To think the going out(nightlife drinking) is a trap

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in my late teens to mid 20s I was always loving life wanting to go out whenever I could. I would itch to go out for then Friday, drink and dabble a little with party drugs Friday Saturday and Sunday and then feel regret come Monday morning. Some Mondays I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror! I had my children a totally calmed down. I stopped going out of course (lack of child care but also I don’t want to!) I get offers now for people to have my children while I go out but honestly looking back on how I used to be? No thanks! I have responsibilities now and so my whole life has changed dramatically. I don’t drink at all anymore. Needless to say I absolutely do not touch drugs now.
thinking back to my life before my children, I was so lost and alone! I definitely believe if I had not had children and carried on how I did, I would have an issue with some form of substance now (either drink or c0k3). I am not saying I ever felt addicted but I’d admit I was likely on the pathway and so were the people I chose to associate with.
a night out to me sounds horrendous. When I think back to how alcohol made me feel… alone, depressed, in self sabotage mode and a shitty human at times. Argh I do not miss it one bit. I do believe it is a trap. Or was that just for me? Uh… I don’t know?

I miss going out to party. I don’t have a circle of partying friends here and I miss it so much!

You must have had appalling self-esteem to view your pre-motherhood self as a "floating nobody" and still to hold that view of the person you were then.

So you are talking about what you perceive to be media stereotypes. I’m not sure that a 60 year old working class office worker falling over drunk is a known stereotype to me - but I’ll take your word that your post was just badly worded and offence wasn’t intended.

I do agree with you on the fact that working class people tend to be looked down on for actions which are acceptable for the middle classes.

So are you saying the media sneers at blinged up fake tanned Scouse women at Aintree on the Prosecco as pissed up chavs but posh women at Henley Regatta off their face on Bollinger is absolutely fine?

Maybe both get sneered at but I see more snobbishness towards working classes.

This is exactly what I mean and yes badly worded.

That addresses exactly nothing in my comment.

And to your second paragraph I agree which is why I posted it. You wouldn’t believe the grief I’ve got from primarily upper class women in the past, pure rudeness and entitlement, pushing past me in a queue. I speak with a fairly working class accent (south London) but am considered to be lower middle class. Though some woman or women who were working/middle class were incredibly kind and generous to me whilst I worked as a legal sec (not colleagues, clients or wives of).

Read the rest of my posts and replies please. Too tired to go over this again.

Is that what you were trying to say?! If so, I also agree. But your initial comments were VERY poorly worded.

Apologies I agree it was very poorly worded.

Its not just about the demarcation point of the law, its the extent to which the drug changes one's state. I would never take any substance which would remove my sobriety or clarity of mind, unless prescribed it for a very specific purpose. Having coffee or ibuprofen may have some small impact on my neurons or inflammation levels, but it won't affect how I interact with people, how I care for my children, how I fulfil my responsibilities and how I feel in the following days.

I am teetotal now but do know from experience the difference between taking a paracetamol and cocaine. I do include alcohol in the 'drugs' sphere but at least its regulated and controlled, and there isnt the chance that it's laced with dangerous filler material.

I do think its reasonable to separate low risk, legal, heavily controll drug products and illegal, unregulated drug products which carry huge physical, mental and social complications, can destroy families and communities. I don't think its hypocritical to have such a limit.