This is off isn't it?

[coulditbeme2323]

Husband and I loaned another couple a significant amount of money as if we didn't their dream home would have fallen through. All properly drawn up, and to be fair was for a short period of time as in just under 3 months.

All paid back two weeks ago as agreed (no interest by the way as it might matter) and friend text saying we want to take you our to dinner to say thanks.

Didn't expect or want that, but lovely gesture.

Went to a very nice place Saturday and other husband said to my husband I'll get the food and you get the wine/drinks. Now to put into context the wine/drinks were about 35% of the bill so other couple paid 65%.

Now it's not the money, and it was a lovely evening, and I would never mention to my friend, but is that a bit cheeky?

What Is with the lack of comprehension skills on here lately?🙄

Yeah that's out of order. You invite someone out you pay.

Loaning someone a significant amount of money is the complete opposite of “grabby”.

Yes they should have picked up the full bill after asking you out to say thank you. Put it this way, your kindness in loaning money has resulted in you putting your hand in your own pocket at the end of it. You didn’t ask for the meal!

I wonder, given they needed a loan to begin with, if money is too tight to be as generous as they told you they would be. They should have been upfront though or found a different way to thank you if so!

Edit: seen your updates about them being in a good financial position. In which case it’s just them who are tight. Not nice!

He was waiting for shares from an early 00's start up that was north of 7million USD.

Money is not an issue.

OP you were NOT grabby. You didn't ASK for anything. The point is, you got told you were being treated to a meal, so yes, that should include the WHOLE meal. It's not a "treat" if the evening out ends up costing you money!

I opened a new ISA account yesterday which is paying 4.5% interest, and a new savings account with 6% interest.

It was lovely of you to loan them the money and I'm glad they paid you back in the agreed time, but I do think you're being a tad harsh here.

I'd be inclined to ignore it this once, especially as you say it was out of character.

If it happens again, however.

I suspect the wife intended they pay and then the husband didn’t get the memo!

They are having zero money issues, and I mean zero!

You don't offer to take someone out for dinner and only pay for the food though - that's deeply odd. If they wanted to spend less they should have chosen a cheaper venue.

We took a boy on holiday with us to the Caribbean- his parents paid the flight cost, but we covered everything else

they took us out for an incredibly posh dinner and paid for ALL of it, including an amazing bottle of wine from the restaurant’s impressive cellar.

@coulditbeme2323 you and your H in effect saved these people’s bacon, the LEAST they could have done is take you out and cover the bill. Tbh, what you’ve done for them is immense. One meal isn’t even close to covering the price of you allowing them to complete on their dream home.

they’ve tainted your relationship now.

friends and money, oil and water.

Well, I hope their generosity extends to them offering you lots of stays in the new holiday cottage.

And I too suspect that if the friend who texted you was the wife, she had said to her DH 'lets go out for dinner with cibm2323 and DH to celebrate getting the house' - by which she meant take you out to dinner, as relayed in her message to you - and he didn't pick up what she actually meant.

And maybe he wasn't as sensitive to the thanking issue as her.

Did she hear her DH say to yours that you should get the drinks?

I had that once. 20 years ago. The wedding was in St Lucia at an all-inclusive resort, however, the wedding meal wasn’t included and we all had to pay for our own meal. I was gobsmacked the happy couple didn’t cover it. There was only 15 of us there so I would have thought it was the least they could do as everyone had already spent thousands to be there. Some people have no shame!

Even if drinks weren't included, they should have drank in rounds. They pay for meal and you share the drinks bill. I would have paid the full price. If they didn't offer to take you out and you were splitting the bill you would only have paid 15% more wouldn't you? Hardly a hearty thanks!

The old me would have let this go for the cost of the drinks..

However, the older me would be tempted to text the DH.. and let him know that lending them the money cost you xxx amount of interest, (and i'd get the exact figure) but thank you for the dinner.

Just because I think given the amount you lent them, it was gobsmackingly cheeky of them to make you pay for the drinks.

Or maybe I would just think about sending it but wouldn't in the end.
Depends how they behave.

Money is not an issue.

Well it obviously is for him (the male friend) and it was an issue the night you went out for dinner.

Either he couldn't afford to pay the full dinner bill, or he didn't want to.

And/or he has been bullshitting you in some way. Someone's certainly bullshitting.

This situation has to be unique, so this thread will be very likely poached by the MailOnline or Mirror, or another papers/media outlet, and put on Facebook by MNHQ, and/or recognised by the 'friends', btw.

I think it was just a brain fart moment

But they're millionaries drinking bottle of expensive champagne, apparently.

All isn't what it seems to you: just because his share of the company sold for 7m, doesn't mean he doesn't have financial problems. Or, there are marital problems eg he didn't want to buy this place, she insisted, he's pissed off blah blah. Or they're about to divorce and this is her house. Or you two drank more than they thought was reasonable and they've been judging you for years. Or there's something going on between the husbands that you don't know about.

Something is always behind uncharacteristic behaviour like a monied person quibbling, for the first time, over 200/300 quid of alcohol. Always. Give it time and it'll come out.

Yes she was! Because the meal was a thank you gesture.

If someone offers to 'take you out' then yes, they pick up the whole bill, not half or any other percentage.

Ffs, of course they bloody were, and quite rightly. The whole night out was supposed to be on them by way of thanking them for the loan that bailed them out. You don't then say 'Oh, d'you mind paying some of it..?'
Cheeky, brassnecked bastards.

It’s tight and very weird.

And the rest . £300,000 x 4% pa for 3 months is 3k
You’re out by 10 fold