AIBU to refuse to let relatives take my children’s Easter eggs to donate to a food bank?

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We had relatives visiting yesterday who saw our children’s Easter eggs and throughout the day kept commenting that they have too many. I said they’ll eat them eventually so not to worry. They do have a lot, but they are all aged 15+ so perfectly capable of deciding what they want to eat. One child opened one during the day and offered it around. They’ve been sharing them with friends and will eat them so they won’t go to waste.

As my relatives were leaving, they said they would take some of the eggs and donate them to a food bank and started putting some in a bag. I told her to stop as kids would eat them. They continued choosing which ones to take so I again told them no.

One of my children came downstairs to tell them to leave them alone as well and asked them to put them back. Relative told my child (teen) that she should think of others and not be so selfish. I told her not to call my child selfish for not wanting to give away eggs that are theirs.

Relatives husband said I was being unreasonable and selfish, like my child. My husband then came home which stopped the conversation. They left soon after, without the eggs, but clearly weren’t happy.

They have sent me a text this morning to say they were disappointed in what I said and for siding with my child and that they would like an apology as they were ‘told off’ and were ‘made to feel embarrassed.’

Would you even bother to respond? It’s completely pathetic but I don’t feel like I have anything to apologise for.

She behaved appallingly and you don't owe her an apology.

However, it does sound like a very over the top amount of Easter chocolate (and associated packaging)

I.love this reply. I'd block them. No more nasty text messages and id not invite them into your home until you and your DC receive an apology.

If they mention an apology again, tell them you agree an apology would be in order, from them, to your children for attempting to take their property without permission.

You might add that once they have apologised, they will be welcome in your home again,

Anyone who told my child he was selfish and tried to take his things wouldn't see the inside of my house again.

It wasn't their home, wasn't their Easter eggs and wasn't their children. They are perfectly entitled to their opinion, but they don't have the right to impose those onto other people.

As for taking the eggs, when they'd repeatedly been told that your children didn't want to give them away, that was plain rude.

I would reply back: You were in my home as guests, the children aren't yours and the eggs were gifts to my children. You are entitled to your own opinion/beliefs, but you don't get to impose that on others.

The other option, is to ignore the message completely.

If they were my relatives, they'd be waiting a very long time for an apology!!

I have an elderly aunt who is orthorexic. She is a maiden aunt and so had to be invited for Christmas every year. Every Boxing Day, she would literally tuck into a bowl of cold, leftover sprouts for her breakfast and tut at us if we ate any ‘bad’ food. She is unhealthily interested in food and believes that people who are ill in any way have brought it upon themselves by not subsisting on a diet of seeds. I consider this as much of an eating disorder as anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorder.

There are still eggs in some shops
They could go buy them up and donate.

I think you do have to reply to your mother, not to apologise, but to point out how inappropriate her behaviour is. If she wants to donate to food banks (laudable) then she should either give them money or buy something to donate. She has no right to take anyone else's goods or infect impressionable teenagers with her unhealthy attitude to food.

Sorry your 15yo still has party bags at parties? I think I’ve misunderstood.

Batshit!

How many eggs do your dc have?!

When they were young, it might have been a crème egg and a little bunny. They’re all much older now, so they might choose to eat 2 bigger eggs on one day of the year. I really don’t think that’s anything to worry about at their ages when their overall diet is healthy, they’re active and they’re healthy weights. My children’s attitude to food really is very healthy and I have no concerns at all about it.

lol, that would be funny. No the party bag thing was when my mum took my son to a birthday party of a school friend when they were about aged 6. She told the mum of the birthday child not to put cake in my son’s party bag because she saw it as bad food.

I’d reply, ‘You say that you were made to feel embarrassed. Well, I think you probably should feel rather sheepish. I wouldn’t go into someone’s home and try to forcibly take away Easter gifts that others have bought for the children who live there. That’s what you did yesterday. You can donate your own purchases to a food bank, but not things from our home without asking.’

I'd reply that they jolly well ought to feel embarrassed because, indeed, you had felt the need to tell them off. They were guests in your home and should behave better.

Why are you referring to them only as “relative” rather than MIL or DM?

From reading all your replies, it’s clear your mother has some serious issues around food. Well done for growing up with a healthy attitude yourself.

It’s interesting that she considers the eggs bad for your children’s health but she doesn't give a shit about the health of the families who use food banks.

They all ended up with about 12 eggs, some creme eggs and a bag of mini eggs each. It’s like this every year ans family and friends still like to buy for them. It gets eaten over months so it’s not like they’re eating it all within a week.

They all ate two eggs on Easter Sunday, the ones that were about £1.50 this year so not big ones. Oldest has taken 1 bigger egg back to uni and the rest are still here. The other two have eaten a few things since Easter Sunday which they’ve shared when they’ve had friends here or taken to eat at the cinema.

I’ve since said it’s my mum and dad.

This happened.

Insane behaviour.
My DS (9) still has 2 eggs left over that he was given, he always eats his Easter gifts over a few weeks/months.

Someone turning up with Easter eggs over two weeks later would not look generous anyway.

"Apologise" for "making her feel bad" after she'd behaved badly.

Yes, you have a toxic mum.

What fruit bats!

Who the fuck voted YABU?
WTF?! 😨
I would tell this relatives to stop pushing their nonsense onto you and your kids, and that they are welcome to use their OWN money to purchase Easter eggs and donate them to a food bank of their choice.
Cheeky twats
@ConnectionsAndWordle

Screenshot this thread and all the responses and send it to them and never speak to them again.

No response necessary.
They are not welcome in your home.
Food bank seems highly unlikely.. guessing they wanted a snack on the way home.
Well done 😊