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onlyaparatraik · 2026-05-08T13:04:22+00:00

Just wondering what you think and need your opinion please. A woman I know very well is soft, loving and kind a home to her husband and family. she runs the home super efficiently, is a full time SAHM to adults and basically manages her husbands clothes, meals, past times and social life. Gos friends don’t like her. They accuse her of being controlling, bossy towards him and largely opinionated. He says she is entirely different at home albeit with a secret alcohol addiction . Secret to outside the family. Relationships were th husband and children are breaking down. is this the very typical house angel scenario? I need objectivity please as I’m too close to the family. just your thoughts please

FernsInValley · 08/05/2026 23:24

SylvanMoon · 08/05/2026 23:00

I'm fairly certain the OP is the husband. He has said he's not the MiL nor the woman but someone who is "very close" "directly affected" and "knows exactly what’s going on.". Then consider the language used "the lady in question" (what woman would use that turn of phrase?) and he describes the husband glowingly as "a very involved father and loving husband". He's obviously concerned for her well-being, but by not being very open here about his situation, isn't going to get any useful advice.

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Yes, or else the OP is the wife. The wording of it could be either.

FernsInValley · 08/05/2026 23:56

That is a wonderful suggestion! Whoever the OP is may get the support needed if they can speak with the fear of recognition.

LittleGreenDragons · 09/05/2026 00:05

SylvanMoon · 08/05/2026 23:00

I'm fairly certain the OP is the husband. He has said he's not the MiL nor the woman but someone who is "very close" "directly affected" and "knows exactly what’s going on.". Then consider the language used "the lady in question" (what woman would use that turn of phrase?) and he describes the husband glowingly as "a very involved father and loving husband". He's obviously concerned for her well-being, but by not being very open here about his situation, isn't going to get any useful advice.

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Oh... I was thinking other woman who was after the husband and was looking for ammunition against the wife.

FungibleAssets · 09/05/2026 00:14

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 15:35

I have not posted to ask for your thoughts on whether this is my business or not. I know exactly what’s going on.

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So why are you asking?

74username74 · 09/05/2026 07:41

SylvanMoon · 08/05/2026 23:00

I'm fairly certain the OP is the husband. He has said he's not the MiL nor the woman but someone who is "very close" "directly affected" and "knows exactly what’s going on.". Then consider the language used "the lady in question" (what woman would use that turn of phrase?) and he describes the husband glowingly as "a very involved father and loving husband". He's obviously concerned for her well-being, but by not being very open here about his situation, isn't going to get any useful advice.

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I think you are right.

PeoniesAreMyFavouriteFlowers · 09/05/2026 12:09

FungibleAssets · 09/05/2026 00:14

So why are you asking?

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Ikr?

Why is he asking?

Unless he was hoping for a bitchfest…..

Salyexley · 09/05/2026 17:04

You need to keep it out and don't spread stuff about ppl when you don't know all the facts and even then keep it out

LoopyLoo1991 · 09/05/2026 17:18

My great aunt and her daughter were exactly like this. Bullied her second husband and his son mercilessly. G aunt was eventful jail after stabbing husband the second time - she put up a good front and sobbed so escaped jail the first time. They found out what exactly she was really like.
Probably bipolar but she's long gone now. Unfortunately her daughter has carried on the family nasty streak.

Bluedenimdoglover · 09/05/2026 18:31

If there is nothing you can do, why get involved? People rarely thank you for advice unless it's what they want to hear.

IndysMamaRex · 10/05/2026 22:00

I think it’s the kind of situation where ye mind yer own business

crossedlines · 11/05/2026 06:28

onlyaparatraik · 08/05/2026 15:35

I have not posted to ask for your thoughts on whether this is my business or not. I know exactly what’s going on.

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If you know ‘exactly what is going on’, why are you canvassing opinions from people who don’t?