DH did nothing for my 50th

[Apple04]

Just back from my birthday weekend and just realised how sad I am yet another happy occasion has been ruined. DH moaning constantly and did absolutely nothing for me. My sister organised cake, balloon, flowers, presents. All I got from DH was a card. He’s claiming he was too busy to get anything sorted. My parents (80s) seemed very annoyed with him too. He’s from a family of moaning, miserable people but he knows I love spending time with my family who are the opposite (happy, fun). It’s made me really sad and questioning our future. He’s generally miserable at home too, moaning all the time. I’m working up to telling him if he doesn’t change I’m going to leave. It’s also his 50th soon, is it childish to do absolutely nothing in return?

Happy Happy Birthday @Apple04 - we might be birthday twins as I've literally just had my 50th too.

My DH is hopeless with celebrations, etc., and I always go all out for him and the DC, too far sometimes. I made it absolutely crystal clear what I wanted, and the kids (now young adults) were instrumental in this. A party was thrown, and then just us on the actual day, just as I wanted it. He didn't get it 100% right but the effort was what I loved more than anything.

Your miserable, crusher of joy, sounds like a selfish prick. And I'm afraid that at the age of 50, he hasn't shown that this will improve. It's inconsiderate and mean of him, and frankly, sod that.

Your family sounds like a joy, and I'm glad they made an effort. Go and treat yourself to a spa day or something wonderful, with time for your thoughts, which will allow you to deliberate on his worth from here on in.

We didn't do much for my 50th. We aren't particularly big on stuff like that. Both me and him just find it easier and less hassle. People are different and in itself it's not awful.