AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

[ShabbyChic999]

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

At least you don't have to by Christmas presents, because they will have "too many"

I’m exactly the same. I remember my aunt’s horror that my mum just gave me Easter chocolate and gave me complete freedom as to how and when it was consumed. As an adult I can have a box of chocolates in full view for three months.

I don't think any of my aunts or uncles got us eggs.

When dd1 was 18 months, she was the only one in her generation and got given 18 eggs from various people, none were small. Maybe that accounts for her not really liking Easter eggs. She'll never eat more than half.

Dd2 ooh will wolf it all down in one go and feel sick.

Ds is the most sensible one and eats a bit over a few days.

That's been the case since they were tiny and now they are adults.

That was very rude of SIL.

Is it your DH’s family? I wouldn’t bother with getting them Easter eggs or Christmas presents again. Let DH do it he wants to.

They are probably relieved that you have stopped buying. Everyone your DH's age, who was WC, grew up with restricted treats, there wasn't the money for them. We didn't grow into chocoholics because of it. Your shot of sugar was a jam sandwich, or pudding on a Sunday.
We over consume. The gracious manners around gifts came from the days of buying things being an effort, lack of disposable income and high prices. None of that applies to the eggs sold in supermarkets, Thornton unicorn eggs included. When my children were small, you'd go to the Thornton shop and they'd personalise them. Throwing them in your trolley isn't the same at all. Everyone didn't buy for all and sundry. People are starting to value going away and days out. As for 'put them in a cupboard ', were do you magic this cupboard space from? 'Drop them in the food bank' great if you shop in store. Luckily my DD works in a hospital, so everything gets taken there. I think that it's far more polite to tell someone to not waste their money. A £5 in a card is much better received.

Well done for stopping the gifts.

How did SIL react to that?

It does feel rude her refusing them, but agree at this point they probably have had loads of chocolate. Just share them out amongst your family and enjoy.

I fairness she is probably relieved. It is hard with small kids . We received so many clothes they won’t wear, duplicates of toys, toys they won’t play with. And then it is up to me to deal with the never ending amount of stuff and try and get rid of it.

I hate the waste: I understand where people are coming from on this although I personally just accepted the gifts with a smile and an inner 😮‍💨

Thanks for all the replies! Really interested to see everyone's points of view. Quick clarification that she never asked me not to buy sweet things before, we are the only family they have here as MIL is from another country so no family close by and DH only has one brother, both parents deceased so it's not like there would be loads of family giving eggs. She always got my kids eggs when they were small too!

@Ponoka7 they weren't working class. They were mean. The children grew up recalling being hungry. The parents salted the money away. When FIL died, in 2007, there was a million in the bank. MIL never went short, she was a headmistress and salting away her own.

She's on another Continent and had never bought my DC anything. She and her partner have never worked much and she's very anti commercialism although that has never stopped her from tapping up DH when things have been tight.

She always got my kids eggs when they were small too!

I was actually going to ask earlier if she got yours eggs when they were younger but thought no she couldn't possibly have if she's acting so rudely now. The women sounds incredibly tactless.

That is rude

YANBU. It’s really fun for children, and I’d be grateful to anyone who gives my children one and seeing how excited that made them. Mine have loads, it’s no biggie- they have long expiry dates and can be rationed. It was really thoughtful of you to try and get them to them, I know the Thorntons eggs you mean and they are particularly good ones as well.

I get her point of view...we always end up with far too much choc at easter. but its incredibly rude of her to voice that when someone has bought their kids a gift already. Yanbu but don't let it upset you, she is the rude one here

She probably doesn’t realise you chose something nice and thought you grabbed a couple of generic eggs off the shelf in supermarket. I’d leave it and not bother going forward

Eh, it’s not Christmas. Buying gifts for others at Easter is bonkers.

Buying eggs for kids at Easter is not remotely bonkers. It’s perfectly normal.

Buying Easter eggs for children at Easter is and has been normal for decades.

I am with your sister. Ity a nice thought but next year get them books or clothes. They will have got chocolate eggs from parents and probably grandparents and it's too much. Kids don't need that much chocolate.

It sounds like she was rude in the way she dismissed the eggs. If it was me I would have taken them and … probably eaten them myself.

But this is why I don’t buy for nieces and nephews anymore. They all get way too much from the Easter bunny, parents, two sets of grandparents … they really don’t need anymore, and the chocolate is really not welcomed by the parents.

I do think it's rude to refuse the eggs. However, did you ask your SIL if buying the girls eggs would be OK? It might be, if you'd asked before buying the eggs, your SIL may have said No and suggested something different.

Keep the eggs. I would suggest either asking your SIL next year or give the girls a small amount of money instead.

My son is 15, had an egg from us, grandparents, and an aunt. His other aunt opted to give him some money instead.

Your sil is extremely rude!

I had one like that(I technically still do but we have nothing to do with her, bizarrely neither do her children.

Says it all really!

That's been the case for years! Nice that people have caught up with the palm oil in chocolate nonsense (although that didn't stop me mainlining Cadbury's mini eggs and chocolate bars when I was pregnant.) Meanwhile there's palm oil in biscuits, soap, shower gel, face moisturiser, bread, and about a million other things. (Aldi's mini eggs don't have palm oil and this year they had mint, orange and salted caramel flavour as well as the plain ones, they were very nice.)

DS got three eggs for Easter. I 'helpfully' ate one (he's not even two yet so didn't notice) and I've been giving him little bits of egg after lunch (when I remember.)

Based on absolutely nothing. What a load of drama about chocolate. The mom doesn't want her kids having more chocolate, that's the end of it. OP will know for next time.