AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

Leave it, he should apologise, not you

I wouldn’t apologise. Yappy dogs drive me mad too.

Does she apologise to you for leaving her dog to yap outside?

Omfg I would've loved to have seen that! 😂

I'd say something, it's always good to remain on good terms with the neighbours.

Sorry but I'm having a bad day and this made me laugh. I would apologise

No he doesn't. It might teach the neighbor to look after their dog.

Well done your DH 👏👏😂

I would use it as an opportunity to speak to her about the yapping. Something like - "I am sorry that my husband went a bit mad at your dog last night but the constant barking can be quite wearing. I appreciate all dogs bark to some extent but do you think there's anything you can do to keep it quiet?"

Thing is it’s really out of character for DH, he doesn’t like confrontation so I reckon he’s more embarrassed than I am. When I mentioned it this morning he more or less denied it even happened!

We have a neighbor who allows their yorkie outside all day to mentally barking at absolutely nothing & the neighbor does F all about it. I wear ear plugs it’s so annoying. I wouldn’t DREAM of allowing a pet outside all day to behave that way so your neighbor probably is BU.

I dont actually understand what he has to apologise for... she's in the wrong. I have a dog, if she barks I bring her inside. I dont live in a mansion with 200 acres, so even if im in the attic, it takes less than 20 seconds to do this. There's no excuse for it really, even puppies and rescue dogs you just bring them back inside...

Guess your DH found something that works.

Whilst walking my dog - which rarely barks and never on a walk - on rare occasions, a youngster will see her and think it amusing to bark at her. She takes no notice.

Once when a child of about 10 came eight up and put its face about a foot from hers to do it, I told him not to be so stupid.

OP, whilst yapping dogs are annoying, your DH simply made a fool of himself. The yappy dog next door won't stop as a result of his silly behaviour.

She does take it back in though! This is what I mean we can’t complain as it’s not constant, just very regular

I'd leave it, and if she says something then say 'yes, I'm sorry your dog barking made my dog bark', hopefully you'll both laugh it off and she'll keep the noise down.

I think when someone makes a statement like your DH did it's up to them whether they feel an apology is appropriate or not.

I think best approach is for DH to go around and explain he was tired, sick of the noise and snapped , and offer a simple apology , this then puts the neighbour in the picture about how annoying yappy dog is (we all get daft about our pets so it’s likely she just doesn’t realise how annoying it is !) and she can then in turn stop the amount of time she is letting the dog create a noise.

That's hilarious, Team DH all the way

Tbh, I think if your DH does this he needs some kind of help!!! He sounds like he had some kind of psychotic episode. I would assume your neighbour thinks DH is mentally unwell.

That or a werewolf

Omg 😂 gave me a good chuckle thanks. It made me think of this guy

I would question the mental wellness of anyone who breaks like this and acts in that way.

Say you were looking after someone's dog and it yaps a bit.

Amazing, I don't suppose this was caught on camera?!

I wouldn't apologise personally.

We have a dog behind us that barks every single time I go in the garden. It must live outside. Its constant all times of day and night, everytime I step out there. Our neighbours next door sold up and moved becuase of it.
I shout 'Shut Up' v loudly everytime.

Your DH has nothing to aplogise for IMO