Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

[Imacelebritygotit]

I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

Your mother should be the one getting the rest of the money from her friend. Might make her think twice before overstepping if she has to go back and eat her words. Would serve her right

Makes me especially upset because my mother knows of financial struggles dh and I’ve been having recently

and has told me in past this woman is a well off pensioner who brags about all the expensive holidays she goes on, paying for her grandsons gf holidays and putting her grandkid through private school

Tell the woman that there was a misunderstanding and you don’t offer friends discounts. Ask her to pay the outstanding £x via online banking as agreed between you two.

Your mother will call you upset - you can then explain that it’s more humiliating to appear generous with other people’s money than to just have accepted the woman paying what she agreed in the first place and that it’s her own fault she’s embarrassed.

I guess that’s why she’s friends with your Mum then - they both like taking the piss.

Hope you get paid for your work. Doesn’t sound like this woman will be a good client if she has issues making a simple payment and only wants to pay £10 for future work.

I'd tell your mums friend that the low price was a one off as a favour seeing as she's your mums friend but that any further work would have to be charged at full price. It'd be a bit awkward to ask her for the remaining money as it wasn't her fault and she'd probably feel very embarrassed at what your mum had done if she knew the truth. You need to speak to your mother and give it to her straight.

It honestly sounds as if your mum likes putting people in awkward positions & embarrassing them

She gave your mother an envelope with the agreed amount of cash, and your mother opened it? Then they had entire argument where this woman explained how much she had agreed to pay you, then tried to get it past your mother by sayng to treat it as a gift, and in the end... what, she took all the money back, and left £10 for your mum to give to you? All this sounds like she absolutely intended to pay you the agreed amount, and was steamrollered by your mother. It suggests she would be open to pay the outstanding amount, maybe with a "sorry, I just couldn't get your mum to take the money, I 'm so glad you contacted me".
But then on the other hand, the talk of how she was previously ripped off, and wants to hire you again to do half a day's work for almost nothing sounds so utterly at odds with that, I would question the truthfulness of the entire story (as told by your mum).

Agree with this.

In the mean time you go to your mums house and start removing food/products from her fridge/cupboards and when she goes ape shit you look her in the eye and tell her, no no no I'm you're daughter and can't live on £10, do you want to see me starve.

Gather the bits then leave.

Ask your mum to go to friends house and collect the money. Then make sure you never involve your mum in any future budiness transactions!

This is perfect

Tell your mother that you do not offer mates rates & she is to stay out of your business. Quite honestly, she needs to practice what she preaches.

Oh god OP, my mum was a bit like this. Is your mum Italian by any chance? Anyway, I think you might have to write this off as a bad experience but never do any more work for this woman or other friends of your mother's.

Does your mum really think you’re worth less than £3 per hour? Bet she doesn’t charge that for cleaning! No way would I ever be saying yes to anything connected to your mum. Sounds like your family are more than happy to pump each other out for jobs and favours

Hi ***
Thank you for your feedback on my quality of work. Its always great to hear that.
I apologise for my mother interfering and I have spoken to her regarding her actions as they were inappropriate. She has nothing to do with my business.
My hourly rate is xxx and any future work that you may wish for me to undertake will stand at that price.
If you wish to employ my services again, please contact me direct on 07777......
Kind regards
Imaceleb

That whole situation is so annoying @Imacelebritygotit because your Mum
has really muddied the waters.

All you can do is clarify by saying something like “I’m so sorry my Mum said XYZ, this is why I prefer direct payment. As I told you before, £YY.YY is my hourly rate, which I thought you were happy with and will be the rate going forwards”.

Your Mum is batshit

I'd be annoyed. I'm a Head of Department (teacher) with 30 years experience and someone I vaguely knew asked if I could tutor their child for GCSE, making it sound like 'they would be so grateful if I could do them this favour'.

I told them that my fees for private tuition would begin at about £50 an hour, depending on what they required, but I could have a brief look at what they wanted and cost it up for them if they liked.

They were utterly taken aback, but honestly, I would need to prepare materials, spend an hour with their kid and then mark and give feedback to them. I'm not willing to do that for less than £50. I don't know what their garage charges, or their plumber, but why they think any professional wants to do their job for free or for peanuts is a mystery to me.

I'm certainly not giving 3.5 - 4 hours of my time for a tenner!

This! the woman had no right bit had your mum you need to be very firm about this

I think the woman knew your mum would say that.

Probably why she wanted to go via your mum.

Don't do any more work for her- you are "fully booked" if she asks

Tell your mother to wind her neck in - you now if there is another time to leave her right out of it: bank transfer or cash to you.

Tell the friend that she still owes you money, you want a transfer or cash in your hand and that you had clearly communicated your price. (if you like tell her that was "mates rates" already and work for other people will be at 10% higher.

I'm a very good at crochet, very good and the number of people who see something I've made and ask for one for free us astonishing. My blankets sell for £200 to £300 on Etsy jumpers for 60 to 80 etc and the amount of people who say oh I'll pay for the wool. No you won't. Spend twenty years perfecting your craft and then give it free to strangers if you want to I don't.

Glad you've told her she needs to pay you as agreed.

OP never take on ANY work via your mother again.

How much was the agreed amount? What is the difference between the £10?

Ask your mum for the difference. Because you did not agree to a lower amount. That she can either pay it herself, OR get the money from her friend.

Friend is outrageous as she knows what the agreed rate was.

Invoice your mother the difference. If she kicks off then tell her she has effectively stolen money from you and either she pays or she goes to her friend and gets the money instead. Either way you are out of pocket due to her actions and your mother needs to set it right. Sometimes a screaming match is very cathartic 😉

If this person requires you to translate again then either ask for the money up front, or be "too busy".

I think this is the best text to send.

But also wouldn't book any work for your mum's friends anymore