AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

[ShabbyChic999]

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

And not to derail but ‘uppity’ is a term that many people find offensive due to its racist undertones.

All the more reason for OP to ignore the twat from now on.

Yes, I find it deeply odd people still throw it out casually.

Twat? For either not having time to meet the op or not wanting her children to have yet more chocolate?if it was the SIL
posting everyone would be saying that she’s well within her rights to limit the chocolate and/or not to meet the OP.

Yes it always jars when I see it - I assume (rightly or wrongly) it’s either ignorance of the origins of the word or that the person still uses the n-word.

I do think that was rude!! I tend to spread the choccie out so it wouldn’t have been a problem. You’ve spent money on them and the thought - so to have that declined is rude. Maybe don’t bother with gifts from now on for events if she’s like that?

Tbh after the OP's update that sil used to buy eggs for OP's kids I've completely changed my mind!

Yes, she’s a twat. She used to give OP’s dc Easter eggs.

If she didn’t want her dc to get Easter eggs, she should have told her brother weeks ago, not waited until after OP had bought the eggs, that is twatty behaviour.

Yeah okay then.

Does SIL have a DH/DP? Because it’s interesting that she is getting all the venom when so many people on here would froth about people giving their kids chocolate

SIL is being called out because she is the DH’s sister and used to give his kids Easter eggs.

If her husband was the DH’s brother and behaving like this, the brother would be the one being called out for being rude.

Even less reason to call her out - it’s not like she’s expecting anything from OP while not reciprocating

To be fair, OP hasn’t called her out. My suggestion is OP ignore her from now on and let her brother deal with her.

She’s called her out on here. Major drama for nothing

Posting on an anonymous forum is not major drama.

It’s natural to be hurt when you try and reciprocate a simple gesture (giving Easter eggs to dc) and to be rejected like that.

The kind thing to do would be to accept the eggs, stash them in the car and give them to the food bank.

And then if she found out she would be upset about the fact that the faces of the ‘smallies’ (that’s on a par with the poster many years ago who called supper ‘sups’) wouldn’t have lit up.

Doesn't anyone buying a gift do so to give the recipient pleasure? And as a parent, don't you enjoy seeing your children get joy from your gifts at Christmases and birthdays?
Well grandparents and aunts and uncles get pleasure from that joy, too. They love their small relatives, and they like to make them happy.

And as we've discovered that the SIL in this situation used to give OP 's kids Easter eggs, presumably she got pleasure in giving, too.

Seriously, so many parents on here want their children to have a family 'village'. Yet here we are with some of them seeming to resent their family members caring about their children and wanting to do nice things for them.

I hope you're not a parent. There is nothing wrong with kids having occasional treats.

But that is for the parent of said child to decide

Occasional treats, yes, but with "occasional" treats coming from all directions, it feels imposdible to keep them to a reasonable level some days. The last thing parents need is other adults guilt tripping about it.

Have a day off
It's Chocolate 🍫
Not drugs
So self righteous

Agree with this 100
Whinge they don't get "help" .. where is the village
Yet "help "must be on very rigid terms..
I no longer bothered with emotional drains like that

So you would be happy for people to override your rules as a parent? Okay then

Know for next time ?

If they did that on me they'd be knowing no presents next time.
That will knock sil of her high horse
And I would be letting her darling kids know why

Yup because it's chocolate
It's not a big deal
Those kids with almond mums who weren't 'allowed ' sugar...
Guess what happened when they went to parties ...
Guess what happened when they became teenagers and had pocket money
..
Have a guess

I don't see the problem, they get far too much chocolate as it is! Never noticed while i still lived in the UK but i live in an orthodox Christian country where its more about painting and eating actual eggs than chocolate ones. My kids got haf an egg each this year!