AIBU to think excluding children from their dad's wedding was hurtful?

[FunnyBeaker]

My 3 children recently announced their OP was remarrying and were super excited about the event. We spoke about outfits, where they were staying and how fun the day would be. However, on the big day they never went to the ceremony (no after party), no suits or dresses, nothing! AIBU to think this is such a horrible thing to do to your own children? Build them up to think there’s a big event and then exclude them?

Did the event occur as you all thought it would?

It feels like there's a lot missing here. How old are they, did he even ask them to attend or make it sound like it would be a big event, it's not clear from your post.

I'm confused. Did he tell them they were going and then not take them? Did you know the date?

As a small ish dc - around 9 - my df remarried.. I was the only dc in his family not there.. Tbh it reminded me my whole childhood where I figured. Haven't seen him in over 25 years.. Since I was 26.

However, on the big day they never went to the ceremony

‘They never went’ doesn’t give us any information. Was the Invitation withdrawn on the day?

They are 10, 11 & 14. He told them about the wedding and the children were with him for the week. The ceremony was 150 miles from where they live, which they travelled to with him.

Ok so based on your update they accompanied him to the location of the ceremony but not the actual wedding? It still feels like there is a lot of information missing?

He told them the date, said they’d be wearing suits/dresses and then on the day they remained outside of the venue.

He took the children TO the event (wedding) and left them outside? Eh???

Edit - he left them in the garden/on the street? I don't understand

That's very confusing. Is there any explanation as to why?

You’re missing lots out. How many guests were there and where were the children whilst he was getting married?

If you say exactly what happened we might be able to comment.

There were 15 guests in total. The children remained outside the building.

Was this at a registry office?

This happened to my gorgeous children over 30 years ago.
His new wife was far more important than his children.
Oh, until she had children then they were ALL more important than his two eldest children.
I hate him, I will never forgive him or her.
Luckily they love me and I adore them.
But some hurts never heal do they?

OP I'm sorry, just know that your love is so important to them.
Your ex is a real bastard, I hope karma gets him.

Why not type exactly what happened rather than drip information every time someone asks a relevant question?

Can you stop playing games now and tell us why?

Could you provide the full proper story op?
Did he just leave them outside for hours whilst he had the wedding

Were they just there for the photos?

So he forgot about the maximum number of guests. But what about afterwards? Did they all just go home? I bet he’s embarrassed about the whole thing

Horribly insensitive and callous for his children not to be an integral part of his wedding.
You have every right to be upset.
I hope your children are OK, they won't forget this

Seriously, does anyone actually believe this?

Outside?? Where... The carpark??
Where were you children for hours whilst the wedding took place?

Something sounds odd.

Still pretty confused OP, but have you asked him about it?