My mum has looked after my kids since covid. When it hit she decided to close her business. I would pay her 400/500 for her to have my youngest in the day and pick other one up from school. Even when I started putting the youngest in nursery I still paid her.
6 years later and we are still paying, but now my husband is questioning more and more. Like many families costs are going up, kids are now all at an age where they have more clubs (11,6) etc and he thinks we should stop paying.
Now she still picks up the youngest from school and has them for an hour. My husband and I are both home working now so could pick them up and they would be fine chilling for an hour but she says it gives her something to do. She also does come round in the day and help with cleaning...but again this annoys my husband when he working at home and she is cleaning.
My parents earned good money when they worked but as self employed they don't have a pension just state. They gifted money for a deposit and when I was younger treat me all the time. My husband says that's what parents do and the house money was a gift (sister got a wedding)
Im really tied. My mum keeps saying how skint they are and if I wasn't for my money she would have to get a job....but on the other hand my parents go out drinking 5 nights a week and go abroad multiple times a year so my husband says they are not skint but I know most goes on credit cards.
My husband is finding it frusting when i say 'we cant afford to do that' and says i need to have a conversation. He says he is happy to pick up cleaning if she doesn't do it or grab kids from school.
I really don't know what to do....