To tell/not tell family after cousin hit BF with scooter? Both don’t want me to

[Zanygreenan]

I’m 21, my mum and dad are in Cancun this week for their 25th anniversary so I’m home alone this week. I invited my boyfriend, 23, round for a stopover tonight for a bit of company and my little cousin, 9, who lives on our estate one street away, popped in whilst playing out on his scooter with a friend.

We were sitting in the garden and my cousin was sat in a seat and got up for a drink and my BF sat in his seat whilst he was gone. Cousin asked him to move and BF refused and telling cousin and his friend to play somewhere else (with a mean tone). Cousin was angry that he refused to move and then hit BF in the face with his scooter. BF fell back out of the chair and then cousin hit him once more with the scooter and stamped on his wrist. I then managed to pull cousin off him and sent him in the house. Then I rinsed off the blood from BF’s face and then he sat down in the conservatory.

He has a massive headache and can’t move his wrist. BF doesn’t want anyone to know about the interaction and doesn’t want to go to hospital but he may have broken his wrist so I suggested it would be best to pop into A&E to check? Cousin has asked me not to say anything to his mum (my aunt) or my mum because he doesn’t want to get into trouble considering that he has already had a fight at school last year. Cousin is a nice boy overall but he doesn’t react well to confrontation and gets aggressive quickly and BF’s attitude towards him this afternoon topped him over the edge.

My aunt has just text me asking to walk cousin back to theirs as it’s starting to get dark out. I don’t know what to do as cousin is begging me not to say anything and BF also doesn’t want me to say anything either but if I don’t say anything it’ll look bad on me when eventually when his and my parents find out. I just feel like I’m stuck in the middle of an awkward situation.

What should I do?

I know this is a couple of days old. If your boyfriend declined A&E tears on him as an adult. I really hope you didn’t call an ambulance for a young man with a bang on the wrist #ffs.

Some people do ask for an assault to be fair.

In law it can be a defence to say that what happened would have caused a reasonable person to lose self control.

But then in this case a reasonable person or child would not have lost control.

Stop umming and arring and tell her. If he does this again and possibly kills someone then that is on you. Your bf is a grown man who needs to sort his own shit out. I would go NC with the cousin as well. Bloody little thug.I would be asking your Aunt what the fight was over in school and what happened as well. It needs nipping in the bud now, before he ends up killing someone. Take a photo of your bfs injuries and show her as well

Do you really think this is the issue here? And are you qualified to assess the seriousness of the injuries suffered in this attack?

Bet you would not say he is a nice boy if he was not your cousin!

A bang [stamp!] on the wrist and at least 2 potentially very serious head injuries. A paramedic attending would not allow him to refuse treatment, because of the risk of the injury impairing his judgement.

Did you witness the whole interaction? Are you sure there wasn't something more serious involved or that the child has not been more seriously assaulted previously and was worried it might happen again, which is why they reacted so strongly? I think it sounds very serious and whatever happened, it needs to be out in the open.

A ‘nice boy’ he is a violent repulsive thug.

It doesn’t matter if the BF has told him to f off, it still doesn’t warrant the violent attack. I would report the little physopath to the police…image how he will be in a couple of years time….not even worth thinking about.

What about being hit in the head, he could have concussion it could be serious, anyway they didn't call an ambulance they made their own way to the hospital.

We are what we do, not what we say.

Did your bf attack him back (verbally or physically) or he was so badly injured that he couldn’t?

violence like that at his age is out of control. I get he was pushed over the edge by your boyfriend. An adult teasing a child to that extent is wrong too. But your Aunt needs to know as this needs to be addressed before the violence gets worse. What if it was a child your cousin did this to ??

Has anyone else seen Adolescence?

I can't help but be reminded of it.

Or the responsible child. I watched it on Netflix last night. That was a child pushed over the edge by an abusive adult who ended up murdering the adult.

I don't need to watch it now!!! 😂

Is it good? A series or film?

It is really good. It’s a documentary film. It really highlights how failings in the system of social services and safeguarding within schools can be damaging to children. Also goes to show with some encouragement anyone is capable of extreme violence when living with abuse.

I'll look it up. Thanks 😎

That is very very little provocation for an attack like that, your cousin is very dangerous. He could have killed your bf. There's no point referring to him as a "nice boy", nice kids do not ever do anything like that.

I have 3 kids. It's important that a parent is told if one of their children do something. He's 9 he has a chance to change for the better. If you don't tell them and he grows up to hurt or kill someone it could have been prevented

You need to tell the little psycho’s mother.