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To suspect police are worried about vigilantes - Epsom attack

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ReadingCrimeFiction · 14/04/2026 16:19

I live relatively close to Epsom and so this appalling assault is all over my news feeds and social media.

BBC News - Town left in shock by appalling rape outside church
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

The police have asked for witnesses but no descriptions have been given. Cue lots of very disturbing posts and comments from people who very clearly think these men are not white.

I can think of half a dozen scenarios where this is not being disclosed but, based on the comments, I think it all comes down to fears that local communities will take it on themselves to "apprehend" anyone who even vaguely looks like the perpetrators? And while the comments I am seeing are mostly white people being disgusting in their assumptions about brown and black people, i can imagine police would he equally concerned if, for example, the woman was Asian or Black and her attackers were white.

Is this where we are at? Where people make horrible racist assumptions and/or where police have to worry about how they will protect the broader community if they give any details of criminals?

A church built with stone. There is a sign in front of the building.

Epsom left in shock by appalling rape outside church

Helen Maguire says she is "appalled" by the incident outside Epsom Methodist Church on Saturday.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8dl5yevjg9o

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Ficinothricegreat · 16/04/2026 14:19

Vinvertebrate · 16/04/2026 07:53

This is my take, too. The police clearly must know something about the attackers and the decision not to release it creates a vacuum. We never learn.

Yes, the vacuum always creates issues.
i understand the victim was followed out of the nightclub, if they know that, surely they must know who these people are - because otherwise how would they know they followed her outside from a night club.

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 14:21

BluebellShmoobell · 16/04/2026 14:10

I watched a woman on YouTube recently who used to work in msm and is still a journalist and knows her stuff says this government will not allow the media to give descriptions of terrible crimes if the perpetrators are non white basically because of unrest and upsetting the narrative that diversity is our strength.
Remember when the guy in Liverpool hit the crowd in his car the fact he was white came out immediately.

What is her name, please? I would like to watch this for myself.

Clavinova · 16/04/2026 14:22

LVhandbagsatdawn · 16/04/2026 14:13

No it didn't.

There were posts for several days about how it must have been a terrorist attack committed by someone brown.

The photos / video stills from the incident, which were taken of the suspect while driving the car, were indeed of a white person but the skin colour of his arms and hands looked darker behind the window glass.

Even without these images, all of the initial speculation was that he was not white. It was only a couple of days later that we learned his identity.

Just checked - Merseyside Police statement issued the same evening;

We would ask people not to speculate on the circumstances surrounding tonight’s incident on Water Street in Liverpool city centre.

We can confirm the man arrested is a 53-year-old white British man from the Liverpool area.

https://www.merseyside.police.uk/news/merseyside/news/2025/may-2025/update-police-incident-water-street-liverpool-city-centre/

Manxexile · 16/04/2026 14:22

Perhaps I've misunderstood but isn't one of the points to draw from that is that there is an unacceptable level of "unknown ethnicity" among the stats?

eg "Unknown ethnicities in data sources
The recording of ethnicity data varies across sources and will reflect the operational nature of these systems, as data comes from multiple administrative databases or survey data. Where ethnicity information is unavailable with an unknown or not stated ethnicity, this information is not included in the analysis. High levels of missing ethnicity data limit the ability to provide conclusive results and findings may differ from experiences."

Again perhaps I'm mistaken, but I thought one of the findings of the inquiries into child sexual exploitation and abuse was that offender ethnicity data was not always collected or was recorded as "unknown"

Carla786 · 16/04/2026 14:23

ReadingCrimeFiction · 16/04/2026 13:07

It has certainly veen interesting to see the difference in protests for sarah Everard vs what's happening in epsom.

Quite honestly, I have no idea how the police put out a description that actually helps. Pictures from.cctv, maybe, but i regularly see "can you identify this person who we believe can help with our enquiries" posts and often wonder if I would recognise MYSELF in such a picture, never mind some random bloke.

All the yelling about worrying about daughters and wives feels completely performative.

