AIBU to apologise after DH barked at the neighbour's dog?

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Last year the neighbour behind us got a small dog. It yaps.

Anyway DH has been complaining to me about this irritating dog ever since she got it and admittedly it is very annoying but what can you do? It’s during the day and it’s not constant.

He’s been away with work for 3 days and has come back grumpy and tired - last night he went outside to check on his plants and the dog started yapping. DH went absolutely bonkers, started running up and down the fence barking and snarling like a dog until the woman came out and hastily took her dog back inside. Mortified!! I know he was tired but Jesus he was acting like a psychopath

Hes back at work today and she’s sat outside in the sun - do I pop my head over and apologise/explain or leave it and assume we’re no longer on good terms 😬

I have a yappy (& yampy!) dog that barks at everything. She wears a bark collar, that beeps & vibrates when she starts to bark, which stops her straight away. (It's not painful, myself & my kids all tried it out before it ever went near the dog!!) I don't see why my choice of psychotic, perma-shedding, fur-ball dog, should be an interruption or annoyance to my neighbours. (Payment of the fur tax)

Oh blimey. Scaring dogs into submission and laughing at men being dickheads. What fun!

Lol omg that's hilarious

Like it or not, you can't stop dogs barking. Approach her and have a laugh about you Husbands madness.

Ivr just woken the baby laughing at this. Love that he did that. Yappy dogs are so annoying

Can't decide on how to 'vote' - he sounds like a twat, doggies do bark & may be annoying, but cannot imagine having a DH behaving like this.....

This is something I've thought of doing to our neighbour's dogs. They're just let out to bark and bark and bark. There have been times, usually if I'm trying to sit in the garden after a noisy day in work, where I've wanted to go and bark at them. I've had to restrain myself to a frustrated 'shut up shut up shut up' instead.

Don't apologise. Surely you can train dogs to not bark constantly? All my neighbours have dogs and they rarely bark. Hopefully she will take it on board, good for DH 👏

Also Team DH, letting your dog constantly make noise unchecked is anti social behaviour, no wonder the poor chap snapped. He’s been away for three days working, gets back to what should be his place of peace and his sanctuary and has to put up with that. Don’t apologise, it’s undermining him, and your neighbour might have got the hint now about her badly trained annoying dog!

Yeah don’t undermine the man. Let him bark!

Yes you can. You train them properly.

Watch ‘dogs behaving very very badly’.
Dogs are infinitely trainable unless you know absolutely nothing about dogs; in which case, I would argue, no one that ignorant should have responsibility for a pet with very particular needs.

Can you train a grown man not to act like a bit of a knob though?

Sounds like the husband should apologise. I think its only worth the OP talking to the neighbour if the dog barking is a real issue (meaning its left outside to bark an unreasonable amount of time).
I used to have 4 little yappy dogs in a very built up area so lots of things set them off. If they started barking they got one chance to shush and if they didnt they would be brought in. I stayed out with them as well as the time so they couldnt just kick off unattended (also never let them out at unsocial hours).

Maybe point out to hubby too that he has just 'agreed' with small yappy dog about proper barking procedures and dog probably now feels vindicated in its yappiness!!LOL😂

Letting a dog bark in its garden next to neighbours is antisocial behaviour on the part of the dog’s owner. Your OH did the right thing in a humorous way. How would your neighbour feel if a large dog barked non stop at her yappy one on the other side of the fence? I love dogs and I trained mine not to bark. He doesn’t even bark when both neighbours’ dogs bark on either sides of our fences. Dog’s owner needs to train her dog or keep him indoors.

One thing you could consider is gifting her a Dogtra bark collar. I have 7 rescue dogs and these collars (though pricey) are the best on the market. When the dog barks the first time, the collar vibrates. When it barks a second time, the collar shocks the dog. And before everyone freaks out and says 'how cruel" you can SET the level of shock. I have mine set to what feels like a static shock from walking on carpet. I test it on my own bare skin before I put it on the dog. My dogs freak out just from the weird feeling of the vibration, so they don't even do one bark. I don't leave my dogs outside with these collars on if I leave home, I bring the dogs inside (fear of getting collar caught on something and strangling) But you will have instant silence when you put it on.

The sound of a barking dog drives me loopy (there's one outside now and I've had to put my earplugs in, some owners seem unbothered by the noise and therefore are slow to react to it). Better than shouting even if it seems a tad more unhinged. It's a very stressful noise for some people and we do reach breaking point sometimes. When I'm out and about I can move myself but not so easy at home.

The dog owner should apologise. Nobody needs that noise.

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Of course you can. The vast majority of dogs are trained and don't run around barking all day every day.

I think he's a legend. Yappy dogs are dreadful when you want a bit of peace, I'm sure the owner as the one who chose the dog can tune it out or perhaps enjoys the noise, but in general its annoying and if you already find it annoying, it's a big trigger to be yapped loudly at while just being in the garden. I think he's awesome to have drawn attention to the annoyance as let's face it, a nice conversation probably wouldn't have yielded such fast results.

I think dog owners forget that mot everyone wants to hear it, my brother is a dog dad and he doesn't give af that his dogs bark in the day and disturb the neighbours just shrugs and says they're entitled to.

Of course you can but sadly there are so many owners who've got a dog since COVID and have no idea how to train them and/or are too lazy to.

They are a lifestyle accessory to them, rather than a living being.

I went to the pub today and there were several dogs who'd been dragged there while their owners had meals, and some of them were clearly very fed up, whining and clearly distressed. But the owners are the dog lovers. Sure.

How is having your dog outside barking not looking after your dog? Dogs bark, like babies cry and kids scream blue bloody murder. Why are those ok but not dogs barking?

Yes apologise. If my neighbour did that I'm jump the fence and deck him. What a sad little twat.

Absolutely not! Your husband has every right to go out and enjoy his garden without being yapped at by an irritating dog! NYP!!
The neighbour should have shut the dog up, I hope now she's taken the hint!!!
If you apologize, they'll only continue to let the yappy dog yap every time you approach the fence/enter your garden.

I have had years of torment listening to a never ending yapping, howling dog all hours of the day and night. I tried the polite approach endless times, they didn't care.
I'm fed up with dog owners thinking they have a right to disrupt your safe space.
Your husband is entitled to come home after a stressful few days and chill out in his garden without listening to that!! Good on him!!!
Definitely not a psychopath, just fed up!!!
Take his side, not the dogs! Or the owners who should no better!!