AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

The stuff about choking always boggles my mind : lollipops, grapes, mini eggs.... Kids can eat anything as long as you weaned them on real food, not slop, and don't hover or interfere with their confidence or concentration.

And families can and should also kiss and cuddle babies!!

As someone who choked on a black bullet as a child and nearly died, I think you need to have stern words with her, mini eggs are a dreadful choking risk. As an ex nursery chef this sends shudders up my spine. Mini eggs are the exact size (like whole grapes) to completely block the child's windpipe.

Thanks for this and the other PP. I’ve not thought about it in this way before and perhaps do use a little too much cotton wool.

You should ask your mum how did she feel when other people looking after her children when young repeatedly ignored parental wishes? It may make her listen.

And perhaps tell her that mini eggs are not your child's favourite, however buttons eggs are the ones she likes the most and if really want to spoil her grandchild then buttons all the way!

Does she know you think she'll choke?
I suspect you both need therapy.

Why are children so anxious?

I do still think your DM should do as you ask. It’s not her place to decide what’s safe for your kids.

Did you have 7 year olds at nursery?

nursery aged children I can understand (under 5). But the o/p’s dd is 7!

When my youngest dd was about 6 she started choking on a piece of stringy cheese on a pizza! Thankfully it hadn’t gone the whole way down and I was able to just pull it out! People can choke on anything!

Obviously not! But does a child's windpipe increase tenfold in two years?? I was 8 when I choked, I'll never forget it . Personally I'd rather be safe than sorry!!!

You are being ott in my opinion but she is your child. Your mother should listen to you, if you were my friend/sister I would listen regardless of my personal opinion.

She knows that certain foods are more of a choking risk than others, yes. I would think that’s quite a sensible thing for a child to be told. She doesn’t “know I think she’ll choke” as I don’t think she will. It’s a small risk that could eventuate.

It’s the goi f against yoir wishes. You could tell her you don’t want her to eat strawberries as you don’t think she could eat Red food, and she shouldn’t be then giving her strawberries every visit.

I don’t want to cause alarm but Marks & Spencer mini eggs (which are far superior) are quite a bit larger than Cadbury’s mini eggs.

Out HV has advised grapes cut until 8 as they had a recent death in that age. I would srill split mini eggs

The M&S Speckled Eggs are quite big, size of a grape. I bite them in half (sometimes the other half gets stuck in my mouth…)

The people being all blasé about choking risks obviously haven’t watched both their DC nearly choke to death on seemingly safe foods as I have. Mini eggs are definitely a choking risk but I agree children do need to learn to bite food in half. Also a lot of people don’t realise that popcorn like marshmallows is a significant risk especially to under 5s.

I don’t think how you weaned your child has anything to do with how they might choke on something at the age of 7.

Mini eggs, whole grapes, hotdogs and marshmallows in particular are easily able to get lodged in the throat and due to the size and shape are extremely difficult to dislodge once there.

Lidl's Mister mini eggs are also good. Cadbury's have never been the same since they got rid of the brown ones, and continued cheapening the chocolate.

On icecream- actually delicious!!!

Agreed!

Mini-eggs ARE fine for a 7 year old without additional needs, but what is NOT fine is for the OP’s mum to repeatedly ignore her specific request not to give them to her DD.

OP reading your replies, you seem like a really nice person.

Agreed, like a mini egg version of a hot fudge sundae, 😋

Totally hear you on this one. I still hate mini eggs for that reason and fact is, they are the lethal shape and size. Round lollipops, hate them… grapes, thankfully my kids don’t like them, hot dogs, too processed for my liking. Choking hazard is real, anyone can call me crazy if they want.

I'm cringing for you. Seriously.