AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

Sounds like something to try to laugh off

I think he did a good thing, this neighbour should feel ashamed, not you. If it was my husband I would side with him, he's simply complaining in quite an unusual way. Maybe they got the message now. He's only pointing out their responsibilities, and it takes courage. Apologising would mean that you don't have a great opinion on your husband, and that she's in the right. It doesn't look good sorry. Family first for me.

To be fair I don’t blame your husband. The constant barking would drive me nuts!

I'd leave it. Let him say sorry. What an odd way to behave

So many of you must have utter bellends for husbands. Sorry.

OMG, I remember that clip, the dingos. The wife as calm as anything, lol.
OP - it was a massive over reaction from your DH and if he can't bring himself to apologise, then maybe you could, but make it light hearted. DH stressed and dog barking tipped him over the edge/lost the plot.

Why should he apologise? The owner of the yappy dog should apologise for annoying her neighbour

If the dog yaps a lot, ask her to keep her dog indoors. Its extremely annoying

Option3.
pretend you have no idea it happened. Act normal with her. If she mentions it, act confused “oh did he? That’s very bizarre, I can only apologise if he did that. That kind of behaviour would be very out of character for him! I’ll have a word with him”
then get your husband to go grovelling.

Thats not the case with this dog though is it. OP said it isn't constant and the neighbours bring it in if it starts barking. My dog is a barking dog too, he drives me mad, but I still have to leave him out sometimes. Some days he is good and just chills, others he barks every time he leaves the house. I bring him in after a few minutes.

If the neighbours started barking at him I would think they lost the plot. Wouldn't expect an apology though, would find it hilarious. So OP don't worry. I would kick off though if my next door neighbour complained about my dog barking when their dog is locked out the whole working day crying and howling the whole time. If it is constant it is totally different to just having to let your dog go out for a bit

⬆️ this. I’m team DH, l hate yappy dogs

Totally agree - if you cant behave properly as a dog owner you shouldnt own one - no wonder your husband snapped

What do you mean, ‘breaks’?

I think anyone whose neighbour allows their yappy dogs to make a noise should behave, at least, like your husband. Well done him.

The op says it’s not constant and the owner takes the dog in when it happens. The husband is unable to control his emotions and you all think it’s funny.

Team husband all the way! Years ago in our first house the hilly nature of the area meant that our house had a 3 foot wall which was just above the plastic roof of a dog pound in next door's garden and they bred salukis, a very highly strung animal at the best of times. Out cat loved to sprawl out along the wall when it was sunny and this drove the dogs crazy. The neighbours complained about this, threatened us with the police and we got a solicitor's letter threatening legal action if we didn't stop him winding up their sensitive dogs!

Exactly. Yappy fucking dogs are enough to turn a Saint into a barking psychopath!

Laughed out loud at this, I love it. And I would also react in the same way afterwards (ie. pretending it never happened).

Well done, DH.

How do you tell a cat what to do or not do?! Plus it was your cats walk by the sound of it

Get a dog whistle.

Yes like keeping it in the house more.

It's obvious who are dog owners and who aren't in this thread 😂

If I lived next to a barking dog and was having a bad day, I would probably end up snapping too.

OP, your husband has nothing to apologise for. At least now your neighbour knows how annoyed you are with her yapping dog.

I have never owned a dog in my life. I still think the DH acted like a twat

Ha ha. When I was younger I worked all hours for social services. Often I would get in at 3, 4, 5 am. At 6 the attached neighbours would kick their mongrel out...bark bark bark. Having had an hours sleep I lost it and in my pants started hurling abuse at the dog and threatening to slice its head open with the spade I happened to have in my hand. My neighbours in the area had never ever heard me raise my voice and the dog looked a bit peturbed. The owners stayed inside. 3 days later the dog was gone. " James (aged 2 ) beit it on the tayel (they were welsh)". I think you have to stand your ground. 2 weeks later I heard her screaming so I jumped the low fence to find hubby (and first cousin) on the floor convulsing. He could pick a mini up he was so strong. He had pared the flesh off his hand with a grinder, and swallowed his tongue. As I put my fingers in to hook his tongue out he had another fit and bit down on my 2 index fingers with his neanderthal jaws. I manged to wriggle my right (now deformed) finger free and gave him a right whack in the face to save the left digit from amputation.
They moved and divorced shortly after that. He might have been an ignorant dick and I have no regrets about my extreme behaviour towards the dog. No thanks for saving his life but I dont regret my actions.
Ps how can a picture of a deformed finger be 'sensitive'?

The dog owner is a twat for letting her dog bark
she got the message and did the decent thing and took the yappy fucker in