AIBU to not have had a night away from my children?

[Moreroardinosaur]

The reason I’m asking is because a colleague is away for the weekend. She came back to work in January after having a baby, so her DD is around 16/17 months now. She also mentioned she had a weekend away in February.

My DS is now five and I have a two year old as well. I’ve yet to have a night away as DD still doesn’t sleep through and I’m not sure DH would wake up / be able to sort her (she can be a bit funny overnight.) Is it just me?

I was the same. Realise now that’s it’s not normal for Dad not to be able to cope, or not be able to wake up for the baby because as Mum we aren’t given the choice. Weaponised incompetence to make their lives easier and ours harder. I bet he could easily go away for a night or a weekend, bet it wouldn’t cross his mind that you might not be able to cope for a night.

My kids are 13 and 9. The only night away DH and I have had is when my now 13yr old was 1 and my sister had him while we went to a wedding.

My parents have never ever offered and never will, and DH’s parents live 3 hours away. I hate that we can’t ever have a night away for anniversaries or anything.

*edited to say I didn’t read the OP properly and didn’t realise it was about leaving kids with a DH. Luckily my DH could have always managed if the need had arosed.

Dis you have a home birth for the 9 year old?

@Thechaseison71No, I was obviously away from my 13 year old when I had the 9 year old but my DH was home with him. I misread the OP as I said at the end that I misunderstood the thread and initially thought it was about not being able to have nights away with a partner.

Arose bloody auto correct

Ah ok lol

My DD is very almost 3, I’ve been on a 4 night hen do abroad, a 3 night girls weekend in this country and my DH and I have had numerous date nights where Grandparents have asked if she can go and stay (gone out for dinner or just stayed home and had a take away and some wine)/also stayed at a spa hotel a couple of times since she’s been born. DS is 8 months and I left him with DH whilst I went on said 3 night break away in this country with my friends. Grandparents on both sides love having them to stay over and we welcome it. DD adores spending time with them, she gets a fun day out/unlimited treats, more bonding time with them and we get time together without the children and actually get to sleep and have a lay in the next day. It keeps our sanity and we are very lucky to have the “village” that we do. I don’t ever feel guilty about it, all the time DD is more than happy to go then I’ll go with it! DD pulls out her little suitcase and starts choosing her pjs, what cuddly toy she’s doing to take, what bedtime book she wants them to read etc, she loves it. DH is also more than capable of looking after his children, that’s why I’m happy to go away for time with friends now and then (once a year really). DH has an annual camping trip with his friends from school which is 3 nights, he also usually has a stag do abroad once a year so off he goes for time with friends too. I think it’s healthy personally.