AIBU to not want them to drop in randomly to watch trains?

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I’ve recently moved to a home that’s close to a train station and opposite the track. A friend and her son who is autistic(As am I) have randomly appeared to see X or Y train. Most of the trains that pass are your standard passenger or freight trains but we do have a few better/well known ones passing through.

I don’t mind them visiting the odd time with advance warning but not just dropping in randomly especially as you can go to the train station to see them pass through or get almost the same view from elsewhere though I appreciate it’s more comfortable sitting in someone’s living room.

AIBU to gently suggest that they go to the train station instead?

TIA

Yanbu. I've recently moved to a village which has a farm used by children with mild autism...I had a friend message me ..I'll come and spend the afternoon at yours...I'm working and not at home...if it works for you and you want to host good but every single week .no yanbu. In my case I never messaged back and tbh I'm out until 6pm ...

Apologies if I've missed it, but how often are they popping in?

Autistic or not autistic, it's a bit cheeky to think you can keep knocking on someone's door to sit in their house just to watch trains go by.

How often do friends visit each other generally, once a week? Once a month? She's not even popping in to visit you, she's turning up to use your home. That's not OK by anyone's standards. I care about my friends, but if they kept turning up all the time, I'd be sick of the sight of them! 😁

Presumably whatever your doing, sitting watching TV, hoovering, changing the bed, wiping down the bathroom, cooking, you're having to stop what you're doing to entertain them.

It's ok to tell her it's not always convenient, and mean it. She's cheeky. You're not in the wrong here.

I would hate this and have to tell my friend to find somewhere else to trainspot.

Oh how silly! I did not look at the interests of my
friend’s children before buying my house and I highly doubt you did either!

You are not being unreasonable at all.

Autism has nothing to do with it, a parent thinks their child is entitled to turn up when they feel like and the OP can say no

the friend with a child is unreasonable whether the child has autism or not and the op can say no whether they have autism or not

autism is not the centre of this a sense of entitlement is

The OP says she's autistic and so is the kid and it's a social communication issue and autism is clearly relevant.
Why on earth are so many people dismissive when people talk about autism or autistic people have a communication struggle with someone?
How the fck would you know what is and isn't to do with her autism if she thinks it is

Mom is making her life easier by making yours stressful. You have to be firmer. Tell mom next time she arrives unannounced you will not answer the door and give her an alternative location to watch the trains. You’re not the bad guy.

Really? Would you be happy with people just randomly dropping in? I know I wouldn't.