AIBU to think my adult life is average rather than privileged?

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Prepared to be told otherwise and of course I know I have had some degree of privilege. As a child I had a good education and opportunities and I accept that is probably classed as ‘privileged.’ But I don’t think that overall my adult life is, I think it’s pretty standard.

Had 50k towards house deposit (everyone I know had had financial support to buy a house)

Gifted 2k to 3k a year (again over birthday and Christmas etc this would seem usual to my friends)

DD has (small) house on trust from grandparents. I only know one other family who haven’t been in a position to make some provision for their grandchildren, not necessarily a house but cash etc

Earnings 71k, again this is of course not a low amount but in terms of household income it’s not a lot these days.

So let's run through this again.
£50k house deposit
£2-3k per year
"Small house" in trust for DD

Any one of those would put you in a privileged position.

A question: what would you have to receive in order to think you are privileged and not average?

Another question: what do you think average looks like?

You live in a bubble! Not one person I know has had that life or earns 70k a year infact!

@TheHouse posted on her for perspective. Mumsnet has become very hostile of late

you MUST know you are privileged when there are many news stories, social media posts and posts on Mumsnet of people who can’t pay their bills, are worried about the price of petrol, are losing jobs and are on the poverty line.

It’s the reality check you deserve

@TeaAndSymumthy

LOL at your comment. Just spat my drink out 😂.

I don’t think it’s ‘average’. I hate to think what you would describe my average tbh.

I am very privileged but I see, read and know enough to understand that being gifted houses is not normal under any circumstances.

you need to wake up and look beyond your own nose - honestly you sound thick as mud

🙄

Everyone I know had financial support to buy a house.

Are you taking the piss?

Are you for real?

@BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation I guess because wider family members and one friend were bought houses outright. Many people I know are bought cars or gifted holidays (5k a time for skiing for example). So while I know I’ve had it easy it doesn’t scream privileged to me

If it makes you feel any better OP, compared to me you are an absolute povvo. £71k salary wouldn't even cover my bog roll.

@LauraJaneGrace no. I don’t know anyone, literally, who hasn’t had some sort of help. How else do people magically have a house deposit??

I have no words - do try to live outside of your bubble.

@Dentalmum2 😬 lucky dog!

edited this to say I thought you’d said dog bog roll not just bog roll. Not calling you a dog!

Wanna swap for disability benefits op? Fuck me the delulu

They work and save for their deposits. I know, fucking mental right?? 😂😂

I'm not privileged at all, I'm merely scraping by.

@TheHouse ?? It’s a well known fact people can’t save for deposits as rent is so high

You are definitely privileged

Now I definitely think you’re taking the piss. They WORK for them?!?!

I agree OP- in my circle this wouldn’t be counted as privileged… but for the majority, perhaps.

You know what? No, they’re not.

The average salary in the UK is £40k. Do you really think it’s average to be gifted well over the average person’s annual income? Your income is considerably above average.

Read the papers occasionally. Just because your experience is representative of your social circle’s experience does not mean it is representative of the country.

Median salary for adults in the UK is around £38k
You earn £70k.

You are not average.