofas and whatnot. Mostly this gets 'caught' by clothes or sheets that then get washed, so someone lounging about on the sofa with bare skin as an every day thing would annoy me a bit, especially if it's after a whole day out and about and he didn't shower first.

Yes thank you op

it’s really not good - I find cotton can be cooler than wearing nothing

he really needs to wear loungers indoors

its nothing to do with being care free but rather “care less” about others who you are living with and how they feel

Also potentially teaching your kids it’s normal to walk around undresses in the day - which to me is opposite of teaching them about their own private bodies

Totally unacceptable, some dude strolling around in his flamin underpants

Turn the heating off in winter, he will soon keep clothes on. Weird in my book.

One of my kids used to do this the moment they got home from nursery, she'd start pulling her clothes off AS we went in the front door and just wear pants. She outgrew it by the time she was school age though!

Has he explained why he does it? He won't answer the door like that so he clearly considers it impolite in some way. It would annoy me, sweating all over the furniture and leaving me to solely answer the door like a Victorian maid.

I came for the lovely bit of squirrel and I was not disappointed

I know!

can’t believe anyone thinks it’s ok

Yeah course he does

He looks like Jacob Elordi too

This is a good point. He must know it bothers OP and yet he keeps doing it. No compromises.

OP Ive got to ask - does he do it in front of guests?

Why can't he answer the door without clothes on? He obviously doesn't give a monkeys either way so let him crack on.

He has to say "hello bambinos!!" to whoever comes in though.

I too like to strip off the moment that I get home, usually down to pants. It’s just me and DH, my dressing gown is hooked on the back of the front door in the event that I need to cover myself for visitors.

why would you simply not like it? That sounds prudish

It is unusual. My uni boyfriend used to do this in his bedroom in halls, I'd completely forgotten. However, looking back he was pretty depressed and the room was like a big comfy hidey hole with curtains closed and a double-bed so he spent a lot of time basically hiding in bed. I think maybe it was also like another barrier of 'you can't come in, I'm in my pants!'. He didn't do it in shared spaces.

those who are reasoning along it’s only a body and what don’t you like - are taking it completely out of its situational context

Taking it to their reasoning to its logical conclusion it would be ok in front of guests too

yes I do not want flaky skin etc on furniture

what does he do if somethings over boiling in the kitchen? What is he teaching kids about safety

Unnecessarily sloven standards, for one thing.

For fairly obvious reasons - non of which are prudish

OP what happens when you children have friends over? Sounds so dodgy “oh I had a lovely time at OPs mummy her daddy only had his pants on”