Is there now a lack of personal responsibility?

[niknak1234]

Is there now a lack of personal responsibility?

Another thread inspired me to ask this question.

Now don't get me wrong there have been events over the last few years that have increased the cost of living. COVID, Truss budget, Ukraine/Russia, Iran etc.

Now I am by no means denying they haven't had a big impact, but are people using them to avoid failings in their lives?

I’m bored. I have no idea what this woman is like!

I don't like judgemental people who jump to conclusions about people and things they know nothing about .

What is wrong with renting?

What a weird outlook on life.

Of course and that's why I said genuine cases. It's positive that these types of situation are absolutely held accountable. Unfortunately there are too many people who threaten to leave bad reviews and 'sue' because they can.

You don’t think people should pay their own way in life? Why not? And if not who should pay?

You spelled prejudiced wrong.

I rent a very nice house in a posh area- way more than many pay on mortgage and it’s for all kinds of reasons - I can quite assure you I have the worry of paying the rent - just as much as I would a mortgage as we are reasonably high earners so entitled to zilch - do not presume everyone renting is claiming benefits - vast amounts aren’t - circumstances can make it necessary in certain parts of the country- high house prices, self employment, divorce, a previous business failure, choice to live in an area and house you like etc etc -

The woman sits and plays on her phone at work and blames her adhd!

What is wrong with renting?

I wouldn't do that. One of the great things about being a temp is you get to walk away. I'm just there to do my job to the best of my ability, get paid and leave when the contract is over.

She's not an unpleasant person. She's certainly chatty!

Of course not everyone renting is on benefits. Where did I say they were? I said it was easier to play the system for a longer period of time if you rent.

What do you think the first two letters of ADHD mean?

Everyone has phones now. Before then, she would be doodling or fiddling.

Unlike you I enjoyed reading this post and found it insightful.
Disempowerment is similar to having a lack of personal responsibility.
The poster isn’t criticising anyone, they’re sympathising with the villagers’ situation.

I know exactly what it stands for as I suffer myself. It’s not an excuse not to complete the work I’m paid to do. I imagine the 28 children I teach would have something to say as would their parents if I casually sat at my desk and played on my phone because you know ‘adhd ‘! Might try it after the Easter holidays! What do you think would happen ?

Ah, you paid for a diagnosis then.

I have ADHD (apparently) and what is very clear is that people experience it differently and have different issues. I cannot comment upon you or this other lady you are referring to, but there are things I struggle with that someone else won’t and vice versa, it’s not a one size fits all which is why it’s so complicated.

I agree with that - there were lots of people having big families, council houses and claiming at various points too - one big difference is there were lots of council houses to be had meaning any subsidies were moderate - these days the state is having to pay high amounts to people to pay private landlords/ but to let merchants ( outside of very cheap areas) to keep many people housed at all-

I did not! Many years of poor mental health. Being the black sheep of the family. Troubled teenage years and wanting to die. Severe Post natal depression finally got me the help I needed. Any other questions ?

Assumptions hurt, don't they.

Yes. What is wrong with renting?

The difference is I continue to do the job I’m paid to do. This lady does not ! Nothing wrong with renting as long as you pay your own rent.

Indeed - my 27 year old son hasADHD, medically diagnosed at 20, although in all fairness he did have some aspects that were somewhat odd when much younger- he works full time in tech, is fantastic with clients and is known as a seriously hard worker . However a couple of times in the 11 years he’s worked he has needed 4 days off as became mentally overwhelmed - he’s a very deep thinker , definitely not lazy ,

No, you made a load of assumptions about the lady in the PP, and then got in a strop when I made one about you.
Double standards.

The lady in the PP could well have had the same background that led to her diagnosis as you.

She could indeed. Why does she not do the work she is paid to do ?

Do you think I could sit and play on my phone too in full view of a class of 9 year olds? And if not why not ?

What job does she do?