For asking my partner not to sleep naked

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For some reason, my partner of 13 years has recently started sleeping naked. By recent, I mean the last few weeks. He says it is freeing and he sleeps better naked. There are occasions where we have fallen asleep naked in the past but we mostly wear pjs or at least underwear. The main reason is we have an 11 year old daughter, but I am also a bit of a clean freak and he is a typical sweaty farty man and it it gives me the ick sleeping naked in our sheets. My partner also doesn’t sleep well and gets up numerous times through the night, leaving the room to go for a drink, bathroom etc naked or kicks the sheets off so everything is on show. He says I am controlling for asking him to wear at least underwear to bed but I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to be naked when we have a nearly teenage daughter. AIBU?

Does your 11 year old daughter come into your bed during the night?

Fine to sleep naked, not fine to wander about the house naked at night

Thankful for my own bedroom when I read stuff like this.

Unfortunately you can't tell him what to do..you can however control how you react. Which would be getting a bed each, whether there's a spare bedroom or not.

He could at least keep a dressing gown on a hook on the bedroom door so he isnt freely swinging his giblets round the house at night for a start.

It is the most appropriate and suitable thing in the world for him to be naked in his own bed to sleep.
I couldn’t stay with a partner who insisted I wear clothes at night.
I’m in bed now, in a camper van on a campsite, naked in my bed…….

Do you have an onsuit?

DH sleeps naked. I couldn’t stop him, he likes it, many people prefer it. Does he shower often? Wash sheets often? Does your daughter go into your room. DC know not to go or I warm them DH is naked.

I prefer to wear pijamas or at least underwear.

DH and I have slept naked for most of thirty years. We didn’t when our DC were small, and we don’t at other people’s houses, but I don’t like wearing anything in bed. I drape pyjamas at the foot of the bed so I can put them on quickly if needed.

I'm on the fence with this. There are some nights when the fabric of my pj/nightdress just seems at odds with the bedding. I used to always sleep in the nude. It is so much more comfortable. But I'm not in your relationship. You two have to find a way of making things work. Seperate duvets, and a robe on the door for his modesty whilst out of the bedroom at night would be a good start.

It is a more European thing. Never heard of it growing up in my home country

Yes, I agree with that! I have pyjamas at the foot of the bed and my dressing gown on a hook on the door.

Don't let your kid in your room without knocking.

Tell him to wrap a towel round his waist when he goes for a wee.

Sleeping naked helps regulate your body temperature and improves sleep.

So much to unpick here.

are you repulsed by his body? You have said the dd thing is only one reason. You list him getting up and throwing the sheets off so you can see his naked body as one of the things that disturbs you.

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Never heard of sleeping naked? Did you grow up on the arctic or something?

I was born South Africa, grew up in Scotland, lived in Korea, lived in Malaysia, lived in the US and now back in Scotland. Loads of folk sleep naked in all those places! (From my experience!)

Absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping naked in your own bed, and it’s controlling and frankly a bit odd to try and tell him he can’t do it! Wondering around the house naked when the kid is home is a bit weird though and should be avoided.

If he’s more comfortable and sleeps better naked, leave him be. Unless you’re going to say he leaves skid marks on the sheets then it’s not that unhygienic assuming he showers daily.
your daughter is old enough to knock before she comes into your room. He could make sure he has shorts or a dressing gown to put on if he’s walking round the house though. I agree that’s a bit too far.
just wash the sheets regularly if you’re bothered about him being naked in bed.

So glad i'm single 😩

I sleep naked, cant sleep with clothes on

Sleeping naked in your own bed is fine. Going to the toilet or wandering around the house nude when you live with your kids is not.

I had the opposite partner insist I did sleep naked when I didn’t like it..want to wear clothes.

I think the result for you OP is that DP does the laundry of the bed linen…regularly. I shower before bed..unwashed naked body next to me wouldn’t feel pleasant to me either..especially with nocturnal toilet visits

I agree!

I would just warn your daughter ‘by the way your dad has decided he doesn’t like sleeping in PJs and will likely be naked at night so knock before you come in if you need us or you might get an eyeful!’

We didn’t co sleep and our kids rarely got into our bed but I assumed most adults slept naked? Let the man be free! I can’t stand jammies!

What prompted him after all this time?
Maybe he wants to feel younger and carefree?
I slept naked when had younger kids but would pant up before going for wanders.
(Now gone the other way and prefer to sleep in pants)