To wonder how much of the 'penis portion' complaint is due to women on average needing less calories?

[Carla786]

The competitive undereating thread on here recently got me thinking: I haven't come across this 'penis portion' (men being served more than women) issue in my life, so I may be misunderstanding..

I can see it being sexist if the woman is being served a huge amount less, the man gets the nicest bits etc. But if it's more that both get a full serving but the man gets slightly more, maybe it's partly due to the host thinking (correctly) that the average woman might need slightly less?

I understood the objection to be that while women were given smaller portions in restaurants etc, they were charged the same.

My SIL tried to do penis portions. She got a bloody shock when I swapped DH’s plate with mine and started eating. She’d served me one roast potato, a spoonful of mash, a spoonful of peas, 2 brussel sprouts and one piece of meat while the men’s plates were loaded, I asked if there was anymore food and she replied “that should be plenty for you”, how bloody rude. She’d NOT served me cauli cheese, yorkshires and had only given me chicken - she’d served the men chicken, lamb and beef. She wasn’t long back tracking when DH stood up to go and get more food for himself and there was plenty left. She doesn’t get to decide how many calories I eat or my portion size because she’s a competitive under eater. It still gives me the rage when I think about that incident. I had strong words with her after that fiasco and I wasn’t to pleasant about it either, it’s never happened again. I wasn’t having my children served different sized portions because some were male and others female.

I let everyone help themselves if I host a dinner, there’s always plenty to go round as I never know what size portions people want.

Edited to add I need less calories than my DH day to day but when a roast dinner is on offer calorie counting goes on hold 🤣

That sounds like me and my late wife. She much preferred pudding over mains and I'm the other way round. Sensible

I thought this was about cock size

Does he never notice the far smaller portions that you are served?

That’s exactly what I thought too!

I've never experienced this. Everywhere I eat, either you help yourself to the amount you want or everyone is served the same. Where the diners are very well known to the cook, it maybe adjusted for known appetite, I.e. there 's no point serving my elderly mum who eats like a sparrow the same as DS1 who loves food more than anything else in the world.

The fact that it's somehow insulting to suggest women need less food than men, will explain why obesity is a bigger problem for women than men though.

I was going to ask this too. I wouldn’t be putting up with him filling his face while I’m hungry, but then my DH would have said something.

I believe in equality where food is concerned as its more about individual requirements as opposed to being male or female.

Having said that ask me to go on the front line in a war killing people or use the machinery to drill the roads,or put my life on the line as a body guard I basically dont have the power,the strength or the mindset to compete with men in those circumstances.I'll stick to believing there are differences between men & women we will never change despite the fact there will be exceptional women happy to be in those positions. Anyway back to food. 🤦‍♀️🤣

People help themselves in my home so everyone gets exactly what they want.

My MIL used to do this but after the first time I mentioned it in private to my DH. The second time it happened he swapped his plate with mine (good man!). She didn't do it again.

I haven't seen it happen in a restaurant recently but many years ago I asked for and got a larger portion when DH's was noticeably larger than mine.

I've always eaten more than him because I exercise way more than he does. No-one should make assumptions about anyone's calorific need.

At my first barbecue in Australia, a woman passed over a high-piled platter of steaks and said to the other women nearby: "That's for the men." I ignored it put out my plate and helped myself. The faces!!!
Fuck that noise.

I should say I'd never encountered such behaviour at barbies in the UK.

Well as YOU'VE never experienced it perhaps you should pay attention to the posters who HAVE like DreamyJade above!

Her SIL was being a total cow

In a school I used to work in, if I ever bought a dinner from the canteen I’d get the same (pretty small) portion as a child. Fair enough, I was paying the same. But if my male colleague ever did, his plate was piled high, to the point where sometimes the food would be falling off the edge. He also paid the exact same as me and the children.

If you go to a restaurant the woman wouldn’t be given a smaller meal.

I have never come across it, the first time I heard this phrase was on mumsnet. I cook at home and normally have the same portion as my husband if its something like pasta, or a rice dish. He is a lot taller , but I play a lot of sport and need the calories too. He gets more meat when I make that, but only because I am not a big meat eater , I would never serve him more just because he is a man. If I had guests over, they would all get equal amounts, or I would leave it for them to portion themselves, I would never serve a woman less.

Men are much more likely to be overweight says Google.

Overweight (including obesity): Men are consistently more likely to be overweight or obese than women. Recent figures show 69.2%–70% of men compared to 58.6%–62% of women.

Obesity (BMI 30+): Prevalence is closely matched. Some data shows 26.4% of men vs. 26.2% of women, while other 2024 data indicates 29% for men and 31% for women.

By that logic you’d be serving smaller women less than taller women and smaller men less than larger women etc etc. when does it end ? surely it’s easier for ‘meals out’ (restaurants/ at family houses) to be the same size then the individual can eat more or less the rest of the day as they wish.

Do you manage to eat it all and maintain a healthy weight? Or are you close in size to the men in your life? My DP is 10 inches taller than me and nearly 5 stone heavier. If we were faced with the same portion size, either he'd go hungry or I'd waste food/eat far more than I needed.

Men have higher energy needs than women.

I’ve always given dh more, since he’s always been a good deal bigger (I don’t mean fatter) than I am, and he’ll want it.

Any male guest, though, I will let them help themselves, or ask how much they would like. TBH I’d have thought that was usual. Might add that ‘plating up’ for guests has never been done here, and I never want anyone ‘plating up’ for me.

And children just 2 peas and a quarter of a potato.

People are very controlling about food. Some folk on this thread seem to have appointed themselves as nutritionists and dieticians for their family and visitors. I don’t really care if as a woman I only ‘need’ a certain number of calories a day - if I’m meeting up with friends and family and we’re eating, I’m just eating and enjoying their company, I’m not counting macros and maximising my nutritional values and don’t think there’s any need for anyone else to police that. Provide lots of food, let people help themselves and concentrate on enjoying their company, rather than worrying about their calorie intake.

I'm just WTF at the term 'penis portion' who the fuck came up with that? Surely normal people would just call it a man sized portion if it was bigger than a woman's. Why would you insert a cock into a discussion about food?

Men need more calories than women and I'd give DH more than me because I know he'd eat more - but I wouldn't give guests more or less depending on whether they were male or female, I'd just give everyone equal. My idea of a man sized portion might be different from someone else's anyway.

Does a penis portion equate to a lesser amount of food on a plate being described as a pussy portion. Some expressions just shouldn't be acceptable.