I had to go for a pelvic ultrasound the other week, internal and external and when I got to the ultrasound department it was really busy, lots of women waiting to be seen etc.
Everytime a woman got called into the room it was a male technician who came out, called the woman’s name and introduced himself as the “assistant technician” before taking the woman into the room.
It instantly made me feel uncomfortable just knowing he’d be in there, never mind not knowing who else was going to be in there, and I do wonder if any other women in the waiting room felt the same.
When he called me in he escorted me over to the chair/bed that I’d be lying on (complete with stirrups) and introduced me to the woman who would be doing the scan. I was relieved there was a female in the room but I still felt really uncomfortable.
I had the external scan done first but it was the man who came over whilst I was lying down and told me to lift my top and undo the top of my jeans and handed me some of that blue tissue roll to tuck down rhe inside of my knickers/jeans in order to give me some more dignity 🙄
When the woman came over to do the scan the guy was just sitting in the corner of the room watching us. He obviously wasn’t doing anything untoward but it felt so uncomfortable.
They then both went to the opposite end of the room and pulled a curtain across me whilst I took my jeans and underwear off and covered myself up with some more of that tissue ready for the internal scan.
They both then re-appeared and again, although the woman was doing the scan the guy was still sitting in an area of the room where he could see me and I felt so uncomfortable. He was just sitting there watching us. The angle he was at meant he couldn’t see the screen, so he wasn’t there as as a learning opportunity as the woman doing the scan wasn’t even talking to him, but just knowing he was sitting there looking at me having it done felt awful.
There was no reason why he couldn’t have just stayed on the other side of the room behind the curtain so I would feel like I at least had some dignity. I don’t even know why he was there.
The whole thing just felt really off.
I was in there for about 20-25 minutes and he didn’t play any role except instruct me on how to lift my top and pull my trousers down, and then sit and watch me have it done from the other side of the room.
Like I said, he didn’t technically do anything wrong…. but it was a room that was solely set up for pelvic ultrasounds, and what all the women in the waiting room were waiting to have done, so you’d think a bit of sensitivity would be had and that if an assistant was a requirement, they’d at least find another female member of staff, rather than have a waiting room full of anxious women who knew a man would be present, and then women feeling vulnerable during a procedure that is already uncomfortable enough ☹️
I guess my point is that even having a man in the room is bad enough for some women, never mind one actually doing the care whilst pretending to be a woman.