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Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!

213 replies

Betchygreen · 23/04/2026 19:27

I'm an immigrant of white British/European descent and I saw a headline today in the mainstream media about 'rape meaning sex' pleaded according to asylum seekers who have recently tried at court for rape.

What's going on? If I had to report a (my) white British rapist, I really don't think it would've made headlines. Nor would've any other abuse. White Male British men seem to get off with impunity, or I know are ever accused and formally charged.

I feel it is a shocking abuse of power that only newcomers and brown skinned/other culture peoples are singled out.

Why is it that the UK remains so very much patriarchal and oppressive towards women and children? Why are we not centred in such as way that it as important for women and children to thrive in our society and culture as it is for men of any/whichever long standing class? Is it classicism or what is it? Explain it to me, I truly don't understand why it has to be like this other than those who get a rise out of feeling powerful and in control of others?

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Supersimkin7 · 23/04/2026 22:32

The issue is men, mainly. The side trouble is that it is largely proven that new immigrants of any creed/colour to anywhere of any creed/colour commit more crime.

So do their DC. No one knows why.

Some countries act on this. My brother is an immigrant and has to keep his nose clean - eg not so much as a parking ticket - or his new citizenship is whipped away.

In this case, abuse of the human rights system to commit appalling violations of ditto is particularly repulsive.

FKAT · 23/04/2026 22:34

The side trouble is that it is largely proven that new immigrants of any creed/colour to anywhere of any creed/colour commit more crime.
Exactly, if you are a white European male immigrant to Thailand or Cambodia, you bet I'm going to think you are a sex offender.

giddyboo · 23/04/2026 22:34

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 20:05

It’s bad enough having British rapists (white/black/brown) without importing more.

Agree.

Supersimkin7 · 23/04/2026 22:37

Those two white blokes who adopted a baby and raped him to death - not a single eyelid batted.

Silly lie, this.

Case is on every newspaper front page today. Hour by hour coverage.

JaniceBattersby · 23/04/2026 22:39

I am a newspaper reporter and I report on white British male rapists every single day. So do my colleagues up and down the country. You must have missed all of those stories..

As someone who spends her entire working life in courtrooms I can say, anecdotally but with nearly three decades of experience, that the number of rapists is not disproportionately skewed in any direction. It’s a male problem and it’s absolutely endemic in every sector of society.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 22:40

FKAT · 23/04/2026 22:32

I also find this discussion exhausting and confusing because of the use of terms without defining them or being specific. Everyone ends up talking at cross purposes.

'British', 'asylum seeker', 'immigrant', 'brown-skinned' - you can be a British brown-skinned immigrant. Who are we talking about exactly? Do French banking executives in the city of London commit sexual assault at the same rate as Afghan asylum seekers? Both are immigrants.

Did you really use French men as an example? 🙈

JaniceBattersby · 23/04/2026 22:40

Supersimkin7 · 23/04/2026 22:37

Those two white blokes who adopted a baby and raped him to death - not a single eyelid batted.

Silly lie, this.

Case is on every newspaper front page today. Hour by hour coverage.

There’s also a podcast run by the biggest newspaper in Europe. I guess the OP must have missed that too!

FKAT · 23/04/2026 22:41

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 22:40

Did you really use French men as an example? 🙈

It's not an example, it's a question. Do you know the answer?

FurierTransform · 23/04/2026 22:41

How can people not appreciate that people with a totally alien culture, coming into a country from abroad and committing horrific crimes in that country, is more newsworthy than just the standard bassline crime level?

It smacks of denial.
It smacks of the sort of behaviour that allowed those grooming gangs to exploit innocent people with near impunity, for decades.

millymollymoomoo · 23/04/2026 22:45

Because that British men rape makes no difference to the fact we should not be importing hundreds of thousand of illegal immigrants from cultures that disrespect women and then dump them in our community completely putting the safety of locals at risk

and I don’t care about skin colour / I do care that ge really the countries they are coming from think it’s fine to treat women like shit . They should not be in this country

Supersimkin7 · 23/04/2026 22:46

The side-side trouble is that boat people are pretty much all young and male from safe countries. They’re not asylum seekers.

The male bit and the non-refugee bit means the risk of crime from them goes up even more than it already has as migrants. The risk goes up 3x.

Obviously most men aren’t rapists, and equally obviously rape is illegal
where they come from.

Perspective is required, but I do wonder quite who thought putting them all together in big hotels is a smart move.

In no sense is this a race issue.

