AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

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Prepared to be told otherwise and of course I know I have had some degree of privilege. As a child I had a good education and opportunities and I accept that is probably classed as ‘privileged.’ But I don’t think that overall my adult life is, I think it’s pretty standard.

Had 50k towards house deposit (everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house)

Gifted 2k to 3k a year (again over birthday and Christmas etc this would seem usual to my friends)

DD has (small) house on trust from grandparents. I only know one other family who haven’t been in a position to make some provision for their grandchildren, not necessarily a house but cash etc

Earnings 71k, again this is of course not a low amount but in terms of household income it’s not a lot these days.

This is rage baiting, right?

Come on guys, if this was genuine the OP would have had to have not read a newspaper, watched the news, listened to the radio or even read Mumsnet for at least a decade.

It's a wind up post.

Blimey you've been very very well looked after - 50k handout and 2k or 3k gifts every year? I know a couple of people who had help from their parents to get on the housing ladder but nothing like this. Thing is most people do not have anything like this and i expect you're gonna get roasted on here with this post. You are priviliged and you do earn much more than average.

Yes you are privileged.

clearly not intelligent though

It’s the circles you live in. You are privileged.

Nobody I know has gifted their children a house or a deposit on a home.

Many are just getting by and feeling the pinch on COL.

Believe it or not, most people don’t ever get a Costa or Starbucks and only eat out on Groupon offers.
How the other half lives eh OP?

Why do you care about how others are in relation to you?
Obviously you know what the average wages are in the UK
And the reality of life on minimum wage and benefits
So you can do your own comparisons.
Seems like you're looking at people that have better circumstances than you.
It's all relative right?

Maybe their butler omits the grimmer parts when reading it out loud to them over breakfast.

This is fascinating.
I grew up on a council estate. In my "bubble" it wasnt irregular to be out at 16/17.
Then we werent our parents financial responsibility and we had to fend for ourselves.
No financial input from then onwards.

I think both your and my experience are different ends of the scale that dont represent the norm, even if we both know of quite a few others in similar positions.

Clearly it does for you.

Imagine working in finance and not knowing how to do a bit of research on your own about how many in the rest of the country ... and world ... lives out side your safe little bubble. Instead, you find mumsnet and pretend to not have a clue that you might be rather privileged.

That's because on £71,000 you're going to end up with a fairly unprofessional butler.

Your assumption is wrong. Both my kids have bought houses and worked bloody hard for a long time to save up and were given nothing by anyone. I think that's probably the case for the majority. Most people do not have houses waiting for them in trust either. And as for being given thousands a year or holidays or whatever, how on earth can you not consider that privileged? As previous posters have said, just because this happens with all the people you know does not make it the norm.

Hahahaha

Even just attending private school sets you apart from 95% of the population.

I know it’s probably rage bait but I do think a lot of privileged people don’t realise they are in fact very privileged, and that most others perceive them that way.

I hope this is a wind up.

10,000 children a day die of starvation on our planet.

I think this isn't about class, but money and also location..

For eg if you live in Essex there are lots of people who are 'business owners' /trades and diddling the tax man is a way of life.

There's a huge amount of wealth there being passed down in this way - new car for your 18th, huge help buying (and renovating, lol) a first property, but it's not generational wealth in the way we'd normally think of it as being.

It's safe to say that you and your friends have been spoiled. This is not standard practice in the majority of families.

I can't believe that you're so naive to think that it might be. What bubble do you live in.

this is a wind-up post, surely nobody could be so obtuse.

The butler is working hard to improve their circumstances. This is just a stepping stone to Bigger and Better Things™️

In fairness to OP my parents "scrimped and saved" to send me to private school and I then went to Oxbridge.
In both places the overwhelming number of people were from above averagely wealthy families and some from very wealthy families.

I considered myself to be poor because my family holiday was a week in Devon, not multiple holidays abroad across the year; because my parents didn't give me the expected parental contribution to university whereas my peers were given substantially more; and that their only financial support they've given me as an adult was £5K towards a house deposit.
Basically, compared to everyone I knew I was "poor".

I'd realised by my mid twenties that I wasn't actually poor on any objective measure, however. But that was because I actively opened my eyes to how other people outside of my bubble lived. A lot of people (at all levels of wealth) simply don't do that.

Working for a £70k household has got to be a starter Butler position. In a year or two time they will move to a better salary at £250k household.

It sort of eloquently demonstrates the point.

You're privileged. That's all there is to say about it.

There really are people like this aren't they. 'OMG what do you mean, ppl acherlly dont have ma and pa's help? Kerazzzy!'
I'm glad I live in and help people in the real world. I would feel sick having to spend my time with such narrow minded fools

You’re basically proving my point. A very select few are given an option to train up in your company, BECAUSE they were not privileged enough to go to university. And as you say- it’s only a few! And if those few get to the £50-60K mark- guess what- they’ll still likely never be privileged enough to afford their own house- not in this economy. Inequality is real. Privilege is real and SHELTERED.

Wow I'd love to be gifted money like that! No, I've never had any gifts like that from parents - but I do earn a lot more than you

So you want us just to accept that kids born to feckless parents are just doomed for life. I'd rather than believe that if it is alright with you.