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Do I look overweight?

226 replies

ZippyLimeBear · 05/04/2026 19:30

Do I look overweight? I’m the one in grey. I’ve had two kids and I think I might have let my weight run away with me, but as a typical woman I want to know if I’m being over critical? Please be honest

Do I look overweight?
OP posts:
AquaLeader · 05/04/2026 21:44

It's neither here nor there what posters here think. Would you approach a random stranger in the supermarket to ask their opinion?

You have measured your BMI, and it sounds fine. The important part is to keep it this way.

In addition, it is always a good idea to check the following:

https://www.nhs.uk/health-assessment-tools/calculate-your-waist-to-height-ratio/how-to-measure-your-waist

nhs.uk

Check how to measure your waist correctly - Calculate your waist to height ratio - NHS

Check your waist to height ratio to find out if you’re carrying too much fat around your tummy.

https://www.nhs.uk/health-assessment-tools/calculate-your-waist-to-height-ratio/how-to-measure-your-waist

Artything · 05/04/2026 21:48

You are curvy at the top, I would kill for your legs. I do not think you look overweight but not slim/thin.

Woman next to you is slim/thin, man next to you is heading overweight.

But yes you have legs to die for Grin

Dodorogers · 05/04/2026 21:51

ZippyLimeBear · 05/04/2026 19:30

Do I look overweight? I’m the one in grey. I’ve had two kids and I think I might have let my weight run away with me, but as a typical woman I want to know if I’m being over critical? Please be honest

Please ignore anyone on here telling you you look overweight. If you are happy and comfortable it doesn’t matter.

Huskysf · 05/04/2026 21:51

ZippyLimeBear · 05/04/2026 19:30

Do I look overweight? I’m the one in grey. I’ve had two kids and I think I might have let my weight run away with me, but as a typical woman I want to know if I’m being over critical? Please be honest

You look normal to me.

Dodorogers · 05/04/2026 21:52

ZippyLimeBear · 05/04/2026 19:40

I think I’m the top end of normal, good spot! But I’ve been a size 10 my whole life but now wear a size 12, prob need to do something about it if it bothers me. I really appreciate the honest but kind replies

you are a size twelve now cos youve had kids and are older, if you are happy please don’t worry. This is such a problematic thread

writingsonthewall · 05/04/2026 21:56

You look great, although could prob lose 10-14lb and feel better and still be well within normal bmi

crawlingovertheline · 05/04/2026 21:58

Not at all - be kinder to yourself.

Smarvellous · 05/04/2026 22:01

ZippyLimeBear · 05/04/2026 19:40

I think I’m the top end of normal, good spot! But I’ve been a size 10 my whole life but now wear a size 12, prob need to do something about it if it bothers me. I really appreciate the honest but kind replies

You really don't need to do anything drastic! You look a perfectly healthy weight to me, slightly curvy and all in good proportion! You certainly don't "need" to lose weight, but I guess if you've gained then you might want to check why that is is so you don't keep going on that trajectory, that's all.

WorryWife · 05/04/2026 22:03

My BMI is 20 and I can judge from the way I look. I think you look amazing and, no you are not even close to overweight. If you feel uncomfortable that’s another thing and it’s probably worth looking at options, but no you are definitely not overweight.

FoolOfShips · 05/04/2026 22:08

No.

localnotail · 05/04/2026 22:09

I know a lot of people would say you look fine , OP (and you do) but if you are asking, it means you are worried and you say you went from size 10 to 12. I think even though you look lovely you need to take measures to lose the extra weight and make sure not to gain more - and not convince yourself its fine as you still look good.

This is based on my personal experience. I was size 8-10, then 12, then 14 - and I thought oh well, I look good, I'm healthy, its not a problem. Until it was a problem, and now I'm obese and on MJ trying to undo the damage lack of attention to what I eat, antidepressants, menopause and stress done to my body.

Aphroditesangel · 05/04/2026 22:11

check your bmi. You look like you could lose half a stone but no more but photos always add pounds so BMI is your best bet

Cherrycola4 · 05/04/2026 22:13

You look slim and a perfect healthy weight.

G5000 · 05/04/2026 22:13

Please ignore anyone on here telling you you look overweight.

she literally asked people that..bit weird to start an entire thread and ignore all opinions that are not flattering.

mixandmatch · 05/04/2026 22:14

You look very similar to me - I am about 5 ft 4 and 10 stone 4. Is that right? If so, you are (like me) at the higher end of a healthy weight but not overweight. I look and feel my best at about 9.12

ThatWaryLimePeer · 05/04/2026 22:18

A little bit overweight.

Pippa12 · 05/04/2026 22:18

If yourooking at the BMI scale, you’re likely ‘over weight’. Ludicrous.

I think it comes down to what you feel comfortable with. I’m short (5ft) and because of this I keep my weight in check as it quickly shows on me. I like being a size 8, 10 at the most. I follow slimming world and go to the gym 2/3 times a week. I’m not really interested what other people think, what drive me is how my jeans fit and feeling comfortable in a costume.

Decide if you feel comfortable, and if not do something about it ignoring people’s opinion!

Tacohill · 05/04/2026 22:19

No not at all.

You’ll look back in a couple of years time and think you were mad to even think that.

I’m surprised there’s been no jealous posters saying you look overweight, there usually is even on pictures of women who are underweight.

Malinia · 05/04/2026 22:19

Hard to tell in that outfit. Probably officially by BMI yes, but you look good and I wouldn't look at you and think "overweight".

Sooose · 05/04/2026 22:20

Well I think you look fine! But only you can know if you prefer to be lighter, how much effort it will take to get there and whether that is worth it.

spikey34 · 05/04/2026 22:26

You don’t look overweight. Do you feel differently to what you do normally? You have to be comfortable in your own body, are you?

Dodorogers · 05/04/2026 22:32

G5000 · 05/04/2026 22:13

Please ignore anyone on here telling you you look overweight.

she literally asked people that..bit weird to start an entire thread and ignore all opinions that are not flattering.

It is so fucking toxic

ThatWhiteElephant · 05/04/2026 22:32

Honestly, you look great to me!

ExitPursuedByABare · 05/04/2026 22:34

Feel like I’ve stepped into a parallel universe.

I would never in a month of Sundays say you were even approaching overweight.

Namechangedforthis25 · 05/04/2026 22:35

I wasn’t expecting to see your physique when I clicked on this post

you don’t look overweight at all and you look good to me

but if you feel you are heavier than your norm then thats another thing