Mother told her friend she doesnt have to pay me?

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I do translating/admin e.g appointments, filling out forms. Work stuff on the side

My mums friend heard i do this and hired me. We agreed on sum etc

I did 3.5 hours work

She then tells me she will give the money when she sees my mum the next day, i agree

My mother then goes "omg guess how much she paid you!!!" "I said no, no, no, no! You are a friend!!!! Absolutely no need to pay that much!!! Wtf!!! 10 pound is fine!!! But she insisted she pays you the agreed amount!!!!! Said treat it as a gift then. But then i insisted and said 10 pound is fine!!!! Trust me!

Explaining to her is useless she just keeps going She is a friend!!! You cant charge her like other people!!!/anyone else!! How can you be so money hungry and greedy!!!

Am i right to be angry about this! I mean this woman is not my friend, i barely know her. And it was like 4 hours work!!!

Edit: oh and now im getting texts from this woman saying she was very happy with such a good price, what a nice person i am and how others she hired "take advantage and over charge". And she wants to hire me again for same price!

Your mother is a selfish biotch.

If your Mum thinks people should work for free why does she not do all this, after all they are such good friends surely she won’t mind?!

Stick up for yourself and say no!

I'm actually angry on your behalf!!

YANBU at all. Just cut your mam out in future, she obviously doesn't understand business etc.

Sounds like something my mother in law (God rest her soul) would have done.

Just tell her that your mother quoted a price which is not affordable to you, and you can't take more jobs from her. Enough of these spongers!

I would call the client and say sorry my mother is wrong. Rate is what we agreed so th balance is still owing and it’s this….. Sorry if mother has made things awkward but she hadn’t spoken to me so had no authority to offer you a lower price. Hope you understand please pay me the balance ask by bank transfer .. or I can collect the cash from you direct and cut mother out of the conversation. Friend may not even mention it so mother. you get your money and you all move on. You should not let someone else get involved in your business affairs whoever they are.

Tell your mum to keep her beak out

This is a hill I’d die on.

I’m a hairdresser and do some of my mum’s friends for a cheaper rate. I’d like to think I’d get it back somewhere down the line in kindness.
what I will say is it’s not your mum’s right to make the decision on prices. Have a chat with her and tell her to not do that again, it’s not about being greedy it’s someone valuing your time. X

I think it’s a very useful service you are providing OP. Well done for helping people out in this way.

She's not providing a service for goodwill's sake, she's running a business!

Your mum sounds like an idiot. Don’t ever let her get involved again.

Hopefully the woman will reply. She was obviously originally happy to pay the full amount. How much was the full amount, out of interest? And how long ago did you message her?

I think your mum really needs to be told to keep her nose out of your business or private things.
The "friend" obviously knows she can't do it herself and appreciates you have to pay for a service.
I think I would tell her that it has to be full price and explain your mum was interfering and was wrong to take less money on your behalf.
Your mum clearly has no understanding of what you do, maybe tell her to do the work if she think its only worth a tenner? 😆

This.

Go round to her house - she's probably still got the cash in its envelope.

And your mum is a piece of work!

I would text your mum thank you for volunteering to make up the short fall so I can eat this week but I'm petty that way!

So sorry this has happened. Completely understand you don't want to fall out with your Mum about this so maybe it's just a matter of a lesson learned? Alternatively you communicate directly with clients confirming your hourly rate and that your mother may be a little out of touch regarding current costs of living and the value of the service you provide. How many people can afford to work for £2.50 an hour?!

It’s not petty. The mother made a unilateral decision to gift her friend most of the money her daughter earned. A debt is owed.

Your mum has royally fucked this up.

How can it be true that the woman can’t afford it after trying to give the cash?

Send your mum an invoice for the full amount. Then get her beak out of your business.

It may be that the mother all but promised mates rates to her friend and then was a bit embarrassed when the full bill came through.

In which case she should have just put her own money in the envelope to make up the shortfall. OP’s money was not hers to give.

I would remind your Mum that she charged HER good friend for cleaning when she needed it! This literally blows my mind. How awkward 🙈

You should tell your mother she owes you the difference and you will never be doing any work for her friends ever again after this.
You should tell the lady that you are disappointed that she hasn’t replied, has only paid you £10 for all the work you did for her and consequently you will not be doing any more work for her.

This is what you need to send

So your mum’s think it’s ok to work for £2.50 an hour

what did you charge for the 3.5/4hrs

guessing around £60 so £15ph

really your mum should pay the Diff tho you say she can’t

hopefully lady will pay you the diff as that was the price you agree on and you spent hours doing it

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I agree that your mother is totally out of order here, but why was she involved in paying you at all? You’re running a business, and favours don’t pay bills.