AIBU to help renovate my father’s bungalow instead of school pick-up?

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Just looking for some perspective.

My Father has allowed us to live in his main residence as they are downsizing to a bungalow. This will be rent free, but the bungalow requires a lot of work.

I am the sole worker, my partner is a stay at home parent to 4 children.

I work 50 hours a week, outside of work I also run our children to all their out of school activities as my partner does not drive.

I took two days off this week to help with the renovation, the way I see it is they are giving us an amazing opportunity and I will help where i can.

My partner has complained and told me my priorities are wrong because I won't pick our children up from school these two days, which would of been their pickups anyway because of work.

So mumsnet, are my priorities skewed? AIBU?

I didn't think OP stated whether they/their partner was a man or a woman? Will re-read it.
But either way, if one partner doesn't work, I would think it was fair enough for them to do pick ups (medical/other needs aside, obviously).
If the renovations are helping your entire family, as you say OP, it seems totally reasonable. The only thing I could think of is does your partner feel they don't get enough time with their parents/helping their parents, or feel things are one-sided? Not saying that's the case, especially if your dad is doing this for you all, but just in case your partner feels this way, as their reaction seems strange to me?

SAHP needs to get off their arse...

Partner is taking the piss

'Sexes' refers to the plural of sex. i.e. each person's sex in this situation.

And it's relevant for many reasons. You can Google studies. Men report doing more housework than they actually do. Women do more housework than men by almost every measure. Regardless of who works. The politics of family relationships are different regarding ILs. Childcare is often the most unbalanced.

And lastly, men who come to MN to get women to tell their wife she's wrong are scum. It does happen. 'I posted on your mum site and they all agree with me too'. There is the 99% of the internet that agrees with and cossets men, like Reddit etc. Go there. Coming here and doing it is a specific thing. It means something. And that is often using women. You see it when men don't like the answers on here. Quickly turns into 'you bitches hate men'. They don't want to be challenged and informed and stretched. They want to be agreed with.

MN doesn't hate men. Firstly, it's equally hard on women! Secondly, there are lovely men on here. Ones who listen and think, and post mindfully, and respect the wealth of knowledge and intelligence. My DH doesn't post but he will often ask, "what does MN think about Iran/green energy/quantum computing?" Because he thinks that the standard of debate here often far exceeds the reckons of dudebros on Reddit. And third, we don't hate men, we hate arseholes. Not our fault so many men are arseholes. Mine isn't. Many aren't. We like those ones.

They are prioritising securing a home and providing for their family - not spaffing it away having fun on the golf course

What is more important than providing a safe secure home to live in

YANBU to spend your day off in when you are all benefiting from such a generous offer. If your partners that put about by the school run is offer to switch. You drop them off at the house for the day so they can renovate and you can do the school run and whatever else they planned to do that day.

Still want to know why the partner is not also helping to renovate the bungalow. Even if they just hand tools when needed and help clean up they should be there to help. If they are able to do more than that OP maybe wouldnt need to spend their time off helping.