AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

Sorry what. Lots of people have said the same thing - don't bother picking my posts out.

All snittiness aside, I have to say, I have not ever come across this among any of my family or friends. My mum won’t even accept money to reimburse her for expenses and so I would be surprised if she wanted to make it a more commercial arrangement by paying for her services. I could ask, of course, which I admit I haven’t but I actually think she would be quite offended if I offered.

Sorry, you’ve posted 9 times on this thread this evening alone and so I presumed you wanted me to bite.

Sorry what?

That's good for you. Maybe some parents would welcome the money. Also. You're quite right that I posted 9 times tonight - but most of the posts I made were in response to other people. Not you. I didn't realise there was a limit on how often you could post before someone chinned you and not other people who I posted

I cease to care with your snippy snippy posts

I almost lost my mum 8 years ago from an aggressive cancer. Hopefully you'll sort things out with yours even if your mum doesn't watch your kids again

Don't go in on me for saying things other people have said. I don't appreciate it. Unwatching.

Don't post too much folks! You'll get the snippy folk out in abundance telling you you've dared post too much and you want people to bite. I don't post anything on here to get people to bite - hope that helps.

I’m sorry for your loss 💐

Your mum childminds your kid for nothing and you are slagging her off all over the Internet over mini eggs. Well I'll tell you something. When my gran watched me and my brother so she could work, after school - she appreciated it. She didn't come with a list of conditions

Anyway who cares. I've got much better things to do right now

I think at 7 your child should know how to chew food properly!! If she doesn’t then it’s about time you had this discussion and tell her that large sweets, grapes etc need to be chewed and not swallowed whole!

However if you’re setting a rule or boundary, however daft it is - the grandparents should respect it!

What do you get out of being this rude? Being cautious over their child’s well being. What happened to parents supporting each other

I wouldn’t be a fan of this, but more for the amount of shite she seems to be giving your child the mini eggs specifically aged seven!

As others have said, have you explained to her that this is a hard no for you?
If you have then it’s time to ask what else she might be doing against your wishes or what she might do in the future as your child goes through her teens?

I choked on a malteaser when in my 40s!

Do you let her have popcorn? Far more dangerous than mini eggs. Popcorn can expand when it gets moist in the throat and is of such irregular shape it is extremely dangerous.

Mini eggs are dangerous !!

like grapes olives blueberries and any small perfectly round item that becomes slippery when covered in saliva and can perfectly occlude a child’s airway !!

DO NOT GIVE THEM TO CHILDREN

Im the same, I don't want my child to have lollipops or marshmallows either. The amount of people that hand them out to her, before I can say no or stop them. I work in critical care and see far too many adults choking on these its unreal

So many people stating it’s fine for a 7 year old. Is it? Does it state that somewhere? Have you met the OPs daughter and able to confirm that she’s not small for her age and therefore doesn’t run the same risk as a 4/5 year old.
Im stunned by the amount of people who have just dismissed the choking potential.
My DD is 8. I don’t let her have them. There a million other sources of chocolate and sweets. Why risk it??

Have you shown your mum an xray of a child with a grape in their trachea? It doesn't need to be a "this is why I don't want it" but could be "this popped up on facebook" or some other way of slipping in to the conversation. She then might understand why you don't want them given to your child.

But as others have said it might be time to teach your child how to cope. I read something on FB earlier about safe and more dangerous sweets around at Easter but my main takeaway was their point that teaching your child to stay still while eating is a good lesson as other sweets are given at parties etc where children move a lot so are more likely to inhale

Its under three that choking hazards refer to.

Oh,please. So ALL ages can't have anything small to eat on the tiny chance they may choke!!!
Get back in your cage

8?
I would think at this age that if you don't allow her to eat anything small and round- grapes, nuts, sausages, raw carrots, cherry tomatoes, popcorn, marshmallows, nuts, M&Ms etc. then you are beginning to seriously impact her experience with these shaped foods and she might then be at greater risk of choking than other children her age as you are delaying her oral development.

Your child is 7, doesn't she know how to eat? The likelyhood of her choking on a mini egg is slim to none. Also, chocolates soften in the mouth, some even melt. I'm sure your daughter will be fine. Remember that your mother was one before you and you turned out fine. Your daughter is no longer a baby or a toddler, it's fine just tell her not to stuff her mouth.

If you asked your Mother not to give your child butter then she should not give your child butter, it’s as simple as that. It does seem as if you’ve said “I’d rather you didn’t” rather than a firm “No” I too am paranoid about choking, my Grandson is 9 and I still cut his grapes in half 🤷‍♀️🤣

It's your child, your rules. That said, at 7 I would say the risk of choking is massively reduced so not worth the anxiety or stress of worrying about. Maybe teach everyone (kids too) what to do if choking so you feel less worried about it and everyone gets more awareness

Hang on, where exactly did I say people of all ages can’t have anything small in case they choke?!

I pointed out that people with teeth can choke. This remains true whether I’m in a cage or not.

I'm exactly the same about choking hazards . I'm a nana and worry about this kind of thing with my GC . Grapes mini eggs hard sweets etc. I can't understand why your mum is ignoring you.