AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

Well I would listen to people who have actually taken the time to answer you, the poll is neither here nor there.

She should listen to you yes.

FWIW I think your mum is being unreasonable if there's only one thing you've said she can't have, so she has a world of Easter/chocolate treats to choose from and basically exclusively chosen things that include mini eggs. What did she say when you raised it?

I read the replies as saying it's probably OK to give a 7 year old mini eggs, but if you have a boundary, regardless of what it is, then it's unreasonable if your mum to ignore it.

It’s like your mum is on a mini egg vendetta. Is she going there for childcare reasons?

I would just get her to warm up the mini eggs for about 15seconds in the microwave if she does give them to her.... Middle is gooey and less if a choking hazard....
Also warm mini eggs are amazing!!! And I think they are a choking hazard even for adults ..

Well you phrased it confusingly. Is YANBU “mini eggs are a hazard” or is it “in any event your mum should listen to you” because most people are just voting YABU if they do not agree Mini eggs are a hazard…

If I'm the one preparing the grapes, they're being quartered. At the age at which my child can wash and prepare themselves a bowl of grapes, they can eat them how they want, but I'll still be nervous about them eating them. Mothers are allowed to put measures in place to help protect their children from choking to death and no amount of smug shittiness from any other person on the face of the earth or even god almighty himself would stop me putting my child's safety first. Hth.

You could ask your mum to chop up the mini eggs, but ultimately if she doesn’t listen to you then you can’t leave your DD alone with her.

The packet says not suitable for children under 4. So I wouldn’t have any issue with it. But you do. Your mum is wrong for going against your wishes even if your mum doesn’t think they are valid. It’s not the point.

It’s important to teach children to chew and swallow foods and eat in a non-distracted way. My youngest is ten and I haven’t cut things for years as it hasn’t been needed. They know how to eat it.

my older child did choke on bacon rind, that was grim more than anything else.

And I, a proper adult, choked on a cold sweet and sour chicken ball alone on Sunday morning. I was lucky that it had gone down far enough that it just didn’t block my airway. I eventually threw up and dislodged it, but it was agony. Not the first time. Last time I took a swig of coke to try and move it. That was a disaster and I had to get that back out quickly.

She’s 7 though. Much bigger, the trachea will be bigger and mini eggs won’t be big enough to block the airway.

o/p is unreasonable not letting her dd have mini eggs due to a choking risk.

if she’s said to her mum not to give mini eggs then mum should respect that. If she’s said not to give them because of the choking risk specifically, then I can see why mum still gives them, because they aren’t a choking risk for a 7 year old.

I'm with you, and surprised with the comments! I have a 7 & 5 year old and whole grapes and mini eggs make me very nervous and are a no-no. If they have mini eggs, I bash them up with a rolling pin. The microwave suggestion above is good though! I'll continue for however long I like - you can choke at any age and I'd rather stick to my guns for a few years "too long" than have a choking accident

People can choke at any age….should all solid food be banned and everyone exist on a liquid diet?

Not confused here.

Quite. I think this is absurd.

Some spectacular missing of the point on this thread.

Your thoughts about the safety or otherwise of mini eggs isn’t the issue.

The issue is OP has given an instruction to another adult not give her child a particular type of food. Despite this, the other adult has ignored that instruction.

It’s disrespectful and arrogant of the other adult, and OP isn’t unreasonable.

Your Mum should listen to you !
I will not allow my granddaughter grapes,mini eggs ,cherry tomatoes if she is with me . She is aged 6 . I choked on a grape in my 20s and my work colleague had to give me abdominal thrust. It was absolutely terrifying and I have been quite traumatised by it . Luckily I had just qualified as a nurse so I was surrounded by knowledgeable people.

Marshmallows are the worst for potential choking. The stickiness means they get stuck, and they also expand with saliva, so it’s difficult to remove them with the usual methods.

YANBU. Choking makes me nervous. But at the same time you can’t restrict these things forever. at 7 I’d say to begin letting her have them if she eats them sensibly.

Whilst I don't think the OP is BU to be annoyed at having her wishes dismissed I'd love to know what age her DD will be deemed safe to eat Mini Eggs. 12? 32? 78?

Well she asks two questions in one, so one answer might not apply to both parts of the questions.

Which is why you dont pay attention to the poll if you do that.

Obviously your mum should do as you've asked, but what caught my attention was all the bloody food. Is every visit by her predicated on sweets and chocolate? Or are these egg examples? If the former, that's what I'd be paying attention to.

I burnt my mouth quite badly on a toasted marshmallow - doesn't that concern you if you're toasting them to such a degree?

Your mum should listen, no matter how batshit she thinks you are.

But at 7yo she should know to bite things like mini eggs, tomatoes, grape, banana rounds, sausage etc. Otherwise when do they become safe?

I know! Why is she having all of these mini eggs? It’s not even Easter for a start.

Anyone should respect the parents and listen to their rules, even if they are a bit surprising to them. I think it’s bizarre your mum has found quite so many options for mini eggs - is she doing it on purpose? Personally I’d think a mini egg on its own is far less risky than one in or on something else as you can bite it right away, but there’s no need to purposefully do something to make a parent anxious. Is this the only time she’s like this or is your mum generally dismissive of your parenting choices?

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable but I am absolutely terrified of mini eggs because you hear so many horror stories about them and I am generally very overly anxious about my children choking anyway😳