Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

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I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

Of course she will hire you again at such a good price……CF!
Time to tell you mum to butt out of your sideline business, there’s no mates rates now!

I used to have this with clothing repairs……someone wanted a trouser zip replacing ( my least favourite job by the way ) and only wanted to cough up for the cost of the zip! Sorry, but what about the time, sewing thread, use of machine……….or doesn’t that count?

So you’ve messaged and told her she does actually owe you the money? How much was she suppose to
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And how much help does give others herself, for free?

My Mum used to do this when I babysat for her friends' kids. Said it made her feel embarrassed that they paid me.

Your mum needs to make up the difference. Is there a cultural thing here?

Perfect. Explains the situation, puts the blame firmly on interfering mother and tells her how the discrepancy can be sorted. Also clearly sets out information for further work.

Absolutely! I think people have no idea how long things take if they are handcrafted. I'm impressed at your crochet skills; I can knit ok, but I've never managed to master crochet (and my knitting is certainly not good enough to sell).

I don't think people realise how much wool costs either, or how much will be needed. I've given up making jumpers now because the cost of the wool will probably be around the £50 mark and my skills aren't such that my jumper will look that good! I could buy a nicer sweater cheaper than I could make myself one for, and it would take months of effort.

Your mum is well out of order. You will have to decline any further opportunities to work for people your mum knows, which is a shame, but you have every right to be paid a reasonable wage for any job unless you specifically agree in advance that you are doing it as a volunteer.

You need to get back to this person. Tell her your mother was mistaken only charging £10 for 3 1/2 hi puts work and ask for remaining amount to be paid via bank transfer then tell her you'd be happy to go more work for her but repeat your rate to her. If that was my Mum I'd tell her to keep her nose out off my business and she'd caused embarrassment as you had to go back to her friend and tell her you wanted the agreed rate for work. Then I'd give Mum a wide birth for a while.

Have you asked your mum why she thinks you should work for £2.50 ph? Your mum sounds very unreasonable, why would she even think it’s ok to open an envelope that wasn’t for her?

Ok if the other woman leaves you on read long term there’s not much you can do about that with her, other than I’d send another message with your bank details saying there is still £x outstanding from the agreed payment for the work, that you are all happy to take a cheque.

For your mum, the riot act needs to be read. You need to be properly angry. Don’t let her guilt you into thinking you are anything other than in the right. She interfered, you had agreed a price. You are horrified she thinks so little of you to think your time is worth less than £2 an hour. Would she work for that as a cleaner? No? Then how dare she think you should be happy to work for that just so she can look good. say you still consider yourself owed £x and now are having to chase her friend for the money. A problem your mum has caused. Tell her you will never do a favour for one of her friends so she should never recommend you to work for them in anyway unless she and they understand it would be at full rate.

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Your mum shouldn't be involved. Why did you say ok to her paying her? The invoice should've gone directly to the customer.

Just tell her:
I don't know what happened, but we agreed on £ for the work. Please send the remaining £ here (bank details).

If your mum contacts you tell her same and she was wrong to say otherwise, but you are owed £ for the work. If she argues, repeat it.

Just say in future you don’t mix work and social / friends or relatives. And never work for anyone your Dm knows again .
Bit hard to prise the money from her now and you’d be MAD to work for her again.

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Nah, tell your mum that being nice and doing favours does not pay the electricity bill. If your mum wants to ensure you are paid way lower than the going rate, perhaps your mum would like to pay the difference..

I'd tell that woman that it was a one-time special deal, instigated by your mum and the rates are what they were before going forward.

I would imagine the reason your customer hasn't come back to you yet, is that she wants to speak to your Mum. I would in her place, and would tell her that she's caused me a lot of embarrassment, and I would be seriously reconsidering whether I wanted her as a friend.

I'd message her back and explain you'd like paying the agreed amount and that you don't work for free. There was no need for her to be paying or involving your mother. I'd ask for it as a bank transfer and refuse anymore work for your mother's friends.

So what was the original agreed price? Whatever it was minus £10, you should tell your mother she now owes you. She is bang out of order.

Message the lady back and tell her the truth. Say you did this one job at a very low price because your mum basically insisted, but if she'd like to use you in future then while you'd be delighted to help, the normal hourly rate applies.

The friend must know it was a mistake if you'd told he the cost at the outset so just reply to the message and tell her you're sorry for the confusion but your price is still £X and can she please transfer this.

I wouldn't say "I don't know what's happened" at the issue was clearly the mother and the friend intended to pay...

Perhaps say you're sorry your mum didn't let you pay the agreed amount and can she please pay by bank transfer after all.

I would send her something by post rather than relying on messaging in case you need to take her to small claims

She didn't do the job at the low rate, she's expecting payment. Her mother intervened and said "don't be paying that", not the person who did the work and set the price. Why make it sound like she's ok being paid the measly sum of £10 for 4 hours work? The woman hasn't paid as far as op is concerned and still owes her the money.

Absolutely not - the client has taken the mick as much as the Mum. She shouldn’t be rewarded for being a CF.