AIBU to not have had a night away from my children?

[Moreroardinosaur]

The reason I’m asking is because a colleague is away for the weekend. She came back to work in January after having a baby, so her DD is around 16/17 months now. She also mentioned she had a weekend away in February.

My DS is now five and I have a two year old as well. I’ve yet to have a night away as DD still doesn’t sleep through and I’m not sure DH would wake up / be able to sort her (she can be a bit funny overnight.) Is it just me?

Do you want a night away? If so go! They'll be fine with dh

My son’s first night away from me and DH was when he was about 5 weeks old! He and we were perfectly fine. Probably left him overnight with DH, his perfectly capable parent, when he was 3 months old.

@Moreroardinosaur there's no right or wrong answer imo. Some have nights away from their babies, some dont. Each to their own. As long as you and your babies are happy, thats all that matters xx

Mine are 9&10 and ive still never had a night away.

My husband would be just fine, but I dont want to go away without him and I wouldn't leave the kids with anyone else so looks like we're just holidaying together!

No, never at the same time!!!
DH worke d overtime most Saturdays (unless he was fishing!) so I couldn’t go anywhere.
My DM looked after them for the weekend for my 40th birthday which was lovely when they were 10 and 8.
To this day my PIL have never had them overnight. Bit late now, they’re 30 and 28!!!

Amazing.

I have never left mine overnight and never would. People choose to be parents, it's not part time.

Is your DH also an actual baby? Why wouldn’t he wake up? Do you want a night away for something specific? What’s your issue with your colleague having a husband who can clearly cope? Do you think it’s just the mums job to look after the children? You sound like a Martyr. Unless you’re breastfeeding on demand (unlikely now), you should probably get a grip.

Give over.

It's hard to take anyone seriously when they post such nonsense.

Each to their own on nights away (I did them from around 8-9m - both breastfed babies but night weaned) - but I would absolutely not be putting up with a DH not doing any night wakings.

Lol.

Yabu to not trust your DH to get up with the kids, I'm sure he's perfectly capable of it.

Yanbu to have not had a night away from them, mine are 3 and 7 and I haven't been away overnight without them.

Even when they’re 50? Gosh, you’ll be a fun MIL!

DH and I both worked rotational night shifts so the other just had to get on with it. Luckily we are all functional humans here so we coped admirably.

I voted that you are not being unreasonable because it's your choice. However I left my DS at about 18 months with my DH very happily.

Hahaha

If you can't trust your partner to get up for a crying child then you're accepting that he is choosing to be a part-time parent.

Bless.

Only time I had a night away from my first two was because I was giving birth to third.........went in at 4.30am had him at 9.30am and home for 2.00pm. Never wanted to be apart from them 🤷

Had 2nd at home as didn't want to leave first by the way 😂 ok i admit I'm a control freak🤣

Don't talk such rubbish. I suppose you're a SAHM then?

Isn’t the biggest concern that their father can’t look after them?!?
you what?