Dh in mood as I said I may get mcdonalds for my dinner he said its selfish

[Tomcdonaldaornot]

Hey mn!
I have just read some other posters complaining about their partners wow there seems to be a lot. I don't want that to cloud my judge ie being angry on their behalf and therefore my dh is wrong.
So I am asking here.
My baby who is 9months woke at 830am and hasn't napped today. She fought her last two naps and I have wasted an hr each time trying to get baby to nap. She usually naps but the last few days she seems more active. With no naps I have found it really impacts my night when baby doesn't nap, she has a bad night. So I have gotten ready. Dh who works from home popped downstairs and asked how day is going. I said its been full on she hasnt napped! He looked at her and said "cheeky" she laughed!
I said I was going a drive as she will nap in the car. I said I was thinking of getting a Starbucks via drive thru so I am not just driving around. At least it'll give me a destination! Then I thought ohh i could get a McDonald's! That'll sort my dinner out. Baby will nap in car. Dh then told me that was weird. I'm a grown women. And then.... wait for it... what about him? I offered to bring him mcdonalds and he said no. I then laughed and said you are a grown man I'm sure you can sort dinner. He stormed away saying "dont treat me like a child!".
Am i wrong?! He has never acted like this!!!!!!
What would you do??

This isn't how you treat someone you love either. It's just not.

Oh my god just read he ate the pre prepped baby food. Jeez he sounds awful!

Surely the result of this is telling him he either bakes replacement pastries or sorts an alternative. He works at home, take the baby in when they would have had the pastries and say time to figure a replacement snack as the baby is hungry.

And honestly rethink things, the fact you are with someone that would act that spoiled and nasty is really not a good sign. I think having a baby can either bring out the best or the worst in people and he clearly wants someone to pander to his every need and the baby is stopping that.

If that were me (not that I would ever be with someone that selfish) I wouldn't make them another meal again.

So tomorrow night you’ll be too busy making more pastries for baby to make his dinner. Shame.

This. Times a hundred.

@popcornandpotatoes aye that just screams'vindictave'

Let him sulk and enjoy your Macadoos and Starbucking Coffee.

I’d be saying from now on you make your own food - you’ll sort yourself and the baby and you will not be making him anything else going forward

also stop anything else you do for him - laundry etc

fucking loser - I’d be so mad if the babies snacks were gone !

The reason why he declined the maccas is because he thinks that you should make dinner, because you have it easy. All you do is clean, cook and look after the baby. It’s soooooooo easy, his work is far more important and he also thinks he is the boss who can dictate things.

The fact that he purposely ate her food, says it all really. He wanted to upset you, he wanted to ensure that you wouldn’t do it again as there would be consequences like the one he pulled.

I think I would up my petty-game against him now. I wouldn’t show him I’m bothered but I would make myself a beautiful meal tomorrow just for me. And sit and eat it and enjoy it.

If he’s at home, I might choose to go out for lunch instead but there’s no way I’d be cooking for him for a long while.

I might make some delicious looking pudding and lace it with a laxative and then leave it lying around. I’d give the fucker something to think about.

He sounds awful - stealing food from his own child. What a prince!

I've had two big surgeries in five months. Been on crutches. DH discovered Iceland dishes so now we keep in these dishes for when no-one is up to cooking. He goes for hot chilli type things whereas I prefer Italian.

@50NotFat he's been a complete arse.

Yes absolutely this. And hide the tupperware box in the boot of your car so the nasty greedy fucker can't try the same punishment trick again.

I'm not sure i would want to cook him dinner ever again. "Grown man" my arse, doesn't act like one.

Also I wanted to add, I would stop making things so easy for him.

I would go out at lunchtime and not tell him, so he has to make his own lunch. Stop offering drinks etc, as he can make his own.

Greedy selfish inconsiderate bugger!
Have whatever dinner you want tomorrow and let him eat coco pops . He really is a manchild isn’t he?! Not surprised you’re fuming!

He said he feels bad for eating baby snacks. But I did offer him one earlier. Yeah, 1!! He then said he couldn't stop as they were so nice so compliments to the chef. He then says anyone would be happy their husband likes their cooking. I said it was the baby snacks!!!! U couldn't control yourself or was this to punish me?? He then said not everything is about me and walked out. I texted my mum and she just texted "wanker"

I swear to god some of you must be in the weirdest relationships ever.

He then said not everything is about me

He's dead right about that. Everything is always ALL ABOUT HIM.

I agree that OP should get maccas, I cannot agree about spicy nuggets! Don’t mess with the nugget!

God I want Maccys now

@Tomcdonaldaornot your mum is spot on.

And you also offered to get him Macdonalds but oh no he decides on food made for your baby. He is a wanker!

He’s an absolute joke.

Don’t text him begging for him to come home or talk about it.

This is another way of trying to punish you.

Someone upthread said she’s surprised he’s not run away from home yet as a joke and he’s literally doing the adult version of it now.

You will probably get over this with the chaos of having a young child but don’t ever forget how spiteful he has been today.
This is a side of him you need to be very aware of.

WTF he didn't have time to "plan" to make his dinner.

How many times do we, as Mum's have time to "plan" dinner. Half of my cooking is meals thrown together on the bounce when five million other things are going on at once, the phone is ringing, the cat is meowing, the child is hungry, boss is asking me about work, washing needing hanging up etc etc... I am astonished that he found it hard to cook completely alone in a silent house.

I feel for you. The atmosphere must be horrible. Sending support.

Your Mum is quite correct!

Oh wow. He is escalating.

I would now not be cooking all week. Do not become default housekeeper. Or food shopping. What an arsehole