Flossette · 23/04/2026 22:50

It would be interesting to see the stats of violent crime committed by those born outwith the UK compared by those who live within.

A lot of ‘boat’ immigrants come from countries with a fairly sleazy view of western women. I worked with immigrants in a past life and the vast majority were lovely but a significant minority were brought up watching Hollywood films where (white western) women would get into bed with a guy within 30 mins of meeting them. This would be unheard of in their culture (and our culture too but the immigrant living in a far off land didn’t know this). This seemed to give the impression to some that all western women were gagging for sex with virtual strangers, hence they come here thinking that’s the norm.

GreenCandleWax · 23/04/2026 22:51

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:01

Why are you so keen to deny the reality of the situation? These men come from places where women are property.

Or as the prosecuter said in court, "a piece of meat".

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 22:52

@nomas “the vast majority of rapists and child abusers in the UK are white”

That’s because the vast majority of the population in the UK are white.

TeenLifeMum · 23/04/2026 22:52

I give you anyone linked to Jeffery Epstein. They’re only pinning money and sharing confidential info on people, not the sex stuff and it’s only what is in the emails of a dead man, not the accounts of loving women.

Flossette · 23/04/2026 22:56

I also wonder whether violent assaults are more associated with immigrant communities. There have been machete attacks recently on the streets in the city where I live. Machetes really aren’t something that were ever common here. Are immigrants importing these hideous weapons here? Also if you are fleeing a war zone you perhaps have seen endless violence and have normalised it a little. Think of the butchery of Rwanda and Sarajevo in the 1990s. Scenes of violence unimaginable to us.

GreenCandleWax · 23/04/2026 22:58

Flossette · 23/04/2026 22:50

It would be interesting to see the stats of violent crime committed by those born outwith the UK compared by those who live within.

A lot of ‘boat’ immigrants come from countries with a fairly sleazy view of western women. I worked with immigrants in a past life and the vast majority were lovely but a significant minority were brought up watching Hollywood films where (white western) women would get into bed with a guy within 30 mins of meeting them. This would be unheard of in their culture (and our culture too but the immigrant living in a far off land didn’t know this). This seemed to give the impression to some that all western women were gagging for sex with virtual strangers, hence they come here thinking that’s the norm.

I don't think its even that. Its cultural norms for such men to dominate women as though they own them, and that women are seen as inferior and unimportant and unworthy of respect or consideration. Added to that is a perception or belief, as you hint at here, that westerners are immoral. Ironically such men will likely believe they have superior moral standards!

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 21:28

The way I see it is like this. The issue is men. Adding More men , many of them traumatised, that have gone through God knows what, with possible metal health issues, that are treated like shit and being told how unwanted they are , with no real supervision , support or input …. Is that really a good idea?

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

nomas · 23/04/2026 23:00

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 22:52

@nomas “the vast majority of rapists and child abusers in the UK are white”

That’s because the vast majority of the population in the UK are white.

Tell to that person who said there is only one white rapist in the UK.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:03

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

You do you , boo.

As for excuses for rape, that’s an institutional failure overall, where anything goes. “I tripped and fell” has been successfully used as a defence for rape before.

GCAcademic · 23/04/2026 23:09

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

Men are nearly always let off after raping, whatever their ethnicity. Have you seen the conviction rates? Rape is virtually decriminalised in this country.

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 23:11

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:03

You do you , boo.

As for excuses for rape, that’s an institutional failure overall, where anything goes. “I tripped and fell” has been successfully used as a defence for rape before.

Yes and "she liked rough sex" as a defence for murder.
I'm not defending British rapists (and murderers) I'm saying that trauma is NOT the reason illegal migrants commit rape.

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 23:14

GCAcademic · 23/04/2026 23:09

Men are nearly always let off after raping, whatever their ethnicity. Have you seen the conviction rates? Rape is virtually decriminalised in this country.

Agreed. I'm not suggesting only migrants get let off with lame excuses. But let's face it, "I didn't know it was illegal" is a whole new level of bullshit.

Traceysgoingtobelivid · 23/04/2026 23:15

Because we have enough of our own rapists and murderers without importing more.

barkygoldie · 23/04/2026 23:15

Im also curious to know who really drives this agenda in the MSM. Rapes by white men are happening all the time but that is not as newsworthy as someone brown skinned. I mean the answer is plain old racism, but who’s pulling the strings. I do wonder if racism, like sexism, was always there but less outwardly expressed in the last couple of decades, and it is now more socially accepted to express it.