AIBU to not want them to drop in randomly to watch trains?

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I’ve recently moved to a home that’s close to a train station and opposite the track. A friend and her son who is autistic(As am I) have randomly appeared to see X or Y train. Most of the trains that pass are your standard passenger or freight trains but we do have a few better/well known ones passing through.

I don’t mind them visiting the odd time with advance warning but not just dropping in randomly especially as you can go to the train station to see them pass through or get almost the same view from elsewhere though I appreciate it’s more comfortable sitting in someone’s living room.

AIBU to gently suggest that they go to the train station instead?

TIA

WHO piled on to the disabled? Other than you?

One person cannot pile onto someone crowfollower

Theres already another thread whinging about an autistic child, on aibu, i bloody despair, its enough

yes, you are personally very sensitive to things you think have happened on other threads, so you’ve projected this onto OP, who has shown nothing of the sort.

A sort of ‘be kind’ shut up response, with you believing you have some sort of divine right to police the thread as it’s triggered something in you.

OP’s issue at hand is valid, you can’t accuse anyone who mentions autism in any capacity to be inciting a goady pile on, because you feel upset at things in the past.

Are autistic people not allow to start posts about other ND people now?

Then report it if you really think that. Not sure why (the OP is autistic and it’s causing her stress plus it’s bloody rude and inconsiderate to just turn up, especially if you are ND).

Otherwise leave her alone or hide the thread

Not really, ive explained why I commented to the op, and wished them well

Now I've got people quoting me repeatedly saying that they disagree with my view and that I need therapy for questioning the ops motive?

I've since offered the op my well wishes - not really sure what more you want out of me tbh??

Then hide it. Being autistic still allows you to be annoyed by the same things as NT people.

You need therapy for personally attacking me

I have left the op alone - i wished her well as well

If you can't read the thread before quoting me, thats not down to me

Irony 💯

Questioning the motive of the thread isnt a personal attack i'm afraid.

Again - if you feel there has been a personal attack, report the post.

🤣🤣

I did... it was removed

I’m not autistic and this would wind me up.
I cant stand unannounced visitors

I don't think it an autism bashing thread. I do think it's a good example of one where people just seem incapable of taking control of their own lives and actually talking to people to resolve or raise issues.

I mean, it's pretty bloody obvious what the solution is here. Tell the mother that she needs to check before coming around.

You need to start making her feel it’s an imposition. So when she rings the doorbell, grab your coat and say you’re heading out. If she suggests watching from your flat whilst you’re out, just say “sorry, I’m not sure when I’m back, but definitely pop over to the station to have a look, that’s exciting. Bye”.

Some people are Teflon coated and don’t take hints, so you need to be forthright.

Good luck!! It’s awkward.

I have told her before as I have stated in more than one post.

When you tell her, what does she say?

So the autistic woman has to suppress her needs and defer to the needs of the autistic young boy, righty ho 👍

(Sorry not RTFT)

Because it’s nice to have some compassion and be kind.

It wouldn’t bother me at all every now and again, but not every day. OP didn’t say it was every day though x

WTF! You think the OP should open her home to any drop ins???

Please provide YOUR full home address including postcode, so we can all randomly drop into your home, day/night for any amount of time because YOU are just SO kind and compassionate!

If you don't provide us your home address- then you clearly lack any kindness or compassion! 🙄

If you have used words and she has not taken them in then you need actions. Turn her away at your door if she turns up and tell her it’s not convenient.

So you’ve told her and she ignores you. And you still consider her a friend. She has zero respect for you as you have told her it’s not ok. So
why are you feeling bad to be absolutely blunt with her? She doesn’t care.