Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

[Ilostallthepens]

If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

“Judge” as in consider morally inferior? No.

”Judge” as in make inferences about them? Yes.

The thing about inferences: we’re making them all the time about pretty much everything.

The other thing about inferences: they’re often right (see stereotype accuracy research).

The final thing: they’re often wrong too.

I think the above three statements are all true, and virtually everyone behaves as if all three of the above statements are true too, whatever they may say.

How would i know?
I have been married 20 years
I slept with my fair share of men when young and single but its not somthing that ever comes up in conversation.

I need a good editor. What I mean is that drawing inferences is inevitable, healthy, often true and often misleading. And that people who claim not to are usually just not accurately describing how they behave in real life.

No I dont judge on their number male or female I don't think that is relevant to who they are as a person.

How they speak and behave around x partners however I have judged around.

I’d judge if they were targeting married men but otherwise crack on and enjoy.

That question would be a friendship ender for me.

I can't understand why anyone would think they had the right to ask. There are few greater intrusions in to one's privacy.

No, I don't care how many people anyone has slept with, regardless of gender.

What’s your AIBU?

No. I’ve met men who claim to have slept with over 100 women and say it very very proudly. I didn’t necessarily judge them, I just thought well, provided it was all consensual, safe and they had fun… I’d think the exact same thing about women.

I guess the only issue with doing this as a woman is the higher risk of pregnancy so it pays to have fewer partners for that reason. Yes contraception but it isn’t foolproof.

No

I think I’d judge someone who I felt was showing off about it, like they somehow thought it was adding to their personal value or something. I might be wary about going into a relationship with someone who had a history of only short term hookups if that’s not what I was after. But if I happened to find out via a non-boasting type method, then no worries, good for them, everyone is allowed their own lives.

Lol, it sound like you are judging Andie McDowell for what her character did in a movie!

I’m really curious as to the thought process about it being grim ? Do often have little judgy thoughts?