Do you privately judge women who’ve had a high number of sexual partners?

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If they’d slept with, say 50-60 men? Even if you claim publicly to not judge them, would you secretly? Would you judge a lesbian who’d slept with 50-60 women? If you did would it be in a different kind of judgement that you had for the straight woman? And would you judge a man who’d slept with 50-60 women? And would this be a different kind of judgement?

I mean, neither DH or I can remember how many people we've slept with. It's not something I ever bothered to count. Sex is one thing, a relationship is something different. I'd probaby judge someone who's had loads of relationships more than someone who's had a lot of sexual partners

I don’t know how I would know the number of someone else’s sexual partners.

No. If I was having a relationship with someone all I care about is that they treated their sexual partners with respect and that they had a clean STI test. That’s it.

It sounds quite high to me but I wouldn’t judge them because that’s just my opinion. I’ve mainly been in relationships but if I was single for years maybe I’d get to that number.

But I did once know someone who told me she’d been broken up with and she wanted to sleep with lots of men. She said she stopped when she got to 100 in less than a year. I was surprised about the number and felt that was probably not very healthy because she didn’t seem very pleased about having done it

No. I am one of them 😅

No judgement here. Life is for living and we only get one. As long as you are not hurting anyone then you should be free to enjoy the fleeting time we have as you see fit.

No, not at all

Yep, I’d be judging them. But I would also judge men exactly the same in this scenario.

Not sure why I'd care or how I'd find out how many sexual partners another woman has 😂

But no, I wouldn't judge.

Nope couldn’t care less

Yes, why not tell us where you stand on this, OP? Otherwise we’ll just file you under ‘lazy journalist’,

No. I would see that number as quite normal if you spent a good few years enjoying yourself. Obviously if they were racking up notches on their bed post when married or in committed relationships and hurting people I would judge that!

Nope none of my business.
Life is for living 🤷‍♀️

Absolutely this, I wouldn’t care but I also wouldn’t know, so it’s of no consequence either way.

No. Why would I?

I think possibly if I met a man who had been with literally hundreds, I would pause for thought, as I would presume potential sex addiction or worry more about potential infidelity.

No I wouldn’t care
Sometimes sex is just a penis going into a vagina and doesn’t mean anything.

Yes I would secretly judge both men and women with that many, but unless they shout it from the rooftops like Bonnie I wouldn't know as I don't tend to discuss other people's sex lives.

I'd probably wonder what was going on with them to have that high a number, but I wouldn't judge unless I knew the context.

I would feel sorry for them that they clearly didn’t find a good one yet. But no judgement, that’s up to them.

Body count is just a super weird way of men boasting and devaluing women using the same metric. Lazy.

Well if somebody judges 50 then they will be having their super judgey pants on for me who doesn't even know my number 😆

Do men and women think differently about sex? I always thought a lot of men would have sex with pretty much anyone if it was available, but women were more selective and generally looked for something more than just sex. I agree that women having a lot of sexual partners could be low self esteem and also agree that I don't think I've met 60 men I would want to have sex with. I did know one man who seemed to be having sex with a different woman practically every day, you wonder could he ever be faithful to one woman long term? I don't think I could have ever trusted him to. So I did judge him I suppose.

If you've been sexually active for 30 years then 50 partners is less than 2 a year.

People in general, male or female, I wouldn’t judge because it doesn’t impact my life in any way.

If I were dating and a man announced it was 50 or 60 in the space of a year or 2 I still wouldn’t judge necessarily but I wouldn’t continue to date him because it would be clear we see sex differently and that’s okay, just makes us incompatible.

No, of course I wouldn't judge them. What people do in their private lives is none of my business and as long as they aren't hurting anyone/treating their sexual partners abusively why would anyone else care?

People who do judge people with a high number of sexual partners normally direct their judgemental attitudes towards the women rather than towards the men.

Would you ask him before you got into a relationship with him?