I really hope they find these men and if they are not British, I would certainly understand using that as proof that who we let in needs to ve considered. But in the meantime, I am worried about the brown young men I know locally who, I feel, are probably at risk right now.

I am also worried about yojng women who.probably dont feel.safe to go for a drink with mates, or for a night of dancing.

If I was a parent of a student in epsom, I would be wanting to know if these men were in the club. Was she drugged? Was she targeted? How do I assess the risk to my daughter?.

Great post, agree totally.

I also feel that in some cases 24/7 news culture hasn't helped. I understand people in the local area wanting instant news of course, but people in general demanding instant description reminds me of the train attack and the huge anger when information on whether the attacker was an immigrant wasn't immediately released.

In the past you by necessity had to wait for information to some extent at least.

Carla786 · 16/04/2026 14:25

CerealNameSwapper · 16/04/2026 13:18

Yes, there are a lot of rapes by white males, but there are also some demographics who "hunt in packs". That's why our thoughts jump to them first.

We will have to see what it is all about. Rape is the most awful crime, but being rounded on by a pack and gang raped should result in the most severest of punishments for all involved, even if a bystander.

Gang rape by white men isn't unknown either. But I agree that it's more common in other demographics.

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:27

They are trying to manage the situation and to me that means it’s likely the perpetrators are likely to be ethnic minority. Yeah yeah it’s always men. Yeah yeah most rapists are white- but if you adjust for population composition by ethnicity then some groups are over represented. Pakistani men in grooming gangs. Afghan men and other Muslim asylum seekers in raoe cases.

IamRedCrossnotJesus · 16/04/2026 14:31

Manxexile · 16/04/2026 14:22

Perhaps I've misunderstood but isn't one of the points to draw from that is that there is an unacceptable level of "unknown ethnicity" among the stats?

eg "Unknown ethnicities in data sources
The recording of ethnicity data varies across sources and will reflect the operational nature of these systems, as data comes from multiple administrative databases or survey data. Where ethnicity information is unavailable with an unknown or not stated ethnicity, this information is not included in the analysis. High levels of missing ethnicity data limit the ability to provide conclusive results and findings may differ from experiences."

Again perhaps I'm mistaken, but I thought one of the findings of the inquiries into child sexual exploitation and abuse was that offender ethnicity data was not always collected or was recorded as "unknown"

Yes. But the point I was responding to is that pp claimed such data is not collected at all. It is, although obviously very imperfectly and efforts are being made to improve. Data specifically on grooming gangs is now collected and published, again improvements are slowly being made

Carla786 · 16/04/2026 14:31

It should be crystal clear to any decent person that if they know the ethnicity they should release it and anyone fitting the description of suspect should be reported..

At the same time, mob vigilantism, beating people up, making people feel under threat purely for the colour of their skin, is not acceptable.

The question is, if the police say it's a black or brown man as soon as they know (presuming they know now), will there be a riot and/or violence?

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:33

It is really disgusting that people want to prove something about 'British men' vs 'migrant men' and rapes.
Does the behaviour of British men in other countries count? Like Thailand and Morocco? How about white allies doing war crimes, are they welcome here?
What makes a man 'unBritish'? How many generations settled here? Religion? Looks?
Have you factored in whether war-traumatised men or men from violent homes (including British) behave differently?

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 14:41

Frugalgal · 16/04/2026 11:59

Yes, it is where we are now.

The roundabout painter mob see rape/peadophilia as an attack on 'their' white women/children and are happy to weaponise it without giving a shit about the victims.

When the suspect is white they don't care. Russell Brand is being 'set up by the authorities' because 'free speech'. Trump isn't in the Epstein files, despite being mentioned in there more than any one.

They automatically assume any crime was committed by an immigrant a) because it suits their racist agenda and b) the likes of Farage and co have conditioned them into a frightened mindset.

