AIBU to find my husband's constant undressing at home annoying?

[saamantha19881]

My husband has asked me to post on here to guage opinions.
The minute he gets in the door he takes his top off, often- his trousers too and will just be wearing pants. He says it is more comfortable.

I'm starting to find it really annoying, once in a while if it's really hot it makes sense. But it is literally all summer and winter. It means he can't ever answer the door, just pop into the garden or grab something from the car. And to be honest, I just don't like it.

Apparently it is completely normal (his dad did it too) and he thinks I would be surprised because everyone does this in their own homes??

That's way weirder than just wearing y fronts 😂

Well that’s it isn’t it but it’s just social conditioning… there’s no real difference between joggers and a T-shirt and pjs but I find it teeth gnashing 🤣🙈

It’s a Friday Night Dinner reference, the dad in that often has his top off.

Ugh. This reminds me of being a kid in the ‘70s. My friend’s dad used to sit watching TV in his orange and white Y-fronts.
My 8 year old eyes didn’t know where to look!

It’s not the same though is it? Being in your own private home in your pants is very different from going outside or seeing people in them. As long as his bits are covered I don’t see being undressed at home as dysfunctional. I actually think it’s good for children to see their parents comfortable in their bodies. And being too insistent on modesty can teach kids shame. I remember being a teenager and going downstairs in a little nighty, that had gotten a bit short and my dad raised his voice and told me to go upstairs and put some clothes on. Which still makes me uncomfortable that he found it uncomfortable to see a bit too much leg.

I wouldn’t be comfortable having genitals out, as I can imagine at a certain age that would be weird and traumatic for kids, but seeing their dad in what is essentially a pair of shorts? No I don’t think that’s dysfunctional at all,

I only wear pjs indoors and then I take them off to go to bed, but between outside and bed my pjs are always on for the reasons you've mentioned. Perhaps if he had some super comfy PJ's that might work... Maybe... I wouldn't like DH to wander round in pants either but then we have teenagers who's friends are often here so it's never been an issue 😄

One of our neighbours always has his top off when he answers the door. Little pants maybe isn’t a great look!

Yes it’s because we think it signals poor mental health and it’s contagious

I have so many stories from friends of their mums hoovering their rooms
when the were in bed off sick from school - we must carry on like the orchestra on the titanic 😂

🤢

He is very conveniently abdicating all help as you mentioned in your initial post. Smacks of being lazy. Wife can do everything like a hired hand..

It is lazy and smacks of a lack of productivity. That's why it gives you the ick.

Christ if that was my husband I’d have the proper ick. Remind him he’s a grown up now and sitting about in his pants like a toddler is ridiculous. He doesn’t need to copy his dad. He’s all grown up.

honeslty I’d have the right ick

You have said their is nothing dysfunctional about bodies being unclothed so that means you would think it’s ok outside too

you have given one off examples which would be fine

OP says her husband always naked apart from skimpy pants at home - quite different to your examples

presumably you are comfortable if your husband went to a friends house and his wife was in bra and panties?

Sitting about in his pants like a toddler! 🤣 Yes, that's it!

lol

I was going to say, are you married to Martin from Friday Night Dinner?

Wouldn’t annoy me, it’s his home too, I walk around in a crop top and small shorts at home all the time 🤷

I wear my pjs during the day and then get dressed when we go out for lunch because it is more comfortable. During the winter I wear my anorak in the house as well to keep warm. DW objects regularly to both. We are retired. We live in an old house but have the thermostat on at about 18C.

It is though isn’t it, it’s what toddlers do, he’s just missing the nappy. And he’s bleating that but my dada did it too. Complete ick from me. My legs would seal shut,

That’s lovely, but why is it relevant for a conversation about a man who sits naked apart from skimpy pants at home all the time.

My DP does this - we don't have the heating on higher or extra to accomodate it, he will put clothes on to go out, or answer the door, he is just more comfy this way and finds temps I find 'warm' to be 'way too hot' and as I cannot regulate my temperature properly (chronic health/disability) he just sheds clothing as and when necessary.

It WOULD piss me off if he were refusing to answer the door/go to the shops/do outdoor yard work etc.. but he's not. He just wants to be comfy in his own home and I think thats perfectly OK. He doesn't comment on what I wear or do not wear either!

Underpants more comfortable

😂😂

Do you think he’s this blokes dad then? As he does it too, and I can’t imagine there is a third,

Unclothed bodies in the daytime, unless ill, signals:

Laziness
A lack of productivity
Possible poor mental health
A lack of consideration for others in the household
A lack of intention of leaving the house again that day, even to get something from the car. So forget going out for a spontaneous walk or drink or dinner.
A lack of awareness that we are adults and adults are clothed in the daytime

Need I go on? Sitting about in your pants during the daytime is what toddlers do and it's dysfunctional for an adult to do it.

Would give me the major ick.

I wouldn't want to be around all that skin. No thank you.