AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

The way everyone is saying your DH shouldn't apologise as the neighbour should take better care of her dog because it was barking would never be this critical about a mother if it was a child crying. A barking dog doesn't equate to a dog not being looked after. Even if her husband screamed "shut up", it would be a little less crazy and understandable if you're in a bad mood than actually going outside in the garden growling and barking, a full grown ass man (at someone else's dog).

Why is it a child can literally scream the place down and if you judge that they must be bad parents (much like how a dog barking equals a bad dog owner, apparently), people are like "aww, they're just kids, it's what they do, the parents can't control them", yet with a literal animal that you cannot reason with or talk to, you're allowed to be critical? I'm not talking newborn babies here who cannot communicate, I'm talking little 3 or 4 year old brats that run amok and the parents sit there and do nothing, because it's just "kids being kids". I know I've gone off-topic but it still stands and both are annoying. Just because it's a dog doesn't mean you can take the piss. Imagine the outrage if the husband started pretending to throw a temper tantrum like a child and laid on the floor banging his arms and fake cried like a baby. Sounds funny on paper but, irl, you ladies would be up in arms, seething with rage that he be so insensitive to the little precious cherub and a poor exhausted mother.

Make it make sense.

This is why I think approaching neighbours often just doesn't work. They're oblivious to it and the fact not everybody gives a fuck about their dogs. If they're that oblivious to start with they'll generally continue to oblivious. In this case it's reached a level of of being so completely unbearable that an adult has genuinely snapped. It's mortifying and hilarious equally.

Omg I lived next to a Yorkie thing never shut up drove me insane irritating aswell!

I have a dog and if my dog was barking and being annoying, I would thoroughly enjoy your husband being a mad dog over the fence. I can’t stand yappy dogs and if mine barks more than twice (rare), then she comes straight in. Your neighbour is a nose nuisance and neither you or your husband need apologise. ☺️

Come on to fuck.

Because you can train a dog! Because you SHOULD train your dog.

What it Will do is encourage to dog to bark far more! Surely you can see that!

That's what I was thinking. If you enjoy hearing a dog barking next door then barking back at it is a wonderful idea!

Jesus Fuck, what a cringey, embarrassing prick. Barking and snarling back at a dog? Oh, ffs..

This post really made me laugh! Cheered me up no end. But on a more serious note I totally can see why DH cracked. Barking dogs can be really stressful to listen to, especially if you have had a stressful day yourself and just need some quiet time. You and your DH definitely don't need to apologise. There is only one person being unreasonable here and it is your neighbour! I think you should give your DH a hug, as he needs it.

Bonkers.

You can train dogs not to bark. If you do not train your dog not to bark, then it will do it for its entire life and you are an antisocial neighbour and lazy owner.

Children shouldn't be left to scream either, but they will grow up and stop.

Sometimes when you're tired and stressed, you overeact - which is what your husband did? Maybe the next door neighbour needs to learn a thing or two about her dog - maybe your husband needs to calm down a bit. I'd leave this one - you didn't bark at her dog and you aren't the cause of his irritation. Pour yourself a glass of something chill and just let them get on with it - no need for you to apologise!

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No you don’t !

As someone who is demented by both my neighbours dogs(one a yappy little wretch and the other a German shepherd) I would not apologize and neither should DH. In fact I’d get him to do it again the next time she leaves the little bollix outside barking.

Can he come round mine and do the same to my neighbour's dog please?

He’s an arse and if he was my husband I would be mortified.

@plaidpillowme too, this is the funniest video I’ve seen all year, currently suppressing my laughter on a train and watching it on repeat. Well done to your DH I think it’s hilarious

None of you need the husband to help. If you think this is either acceptable or hilarious just go out and bark yourselves.

Does he have menopausal rage? Because I do identify with his behaviour.

I don’t think you should apologise on someone’s behalf. I

Oh chill your jets, it’s funny and no less than the yappy little fucker deserved.

Not sure you know very much about psychosis versus being really pissed off

That’s ok. Very few of you know anything about comedy yet still feel able to comment.

No way should he apologise. The dog should be trained.