If , as it often does, it turns out that the culprits were white the reaction is either to indulge in conspiracies such as the poor white guys are being framed (case in point the white man who drove into the celebrating crowds in Liverpool after the football win, I saw tons of social media posts claiming the white man who appeared in court wasn't the culprit, it was a conspiracy by the police to cover up for the fact it was done by a Muslim terrorist) or you will hear no more about it.

Out of interest what will you say if they are right and it is a man/men who is/are currently awaiting his/their asylum claim to be processed? We know how you feel about disgusting, racist white people I just wonder how you feel if all those disgusting racist’s stereotypes are accurate this time?

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:44

I’ll tell you what’s disgusting @OtterDoBetter . White liberals making an apology for and minimising the misogyny and violence against women inherent in some cultures, when it spills out into our streets as seen in Rotherham and subsequently most major cities in our country ( grooming gangs). When unaccompanied Afghan teenagers are given asylum and then rape a teenage girl who is just hanging out in a park, because they come from a place where women only go out under full body cover ( so obviously they are asking for it) , and if they are raped they are expected to commit suicide. Do we have an obligation to take in such men because they are “ war traumatised “? I don’t think so.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 16/04/2026 14:45

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:33

It is really disgusting that people want to prove something about 'British men' vs 'migrant men' and rapes.
Does the behaviour of British men in other countries count? Like Thailand and Morocco? How about white allies doing war crimes, are they welcome here?
What makes a man 'unBritish'? How many generations settled here? Religion? Looks?
Have you factored in whether war-traumatised men or men from violent homes (including British) behave differently?

We can care about all of it equally.

I am happy to see a white pedophile lose his liberty having raped children in Thailand and be equally happy to see a man from abroad be locked up for raping a British girl.

In fact if you pushed me a bit more I’d tell you that I’d be happy to contemplate a bill that allowed for chemical castration of pedophiles and if you pushed me a bit more I’d probably have a long hard look at something even more severe punishment wise but sadly the bleeding heart liberals would go back to hand wringing about hurty things and we’d get nowhere with that.

Onmytod24 · 16/04/2026 14:46

Do you know how many women girls are raped every year in the UK? Google it? You won’t believe it and you’re getting your knickers in a twist and your panic and your paranoia you’re being ridiculous.

NiftyBlueRobin · 16/04/2026 14:47

PrettyDamnCosmic · 16/04/2026 14:18

Reporting ethnicity is very difficult to do accurately. Lazy labels like 'Black' or 'Asian' are so vague as to be useless. The police also depend on the criminal to self-identify what ethnic grouping they belong to.

The police would definitely need to avoid lazy labels, you're right @PrettyDamnCosmic. I think most people would use 'Black' and 'Asian' to describe race, not ethnicity.

Onmytod24 · 16/04/2026 14:47

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:44

I’ll tell you what’s disgusting @OtterDoBetter . White liberals making an apology for and minimising the misogyny and violence against women inherent in some cultures, when it spills out into our streets as seen in Rotherham and subsequently most major cities in our country ( grooming gangs). When unaccompanied Afghan teenagers are given asylum and then rape a teenage girl who is just hanging out in a park, because they come from a place where women only go out under full body cover ( so obviously they are asking for it) , and if they are raped they are expected to commit suicide. Do we have an obligation to take in such men because they are “ war traumatised “? I don’t think so.

Violence and misogyny is inherent in the white British man look at the statistics for rape victims and murder victims

Sskka · 16/04/2026 14:50

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:33

It is really disgusting that people want to prove something about 'British men' vs 'migrant men' and rapes.
Does the behaviour of British men in other countries count? Like Thailand and Morocco? How about white allies doing war crimes, are they welcome here?
What makes a man 'unBritish'? How many generations settled here? Religion? Looks?
Have you factored in whether war-traumatised men or men from violent homes (including British) behave differently?

What on earth sort of reasoning is this?! You deal with the issue in front of you; you don’t conduct a kind of universalist assessment of everything, and then make sure you’re politically in the right place, before you decide whether something is bad or not.

