Daughter has gone NC with me over comment on her new profile photo

[Luceee25]

DD (30) can be very stubborn, and has been NC with me for nearly two weeks now which I am finding really upsetting.

She had been away travelling with a friend and always posted photos to Facebook to keep everyone updated. She has lots of family on there who always interact with her.

When she returned, she uploaded a new profile photo which was basically of her bare behind when led on a boat with only a tiny bit of string from her swimwear to protect her modesty.

I suggested to her that she might have wanted to reconsider whether that was really appropriate and also pointed out that any prospective employers could potentially see that and it wouldn’t give the image of a professional.

She went ballistic, told me it’s 2026 and women are empowered to share photos like that. She then told me she wanted some space and hasn’t responded to any of my attempted contact since.

I am now doubting whether I was out of order with what I said initially. I have apologised repeatedly for offending her (although I do stand by my comments completely). Do you think I should have shut up?

Exactly. All the OP has done is share her views about her daughter's body, long after any repercussions will have been felt (as she won't have been the first to see it I'm sure).

So all that's happened is the daughter is pissed off, any harms haven't been prevented anyway (if they even happen) and as is often the case, people learn from the consequences of their own actions, not what they might be. So far the consequences have only been "my Mum thinks my body is inappropriate" and that's damaged the relationship with the Mum. She's not to date felt repercussions for her career, relationships nor any other made up scenario the OP is sure will happen.

Fact is nowadays while it's possible prospective employers trawl through Facebook, I doubt many do. (Who has time or is bothered?) And even if they saw her bikini clad arse, so what?