Matcha, leggings with socks over, botox, yada yada yada

[Wheredidallthegoodonesgo]

So bored of it.

This is nearly every mum in my area, pilates & matcha, botox and handyman & cleaner recommendations. No depth, no real worries..basic.

Aibu to want to meet funny, down to earth mums with depth and interesting pasts and conversations?

To be honest OP I would rather stick pins in my eyes than have anything to do with dungeons and dragons and I couldn’t even pretend to have an interest in horses. Don’t tell me, an acceptable outfit is walking boots, an old hoodie and some shapeless jeans?

Some of my leggings don't cover my ankles so when it's cold I wear warm wool socks over them. Can't speak for anyone else.

The intelligence of someone prepared to pump their face full of toxins all in the name of “looking good” is debatable, though.

Matcha - haven't had it in years 🤮

Socks over leggings - yes, been doing this 5+ years as started with knee-high compression socks when pregnant. I think I was ahead of the trend. 💁‍♀️

Botox- if I've got the money to spare. Last year it cost me $600. Haven't been able to justify the spend since, but I would do it regularly if I had the extra money. 🧏‍♀️

Eh? I don’t like any of these things

It looks shit on men too

I have endless worries, millions of 'em, I'm worrying about at least 20 things as I type. That's why I get botox. It makes me look like I have no worries.

Shitty attitude OP. I fit that description a bit, I wouldn’t drink a matcha, but I’m a stay at home Mum, who has Botox and wears Sweaty Betty leggings, don’t have a cleaner or a handyman. None of the Mums at school would know that my Dad has two months left to live or that my MIL has advanced dementia and that my sister rings me every night because her marriage is going down the pan. I would love to return to my high flying career but there’s so much going on with three kids, ill parents and managing my house. I feel shit for not working, but would feel shit for putting kids in after school club and paying for child minders. I have enough confidence though to know I’m not some fucking Bimbo, Barbie, kept woman.

I’d love to have a few Mum friends at school to socialise with and share day to day stuff with, but never quite cracked any meaningful relationships. Perhaps you’ve hit the nail on the head OP, people think I’m empty and vacuous because, wait for it, I wear leggings and do yoga and have a bit of Botox.

I don't think it's reasonable to expect them to share their worries with you until they know you a lot better and have reason to trust both your discretion and your judgement. If they share their matcha, though, you still end up ahead.

I didn't realise we'd already met!

OP, your post is basic, shallow and lacks any evidence of humour, intelligence or deep thinking.

It's very new, upper working class to have a cleaner.

then again mumsnet, now, is basically new upper working in general. Nothing wrong with that.
Home owner (owed to bank), SUV, dog etc.

However, values and concerns are alien to me. I recall 2012 MN, it was so different.

Cleaner threads are a bit cringe tbh.

If you don’t care then why do you notice these women and ‘cringe’ because of how they look and what they wear? And then come online to bash them. They ain’t trying to impress anyone either.

It doesn’t make you better or superior.

It’s fucking weird misogynistic embarrassing behaviour.

Oh God, it’s you who’s tedious. Painting all the school mums with the same brush, and thinking yourself superior.
How would you know about their worries in life?!
YABU.

Come and live up in the rural Borders. Neighbours are mainly farmers and fellow smallholders. No matcha to be had for miles around! Leggings permitted, but need to be fleece lined most of the year and usually have holes chewed by goats/sheep/pecked by chickens. Socks (usually welly socks and two pairs) necessary. I'm afraid in the local pub you do find a lot of swapping recommendations for sheep shearing and tractor repairs. Not sure if that's better than handymen or cleaners.

Botox - guilty as charged I'm afraid. Despite living up here and spending most of my free time up to my knees in mud and hay, I have retained a bit of vanity! But most people wouldn't know and I rarely tell anyone about it. I have it done on my work trips to the big smoke.

These may not be "your people" OP, but it doesn't mean they're bad people. You might well not be their sort either. You might be more likely to meet "your people" in hobby or interest based groups than playgroup/school mum circles where the main thing and perhaps the only thing you have in common is having kids of a similar age.

There was a similar thread a while ago where people were incredulous that I don’t discuss council tax, geopolitical conflicts, climate disasters, and feminism with my friends. And we instead, you know, try to have fun together, make each other laugh, talk about music, raves and festivals, cool things happening in our city, travel plans/recommendations, dating/sex, etc. If protecting your peace and not getting bogged down with things you have no control over nor any interest in means you’re “basic” and have “no depth” then so be it.

Honestly, being basic and living in a bubble are highly, highly underrated.

You are conflating two different things.

Yes, the uniform of leggings, white socks, cap, botox etc is boring but plenty of women who don’t dress like that have botox!

And dressing a certain way doesn’t mean you have a certain personality.

That explains it! Tbh they look kind of scary as well - their expressionless faces give off Stepford wives vibes. I think @Wheredidallthegoodonesgo is wise to stay away from this.

'Amusingly mispronounced' she says, while being unable to spell gilet herself.

Do try and understand context - you said they won’t think twice about me and that’s what I don’t care about.

I also didn’t come on the internet to bash them 🙄. I commented on a pre-existing mumsnet thread, just as I comment on lots of other threads about a variety of topics.

I'm in desperate need of botox. I wish I was friends with these mums so I could get some recommendations 😂

Wow. Judgy much? 🤷‍♀️

I wear socks over my leggings so I don’t get ticks when out walking or running through fields and woods. Am I cool?!

I live in what’s called an exclusive area in London (didn’t used to be!) and most of the mums I know certainly aren’t like that! Maybe some aspects but not all. In Nappy Valley in Clapham (not far from me) yes it is definitely more like that. Do your own thing though. Don’t be a sheep.

Ha ha same but I do wear leggings outside the house and I used to do yoga. Must return.