For asking my partner not to sleep naked

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For some reason, my partner of 13 years has recently started sleeping naked. By recent, I mean the last few weeks. He says it is freeing and he sleeps better naked. There are occasions where we have fallen asleep naked in the past but we mostly wear pjs or at least underwear. The main reason is we have an 11 year old daughter, but I am also a bit of a clean freak and he is a typical sweaty farty man and it it gives me the ick sleeping naked in our sheets. My partner also doesn’t sleep well and gets up numerous times through the night, leaving the room to go for a drink, bathroom etc naked or kicks the sheets off so everything is on show. He says I am controlling for asking him to wear at least underwear to bed but I don’t think it’s appropriate for him to be naked when we have a nearly teenage daughter. AIBU?

It’s utter batshittery like this nonsense that keeps me coming back to MN. Hilarious.

Theres a massive epidemic of violence against women and girls. Rapes happen by the minute and the police, courts and system do absolutely nothing.

Do you really truly think SS would do anything about something that hasn’t happened other than roll their eyes as they put the phone down and mark the call as a waste of time.

Oh a man is sleeping in his own bed naked? We will send the Swat team round right away ma’am!!

Honestly this. I came across both parents in the nude as a child occasionally. No particular shock or horror because we all have bodies! Most mumsnetters would be horrified by the Japanese Onsens where complete strangers bathe together completely naked.

Bloody hell. I would not be happy if someone policed what I wore (or did not wear) in my own house!

Do you think it's acceptable for a child to not want to see their parent naked, or is that somehow indicative of an issue on their part? Is it acceptable, for instance, for a 13-year-old girl to not want to see her father's penis and testicles? If a father is comfortable walking around naked, should his daughter just have to accept that, even if she doesn't like it?

Where is his arsehole? On his back?

Laying on your side or back doesn't leave 'faceal residue' anywhere unless you've smeared it all over yourself first.

Most people clean themselves after defecating and most peoples’ anus is protected by their buttocks.

Interesting the OP has not returned........................

It is truly hilarious! It’s almost as if the daughter will die on the spot if she comes across the naked form of her father in the night. Jesus, no one wore anything to bed when I grew up and my dads naked body was just that, my dads naked body. It’s the same in my house now, if my 14 year old son is supposed to be alarmed by his dad and I’s naked bodies then you better tell him that, because he’s currently stood entirely naked himself on the landing without a care in the world.

I’m sure if your daughter doesn’t like it she’ll say something and unless your husband regularly shits himself or forgets to clean his arse and nob end then your bedding will be fine.

The tone of your post suggests that he repulses you, so I imagine you have far bigger problems than this.

Exactly!

I’ve started sleeping naked too, sleep so much better.

YABU. Teach your daughter to knock. She shouldn't be in your room anyway. If you're worried about hygiene just ask him to have a shower before bed. Sheets should be changed weekly anyway.

I cannot imagine sleeping in anything so uncomfortable. Both me and dp sleep naked.

You know what I mean.

I think it is and you'd have to constantly change the sheets.

Educate yourself! Even the most basic googling will get you to a relevant article on average faecal content of adult underwear for healthy, faecal continent non-geriatric adults.

I agree with almost everyone else. Sleeping naked in his own bed, fine and of the thought of your husbands naked body offends you so much you might want to think a little more about that.

Shorts or a dressing gown for walking around.

Educate yourself! Even the most basic googling will get you to a relevant article on average faecal content of adult underwear for healthy, faecal continent non-geriatric adults.

Behave yersel woman 😂

Sheets are not worn like underwear.

Poor bloke

Unless he has a medical issue, or is a corpse, his body is not leaking ‘faecal residue’ onto the sheets at any time.

If you genuinely believe we leak like that, presumably you wear some kind of incontinence pants at all times, so once it would also leak into regular clothing and subsequently leave traces on the furniture?

This is GOLD!

Wouldn’t care about the sleeping naked but I do find it weird that he’s not horrified by the idea of his 11 year old seeing him naked in the middle of the night.

I have an 11 year old. My husband would simply never deliberately put her in a position where she had to see him naked. It’s not appropriate.

Well actually, when we fart we do expell fecal matter. All of us.

Farting isn't something you can control.