For asking my partner not to sleep naked

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For some reason, my partner of 13 years has recently started sleeping naked. By recent, I mean the last few weeks. He says it is freeing and he sleeps better naked. There are occasions where we have fallen asleep naked in the past but we mostly wear pjs or at least underwear. The main reason is we have an 11 year old daughter, but I am also a bit of a clean freak and he is a typical sweaty farty man and it it gives me the ick sleeping naked in our sheets. My partner also doesn’t sleep well and gets up numerous times through the night, leaving the room to go for a drink, bathroom etc naked or kicks the sheets off so everything is on show. He says I am controlling for asking him to wear at least underwear to bed but I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to be naked when we have a nearly teenage daughter. AIBU?

I'm in my late 60's, I have always as an adult slept naked. I can't abide having to sleep in pj's or nighties.

We’ve always slept naked at home - i tended to assume most adults did the same. We wouldn’t walk around naked though, unless we’re the only ones in the house.

Sleeping naked is fine, I do sometimes! But walking around the house butt naked is a no, no.

You are being very unreasonable to want to insist on wearing something in bed.

Of course he needs to cover up to go to the bathroom, but beyond that it is his choice.

As for "kicking the sheets off so everything is on show" -- so what? Presumably your daughter can be taught to knock before entering the room.

Farts can get through fabric btw (unless you are insisting he wears vacuum-tight PVC), and as for sweat, well that is why we wash bedding.

I really enjoyed the turn of phrase "scratchy ball bag".

In your own bed is one place you should be able to feel free and naked. You are being uptight about a totally natural thing.

Dressing gown on the door is all he needs to leave the room.

I wouldn’t like it. Unless he was taking a shower before bed
Your daughter potentially seeing him naked in the night isn’t cool either

Yes to knocking and waiting but the guy is wandering round the house naked if he needs the toilet or a drink. Is she to knock her own door and await permission to enter the hallway too?

Yeah this. The squeamishness about his body and normal functions is your issue.

He should pop a dressing gown on if outside the room.

Your daughter should have been taught to knock and wait by now.

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You know it’s possible to read and type on a phone in the dark? I’m doing it right now.

Who did you think bought all the adult sized nightwear on sale in shops?

If you’re rubbing your arse hole and flaps on your bed sheets during the night, then you must sleep in a way no other human ever has.

It’s not gross it’s perfectly normal.

DH has always slept naked but wears boxers when he needs to leave the bedroom. Common sense not to wander around without covering up! As for the bed sheets they are fine and get washed regularly. Not a big deal tbh...

I am ancient and dread the day when I might have to go into a care home. I can’t stand wearing anything in bed but assume that naked nights wouldn’t be permissible.

I sleep naked, I can’t sleep with clothes on. And I used to sleep naked when dc were little, they used to follow me to shower and toilet FGS!

They are now teens and I still sleep naked. I get up in night for toilet naked. I have once scarred my 16 yr old ds (although not at night) coming out of bathroom naked as I’d forgotten my towel (I thought he was out!). But it’s just a body! My mum walked around naked a lot when I was growing up (just upstairs when getting ready.

14 yr old dd still comes and chats to me while I’m in bath.

As to hygiene, I don’t shower before bed usually and I survive! Wash my sheets approx ever 1-2 weeks.

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How do you know the intimate sleeping details of so many people in all those countries? 😆 I too have lived in several countries and I couldn’t tell you who or if anyone slept naked out side of my own bedroom.

I agree. If she finds him that disgusting, how do they have sex?

An “onsuit”?
Is this some kind of of onesie?
if he likes to sleep naked he’ll hardly want to wear that!

Both my husband and I wear knickers/pants in bed. That's both of our preference though. I don't see why your partner can't sleep naked, as long he puts on a dressing gown/pants/pyjama bottoms to go to the loo/get a drink in the night or wandering around in the morning. You don't really get to say what he can wear in his own bed!!

Unhygienic. At times he would be literally wiping his faecal residue on the sheets when tossing and turning.

So it's a mn concept that a) being naked in bed is "wrong " and b) it's somehow disturbing for a child to see their parents naked.

One question when dad is 90 and not well would it be wrong for his daughter or son to help wash and dress him?

I think there are going to be a lot of nm kids with body issues

Youre really that disgusted by your romantic partner’s naked body? The repulsion in this post about someone you’re married to…

Just asked DH and he loves that I sleep naked. As I have since the day I gained consciousness and will until I die.