This is bonkers mummy behaviour

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At the pool. Waiting on kids in swim lesson.

There is a mummy walking/following her 2 year old around..
Both soaked from swimming,
are you choosing a cubicle? Which one do you want? Joe mummy wants to go home...I know you want to stay....why are you walking around the changing room, no treat now, come on go in there, let's go let's go....he's now wailing while mummy is narrating the whole thing while following him around the communal room.

Ffs pick him up and take him into a cubicle...aibu?

We are now on you are tired after your swimming lesson, I know, let's get changed now....still carrying the swim bags around the room 🫣

Sounds like a reverse. Are you Joe?

Gentle parenting 😬

That’s gentle parenting for you!! And imagine what little Joe will be like as an adult! Boss I can’t do that because you didn’t give me a choice of pen or post it note colour!

😂

Hes not really called Joe, but if he was the entire changing room now knows his name.

Kid's gonna be a nightmare when he gets to school. Mummy will be asking the teachers to reward/sanction his behaviour at home. By year 2 she'll be asking for an ADHD assessment.

Source: voice of experience.

That would drive me mad to listen to, I’m all for a bit of gentle parenting but in my book that still would consist of “right Joe up we come let’s go in this one and get nice and dry!”

Can't see any parenting going on here.... It's like those who say their child is their best friend...

I mean just cut the crap and get the child sorted out!!!!
people like that really annoy me!

And everyone I’ve ever known practice gentle parenting has made a rod for their own back by not setting any boundaries. She’ll rue the day!

If it was a pool in Cornwall then I also met this family..
I was actually quite sad for the mum because she sounded desperate. I've been in childcare most of my life (children's nurse, childminder, nanny) and I had to restrain myself from trying to 'help' her. It probably wouldn't have gone down well..

Permissive parenting 🤦‍♀️
School will be a laugh and a half 🙄

Totally agree and we’ll all have to suffer the consequences

Every time a thread like this comes up, gentle parenting gets a bashing because it gets confused with permissive parenting. Also, imagine being at your wits end, soaking, trying not to lose your rag and then a whole thread being made about your parenting choices 🤯

Ohh dear goodness little Joe will go to school in a few years and wonder why he cant wander around the school finding a classroom like he wants to. This type of parenting tends to result in problematic behaviour from over indulged children who lack boundaries.

@Commecicommeca26
She wasn’t at her wits end. she was asking. toddler what his preferences were rather than be an adult and say ‘right in here let’s go’, you see them
in supermarkets asking small
kids what to buy, it’s quite pathetic

This is not gentle parenting! This is just... arsing around 🤣

Why is it pathetic to ask a small child what they want in a supermarket? 🤯

Imagine giving children choices 🙄

Children’s brains aren’t mature enough to handle complex choices. I can’t believe the push back this is getting

I saw a man like this in the park the other day, trying to persuade a very reasonably-behaved toddler to go home for almost an hour. He must’ve said “Ok, five more minutes” at least five times. It came across like he was scared of his young child, it’s the sort of behaviour you’d use to try and coax a wild fox out of the playground. It’s not gentle parenting, it’s permissive parenting

Exactly, we’ve been giving our son age appropriate choices since he could answer. Funnily enough he doesn’t have many tantrums and he makes good decisions quickly and is secure in his decision making.

I’ve been chatting away to him in the supermarket, narrating our day since he was a new born. His speech is fantastic and his world awareness is incredible
for a 6 year old.

I think lots of parents now are genuinely afraid to say no to or make their young children do anything as they worry they will traumatise them or damage their development.

It's not really due to laziness as they often make life a lot harder, it's a genuine belief that stopping a toddler doing something, turning off the ipad, making them get in the buggy or brush their teeth, is kind of an assault?

Having said that at 2 I would just pick my kid up and take them in a changing room 🤣. I also wouldn’t be using treats as bribery at any age.

Absolute nightmare parenting.

I am dealing with the fallout from this type of carry-on in the (secondary) school I teach at. Children completely in control of their entire household, can pick and choose how they behave/when they attend, have zero resilience, and parents expect me to handle the fallout (‘please ring me immediately, my child is very upset’).

Nope.

I saw similar behaviour in a park one time. I found it stressful AF.

It was constant and over the top.