Aghast at DP’s tightness at home

[Werusb]

I’ve moved in with my DP - had stayed plenty of times with no issue.

I am now seeing a different side of him, he is so so tight when it comes to energy usage, water etc.

He is constantly moaning about me using the oven, he has one bathroom and his latest thing is not flushing it too often regardless of use. So today for example, he used it at about 9.30. I freaked out when I went in and flushed then mentioned to him. He said that he read online about a new thing where it’s only flushed twice a day at 1pm and before bed. Just grim!

It is his flat but I can’t be expected to go along with this surely?!

If you had children together there would be more of you to build up the intensity of the toilet bowl contents! Also even if you can put up with it what would you do when you have guests round? It seems like he is living a bachelor lifestyle to me. Not only would this put me off but I would also wonder if he is going to introduce other limitations on what you are allowed to do which could get quite restrictive!

Possibly so he could split rent ?

disgusting

Yuk. He'll just be spending more on toilet cleaners then. I couldn't relax with someone like this. Bet you're having second thoughts.

Id be moving back out tbh.

Hes complaining about you putting the cooker on? I mean thats just nuts!

It's a Martin Lewis saying:
"If it's yellow, let it mellow.
If it's brown, flush it down".

Not true. Peeing on the compost heap is fine! The microbes/ other creatures will deal with the oestrogen. Think it would also be ok on soil, but imo it would be better to stick to using pee (men's and women's) as a compost activator, rather than pouring it (even diluted with water) directly onto the soil.

The real issue with using human pee as a fertiliser for plants is the risk of transmitting antibiotic resistance, but researchers a few years ago concluded that this was unlikely, as long as the urine had been "aged" (!)

But if you have a garden/ outdoor space, and a partner who claims to be motivated by ecological concerns, why not propose that he constructs a composting toilet system, that doesn't need any water at all to flush?! He could then use that, as often as he liked, without wasting any water. Alternatively, why not set up a system to collect/ store greywater (eg the stuff you've used in the shower) and use that to flush the toilet? Out-eco him!

Tell him to stop or you will be moving out.

It's just so unsexy apart from anything else, thing my lady parts would reseal in this situation

DUMP AND RUN!

When people show you who they are, believe them.

Turn Shylock into a distant memory. Time to pack up and ship out.