AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

Fair. No one or nothing should ever make a noise in the garden. No children playing, no birds tweeting. Nothing but complete silence at all times.

Some might be surprised to learn that there is a graduated continuum between total constant silence, and persistent yapping.

Yes indeed. If only they’d read and understood all the op’s posts.

It could have been worse he could have shouted 'Will you shut the yappy little F**er up FGS' his way was just giving her a taste of how it sounds. I'd have loved to have seen it.

Actually no that’s at least a rational reaction.

(You can say ‘fucker’ on here btw)

Days later and im still baffled at why people are crawling up this weirdos arse to declare how hilarious he is. A grown man ran along a fence barking and snarling at a few barks, acting like a proper sad twat. Id get the ick so bad after seeing that absurd display of toddler behaviour.

Wow, what a lovely man you married. Yet again, we also have a case of a wife not letting her husband be a grown man, and wishing to apologise for his behaviour instead. Typical.

Both my neighbours have dogs. Both yap. I can hear one dog when I'm sitting in my living room. The others if I'm sitting outside. There are lots of people who walk past my flat with yapping dogs on the daily. The man across the road from me has a yappy dog too. Constant barking.

I've never yet felt the need to go on my hands and knees around the fence and start yapping like a dog.

I don't have a dog. I still wouldn't make a complete tit of myself crawling round a fence snarling and yapping like a dog - and then denying it the next day

You threatened to slice a dog's head open with a shovel and three days later the dog was gone and you are proud of that? And your justification for that is that you worked unsocial hours?

As a dog person myself… I see no problem with your husband responding in kind to an obnoxious dog. If the owner thought there was a problem with the behavior, she would be working on teaching her dog (it is NOT an overnight transformation, but you DO see clear attempts at correction and redirection, just as you do with toddlers whose parents have a shred of self-awareness and respect for those around them.) Hopefully this experience will remind the owner that her little angel is not as charming to everyone else as she thinks.

I agree that it isn’t funny. It’s sad, really. But it’s also not something the wife needs to be apologizing for. That’s OP’s husband’s thing to deal with.

I dunno, poisoned meat 🍖 could stop it. 😜 😉

The husband’s a prick but I’m not sure I’d go as far as poisoning him.

😁 😉

Haha, fair enough. Erin Patterson is a lesson to us all! (As is Kouri Ritchins)

I agree with this - it’s one of those noises like snoring that just makes you lose any ability to regulate yourself properly. It goes right through you. Maybe the woman will now realise what a pest it is.

I love how the op says her neighbour takes the dog in if it barks but everyone has interpreted that as 'constantly barks/endlessly yapping'. Your dh has probably now made the barking situation many times worse.

I had a neighbour over the back fence who used to leave her dogs out in her back garden where they would whine and bark for hours causing several neighbours across from us at the front of the house to ask if we had bought dogs. I put up with the din for about four hours before shouting over the back fence in a very loud voice, BE QUIET!!!!!! Within a minute her back door opened and she brought the dogs into the house, peace at last!