Clavinova · 16/04/2026 14:51

Eskarina1 · 16/04/2026 13:37

The data is imperfect but while certain demographics are over represented relative to their population, c.50% of gangs are white - so we cannot make assumptions. And we don't know, what we don't know. Gisele Picolet. Epstein. These are things that we would never have imagined until they came out.

To be fair, based on the list of 50 names in the Pelicot case, it would be difficult to say that white French men were over represented without profile photos. You have probably made an assumption here yourself.

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:52

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:44

I’ll tell you what’s disgusting @OtterDoBetter . White liberals making an apology for and minimising the misogyny and violence against women inherent in some cultures, when it spills out into our streets as seen in Rotherham and subsequently most major cities in our country ( grooming gangs). When unaccompanied Afghan teenagers are given asylum and then rape a teenage girl who is just hanging out in a park, because they come from a place where women only go out under full body cover ( so obviously they are asking for it) , and if they are raped they are expected to commit suicide. Do we have an obligation to take in such men because they are “ war traumatised “? I don’t think so.

You cannot say all Afghans are of one culture.

If I meet Prince Andrew or Wayne Couzens or Peter Stringfellow or Peter Tatchell, have I met 'British culture'?

You do not know if I am white or liberal (I have only been assaulted by white British and European people in the UK, but do not make any big claims about the cultures).

Does anyone remember when Liam Neeson went out looking for ANY black man to attack because his white female friend had been attacked by one person who was black and male? Spoiler: public sympathy was for Liam Neeson, who told this story about himself and what a good guy he was for...not attacking some random stranger.

Do we want that kind of persecutor mentality here?

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:54

Sskka · 16/04/2026 14:50

What on earth sort of reasoning is this?! You deal with the issue in front of you; you don’t conduct a kind of universalist assessment of everything, and then make sure you’re politically in the right place, before you decide whether something is bad or not.

Issue is what makes men rape and which men rape. Totally on point.

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:55

Sure there are plenty of unsavoury white men. My point is we shouldn’t be importing more men from places where gender violence is normalised, or delude ourselves about the danger posed . I grew up in a Muslim country and the sexual harassment I suffered was relentless from about age 8. I’m not advocating going full Trump, but as we’ve seen this week the asylum system is massively abused, and some nationalities are too risky. Certainly if found guilty of sexual or any other kind of violence they should be deported. The police , social services, politicians should not be gaslighting us when recently arrived ethnic minority men commit sexual assaults.

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:55

@OtterDoBetter you are aware of the status of women in Afghanistan?

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:56

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:55

@OtterDoBetter you are aware of the status of women in Afghanistan?

You mean the ones we do not support the way we support Ukrainians?

Maybe we should stop going to war all over the place.

TheGander · 16/04/2026 14:58

I can agree with that.

NorfolkandBad · 16/04/2026 14:59

OtterDoBetter · 16/04/2026 14:52

You cannot say all Afghans are of one culture.

If I meet Prince Andrew or Wayne Couzens or Peter Stringfellow or Peter Tatchell, have I met 'British culture'?

You do not know if I am white or liberal (I have only been assaulted by white British and European people in the UK, but do not make any big claims about the cultures).

Does anyone remember when Liam Neeson went out looking for ANY black man to attack because his white female friend had been attacked by one person who was black and male? Spoiler: public sympathy was for Liam Neeson, who told this story about himself and what a good guy he was for...not attacking some random stranger.

Do we want that kind of persecutor mentality here?

Does anyone remember when Liam Neeson went out looking for ANY black man to attack because his white female friend had been attacked by one person who was black and male? Spoiler: public sympathy was for Liam Neeson, who told this story about himself and what a good guy he was for...not attacking some random stranger.

Of course our sympathy should have been for the black man who raped his white female friend.

He admitted to wanting to attack a black someone, he didn't actually do it and he had no need to tell anyone, it was 40 years in the past, for that matter. I'm not sure he got sympathy, plenty of people condemned him so please provide evidence the public were mostly sympathetic.